Tried other sites? My experience

Atomic Sagebrush....Thanks for the time you took to respond. I agree with your observation....I sometimes regret ever making myself sick over this with the computer. It is all too consuming. And I should be enjoying this easy pregnacy and magical 2.5 year old girl. I am just dreading my own feelings of disappointment before even knowing the gender of this second child. I hope I don't go into some deep depression or anything. Just the fear of the unknown. Thank s again, I will sleep better actually, thanks :)

I completely understand Cherie!! Wishing you the very best of luck, and if you do end up feeling sad in a week then please come join us in the Gender Disappointment forums because we have all been there! :)

i have one other question...in addission to the thanks and how much i appreciate your words atomic sagebrush!....You mentioned 13 week potty shots are not so reliable. I have heard this before.....my question is why then do some look like total weiners and some are hard to make out and some even look this three lines already....doesnt that mean the are 'deteriminable" in a way? just confusing. Like can it look flat and then a few weeks later just turn into a penis that protrudes??

I think it's because the baby's bits could either be a penis or swollen lady bits xx

(apologies for "graphic" terminology)

Up until about 11 weeks, the penis and clitoris are the exact same in both boys and girls. They are identical and no one could tell them apart because they're the exact same structure. About 11 weeks, boys start to make testosterone and it is testosterone that causes that structure to turn into a penis, and for the ovaries to move down into the scrotum and become testicles. This process takes time and for much of that time period, the difference between the developing labia/vagina/clitoris and the boy bits are indistinguishable. By late in the 12th week and then into the 13th, you can start to see the differences but they aren't visible from the bottom, things still look pretty similar from that viewpoint at that stage of development. only from the side can you tell anything reliably at that point of gestation.

I can tell you what my very understanding uls tech told me at my DD 13 week scan. Keep in mind this is just her opinion but she had been doing this for a long long time. She said at 13 weeks she prefers to look at a potty shot. She said if it is a boy that you can usually see boy parts. She then looked at my DD and didn't see any "boy parts". What we did see though was 3 dots. Now that was just MY experience.

I have also seen some 15 week uls that looked like they were boy parts and turned out it was swollen girl parts. Take a look on page 6 of this post... scroll down, second to last post on that page. This person ended up having a girl!!

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/ultr...g-13w2d-6.html

The bottom line is 13 week potty shot or nub is just a guess. It isn't set in stone. My thoughts on it are if you are going to get your hopes up or be crushed by a nub or 13 week potty shot you are better of not looking at all. I had a 15 week uls done that I paid for (and the uls tech was amazing) and he guaranteed the gender. He also spent about 30 minutes getting the perfect potty shot before he told us that she was a girl. He also prided himself on not ever being wrong once he called the gender. He told us that he isn't always able to tell at 15 weeks but if he couldn't say for sure we could come back at no charge.

I hope you are okay and you will find out soon. Don't stress too much... it isn't good for the baby.

Thought I would stop by one last time, before tomorrow which is my 19 week scan. I have never felt so many emotions. I just worry I will be so depressed if it turns out that I am carrying a girl. I just pray fro a boy so bad. I wonder if I will ever be truly happy if its not a boy for me. I need this. Too much bad has happened to me quite frankly :)

Good luck for tomorrow hope you see your little man on the screen xx

sending you a ton of blue dust!!

Thanks :) I just read a post I had not read from Atomic Sagebrush about the potty shot etc etc....every bit of info helps. Although sometimes I wish I did not know all this now..its enough to drive a woman crazy. I do hope to have a good day, I was up all night crying , so sad we put this much pressure on ourselves when all we really want is to have that family we envision in our minds as little girls. But so be it, and the feelings are strong . Its a battle we kind of fight inside, because no matter what great husband you have, they dont fully get it. My husband was baffled last night, only thinking of what a great day today would be when we see our baby again on that screen. I wish I had his optimism and utter joy in just the fact that its a human life :) But still I have to recognize my wants and fears no matter how silly they may seem in the whole picture.