Yes! I wish I could just relax and enjoy making my family. There is too much pressure involved when you are 2/3 boys in and there is no sure bet except IVF!
Yes! I wish I could just relax and enjoy making my family. There is too much pressure involved when you are 2/3 boys in and there is no sure bet except IVF!
Well, it won't work for sure if you never try. There's risk with IVF and there is risk to trying naturally. There is only one way to get a guarantee.
Sorry you are feeling so bad right now, ive had many years of feeling the way you do now, even though my boys are my everything there was always the thought of a little girl to accompany them. I have put almost everything on the line to finally be pregnant with mine now, the money was a huge issue and at the time I was obsessed, I just put more and more on credit cards and caused many arguments with my dh for taking away what we could be spending on our boys. Now we are finally out the other end and are paying off the debt and hoping to safely meet or daughter next jan!!
Anything is possible, I promise!!! I was 100% the person that could have bet my life id never get a girl and look at me now!!! it can happen for you too!!
Most of my friends with all boys who didn't even sway are slowly but surely getting their girls too, you just never know!!
Good luck and don't give up!! x x
What bugs me most about pigeon pair moms is that they get the best of both worlds. Regardless of gender, all loving mothers sacrifice almost everything for their kids. PP moms get such a special return for those sacrifices. And they know it! They seem to act superior to me and have often made my role and my boys feel so unimportant.
Feminism has really added to this. In my family I have a sister and a brother and my sister has two girls and a boy. My mom and my sister, likely without even realizing it, place more value on the girls in our family. It hurts me tremendously. To the point that I haven't spoken to my sister in over a month because of some harsh realities I faced while home visiting this summer. She really made me feel inferior, especially her outspoken feminists ways. Makes me realize that my little guys aren't respected by her as she has very little respect for men in general. Very hurtful.
I have a PP but I still wanted all girls. Trust me, a pigeon pair isn't what some of those women wanted anyway.
Perhaps not. Everyone has their ideals. My point was that having kids is a gamble in many ways and those who are fortunate to have at least one of their "preferred" gender are pretty damn lucky. I always wanted one daughter. Just one. And the gender of the others didn't matter.
That is the one thing that still bugs me...a lot some days...about my gender disappointment is when my brother and sister's friends who are all 10-15 years younger than me, all have pigeon pairs without any effort at all. Took me 20 years, 5 kids, and so many hours of research to manage it and here are all these people (who BTW are also way richer and look way happier than me too) who just do it easily. :/
It wasn't meant as a slam on anyone who wants all girls or all boys, but it just hurts to not even get ONE of the desired gender.Quote:
Originally Posted by monkeysnuffer
Sorry
NO, not at all, don't even worry about it. :)