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I'm sorry I hope your little boy is adorable and steals your heart! I think it would be even harder knowing this is your last chance and it's another boy. *hugs*Quote:
Originally Posted by Beccal1
We plan on having one more but after that my husband will get "fixed" so we don't have any accidents. So I hopefully this next one is a girl.
Beccal1 yes I'm afraid 3 children is it for us :-(. I feel sad whenever I see little girls with their Mums and know that it won't be me. I just for some reason always thought i'd get to experience that relationship one day. I don't have any sisters and not the closest relationship to my Mum when I was growing up so I felt like it was my opportunity to have that relationship with a daughter. Do you feel the same? We'll just have to focus on special relationships with our sons.
A week ago a friend of mine had a girl after 2 boys, and I met her baby girl for the first time today. I'm so elated for my friend but at the same time my heart hurt when I saw my husband nursing her. I could see the hurt in his eyes too.
I'm sorry etre you are feeling this way we have all been there whether it was our first, second, third,fourth etc.... Mine was with DS 2 I cried my heart out it took me a while to mourn the daughter I would not have, in my head it was my turn for my pigeon pair. To help me cope I focused on his nursery choosing cute clothes thinking about cool boy names and I looked at other boy mums for inspiration!! Sure enough my DS 2 is the light of my life and we have a super tight bond Hugs to you !! Your sway sounded amazing!! Xxxx
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I'm in the same boat too! Did what i thought was a pretty darn good girl sway and ended up with a boy... First few days were tough ill admit i was angry at myself for failing and what i thought i did a good job at. And like you i thought i only wanted 2 kids (i already have a DS1) so it added another layer of sadness. I'm also as someone else said upthread having a hard time being as connected to this pregnancy for whatever reason which just makes me feel worse. But i know deep down my son will love having a brother and everyone will be excited for this little guy when he comes in December. Please know that you are not alone in your feelings and they will get better. With my son i was devastated when i found out he was a girl but when i held him i literally forgot all about the fact that he was a boy- instantaneously. And was just in love :)
For us i think if we went for a 3rd (which is unlikely) we will either go HT or nothing at all but probably wouldnt sway again. For me, and the way my personality is, I was just way too hard on myself about "failing" than i could handle to go through again.
3boy mumma - yes, this is our last.... Probably. I thought I would be satisfied with 4 even if this one was a boy, but now I can't help thinking about a daughter. I am only 30, my last pregnancy was twins. I am not throwing out the possibility of having a 5th in 5 years or so. Like JG60611, I think the only way I would do it is to go HT, so it was a guarantee. I thought my sway was pretty strong, too, and obviously I still have that yearning for a daughter. That is the only guarantee. We'll see what DH says, lol. I haven't even mentioned any of this to him yet. Never thought I would have 4 much less 5 kids, lol. We will see. I know I will love this baby endlessly, though. Just want to have the same relationship one day with my own daughter that my Mom and I have.
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I'm sorry you didn't hear girl but you will be so in love with him when he comes...trust me!