Vent: lost it at DH today!

I am so sorry you don't feel appreciated at home. That isn't fun at all. DH and I have had our go arounds about this same subject at times although I do think he appreciates me... just has a hard time showing it and takes advantage of the fact that I do and can take care of everything. He has never thrown being a stay at home Mom in my face. He knows that he would have to do more around the house which he doesn't want to do.

When I was about 6 months pregnant with DD1 I remember DH had invited his friends (with two kids) to come and stay with us for a couple of days. Of coarse the house was a mess and I just didn't have the energy it would take to clean everything to get it ready for guests in a day. I knew he wouldn't help me as much as I needed him to and we got into an argument and I was so upset that I just left and stayed in a hotel for the night. Told him I wasn't coming home until after his friends left. He managed to clean the house all by himself and was calling me every 30 minutes begging me to come home. He has actually been a little more helpful since then.

I thin you should go on strike for a weekend. Go stay somewhere and let him do it all by himself.

You should leave him with the kids more often. My husband wouldn't dare say something like that to my face but there has been times where I know he thinks I might have it easy because the house is always clean and the kids are happy when he comes home from work. I'll leave him with the girls for the day every other Sunday to run my errands and go food shopping and he's always super grateful for me when I get home! It works like a charm!

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Originally Posted by WantingPink

When I was about 6 months pregnant with DD1 I remember DH had invited his friends (with two kids) to come and stay with us for a couple of days. Of coarse the house was a mess and I just didn't have the energy it would take to clean everything to get it ready for guests in a day. I knew he wouldn't help me as much as I needed him to and we got into an argument and I was so upset that I just left and stayed in a hotel for the night. Told him I wasn't coming home until after his friends left. He managed to clean the house all by himself and was calling me every 30 minutes begging me to come home. He has actually been a little more helpful since then.

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:cheer: Good for you!!!

I doubt this will help Mum but I read this article and ended up crying I was laughing so hard. Maybe it will make you laugh too.
Apology To All Stay At Home Moms | Daddy Fishkins

Haha!! Love that article, thanks for posting. It sounds like my house but I have double that, plus all their activities and drops offs and pick ups (including DH). Lol! DH really has no idea, and couldn't do it! He can't handle an hour with a couple of the kids if I do go out (always with at least half the kids)!

I picked him up from work last night at 7, he came home had dinner and went back to work (cause he wanted to!) and was there til 4am!! So now he has today off to sleep all day!!! He probably had more sleep than me, as after getting all the kids to bed, cleaning up, spending 5 mins with DS2, dealing with DS1 who has man flu, doing the cleaning up, several loads of washing, feeding all the pets and having a hot choc...I finally got to bed only for DS5 to wake up wanting a drink and needing to go to the toilet, then coming in my bed. Then DS6 waking up several times screaming and also coming in my bed, the cats were up and down and up and down and then once deciding to sleep on my bed, were getting cranky every time I moved....then they all finally fell asleep and DH walked in making so much noise, waking everyone up so it all started again and he went to bed! He then slept whilst I had DS5 and 6 all over me, the cats at my feet, and couldn't sleep anyway cause I was now cross at DH! 3hrs later I was up making breakfasts and lunches, getting all the kids ready, changing and dressing DS6, cleaning up the mess from their breakfast, feeding the meowing cats, making sure everyone had the right uniform, their homework, their readers, lunches, drinks, hats, shoes on!! Fought with DS5 about what he was having for breakfast and then getting everyone out and in the car on time for the several different school drop offs!

Now I'm home, spending 5 mins having a coffee, cleaning up a mug DS6 just broke on our tiles, taking the bins out before the truck comes and making DS5 & 6 morning tea. Still have to clean out the cat litter, do more washing and hang it out, fold up the dry washing, clean the kitchen again...all before it's time to get their lunch.

And DH shuts our bedroom door so he can sleep, muttering some rubbish about the kids making noise!! 😠😠

Whilst cleaning out the cat litter DS6 decided to undress himself and empty out the Tupperware drawer!! 😜

OMG, that is insane Mumofsix! Your hubby really needs to wake up to what is going on around him! I wish I lived closer to help you out.

I'm sorry Hun. My dad never appreciated my mom and she got real tired of it and left him when I was 8 years old. He was cheating and abusive too though. But I hope you're feeling better and if you ever need to chat I'm here. Hold your head up sweetie! :bighug:

Seriously Mum... you are too nice. If my DH ever said that I achieved nothing since I decided to be a stay at home Mom I would have freaked out on him. Then I would have said have fun doing "nothing" and I would have been out of there. Men like your DH need a good shock to the system to get them out of the fantasy world they live in.

You said this 100% perfect. When I hurt my knee in February and was on crutches for a month hubby had to do everything around the house including taking care of the animals. 5cats sons 2 dogs. Plus all the cooking and cleaning. He was so stressed but it showed him what I do all day while he's working. You need to let hubby do it all for a few days send he will appreciate you more!!

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Originally Posted by WantingPink

Seriously Mum... you are too nice. If my DH ever said that I achieved nothing since I decided to be a stay at home Mom I would have freaked out on him. Then I would have said have fun doing "nothing" and I would have been out of there. Men like your DH need a good shock to the system to get them out of the fantasy world they live in.

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5 cats and two dogs** sorry. Autocorrect lol. :hair: