A question for girl moms

im like begonia, very competetive so i wonder whyi had 2 girls, but what you guys say about your previous husbands or childhood makes me think. i have always been competetive in games (scrabble, etc), working out (cardio), and racing against time to get things done (housework, meals, naps). i would get very angry internally at my DD1 if she didnt fall asleep on time or even take a nap. id feel like a failure.
every night i read a book (started recently prior to DD1). i get very anxious and overwhelmed if things arent done. im pretty determined and a perfectionist liek zanacal too.
wondering if testosterone has anything to do with it? bc ive always felt like a tomboy, always NEED to be active, going out, socializing. cant sit still. always have to win and deep down also liek to be appreciated of things i create (meals, invitations, etc). i always told my DH that he has less stamina than me (in terms of leisurelly activities bc i always like to be doing something either with DH or with the kids, etc). he s more of a homebody. wonderingif that makes him with less T???

but now that i think of it, ever since ive been married to DH, ive been more of a homebody bc of him. watched tv at night (from exhaustion) but still get REALLY into the tv program and DH alway smakes fun of me that im in a zone and will look at me during teh show, which really annoys me bc i want to be left alone and CONCENTRATE and get emotionally involved in the show. get lost in it. hahah. he is more laid back...if he misses a line in the show, he doesnt care. i have to hear every word. and bc of him i started reading every day/night (ive put that on hold now).

i would say, read, hang out, crossword puzzles, something mindless, internet, lay around, try not to care about anything...? ;-)

I can definately do the read a good book thing, I already chill in front of the tv BUT i can't do the overwhelmed thing!!! If I do get overwhelmed it's short lived and I work it out. I'm a real solutions person, find one and at on it!! I don't knis how to change this about myself!

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Originally Posted by gizmo77

i would say, read, hang out, crossword puzzles, something mindless, internet, lay around, try not to care about anything...? ;-)

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I'm on to it :D

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Originally Posted by gizmo77

im like begonia, very competetive so i wonder whyi had 2 girls, but what you guys say about your previous husbands or childhood makes me think. i have always been competetive in games (scrabble, etc), working out (cardio), and racing against time to get things done (housework, meals, naps). i would get very angry internally at my DD1 if she didnt fall asleep on time or even take a nap. id feel like a failure.
every night i read a book (started recently prior to DD1). i get very anxious and overwhelmed if things arent done. im pretty determined and a perfectionist liek zanacal too.
wondering if testosterone has anything to do with it? bc ive always felt like a tomboy, always NEED to be active, going out, socializing. cant sit still. always have to win and deep down also liek to be appreciated of things i create (meals, invitations, etc). i always told my DH that he has less stamina than me (in terms of leisurelly activities bc i always like to be doing something either with DH or with the kids, etc). he s more of a homebody. wonderingif that makes him with less T???

but now that i think of it, ever since ive been married to DH, ive been more of a homebody bc of him. watched tv at night (from exhaustion) but still get REALLY into the tv program and DH alway smakes fun of me that im in a zone and will look at me during teh show, which really annoys me bc i want to be left alone and CONCENTRATE and get emotionally involved in the show. get lost in it. hahah. he is more laid back...if he misses a line in the show, he doesnt care. i have to hear every word. and bc of him i started reading every day/night (ive put that on hold now).

i would say, read, hang out, crossword puzzles, something mindless, internet, lay around, try not to care about anything...? ;-)

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im exact like gizmoo77 :o

Yea, Zan....I say keep doing what you are doing! Screw the housework! Now, I am the breadwinner and run a company, so I am hoping my ways/T levels have changed enough. I am pretty 180 degrees from the oppressed housewife I used to be. Not that any of you pink swayers should get that way! LOL I do think the chilling and not having any agendas does help lower T.

This is very interesting, thanks for all your replies, girls!
I´m trying to just chill :bigsmile:
What you said about being on the phone Flava is interesting because actually I don´t like long phone calls, I have problems with my sister sometimes because she likes to talk to me for over an hour and that´s a little long for me. I´m just really not a chilled-out person, I´m just so full of testosteron and trying to tackle goals all the time lol :worry: now the good thing is I could feel overwhelmed and unable to tackle this swaying thing lol.
Thanks for the suggestions, reading books/magazines/things on internet, watching tv, just hang out on the couch, take a nap, I can do these!
And less housekeeping I´m all for it!

Watch tv, surf the net, talk to friends on the phone. With DD1, I worked in a pizza restaurant and was going to college. With DD2, I worked in a daycare as a preschool teacher, so I was never bored lol. Play outside with the kids. I never went to the gym or worked out.

Don't hang out at the mall if you are effected by ions, it's wrong kind of ions for ttc due to the air conditioning.

Ah, good point iluymyman, thanks!

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Originally Posted by iluvmyman

Don't hang out at the mall if you are effected by ions, it's wrong kind of ions for ttc due to the air conditioning.

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i thought a/c was good for boy?