Am I the only one that is second guessing my decision? Cold feet?

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Originally Posted by shouldihope?

I struggle with it every day. I can go back and forth a few times a day. Like an emotional and mental roller coaster. Can we afford it? Do we have the time and patience? What if it is another boy and I go through GD again?

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That's exactly how I feel! Ugh...It's so tough! What tips it in TTC favor for me though is that I know I would regret it for the rest of my life if we didn't try for a 3rd but I don't think I'll ever regret trying for a 3rd once that pretty little package is here. Everyone we talk to who has only 1 or 2 kids says they are now regretting not having more. I'm an older Mama so I know now is the time and I want to also make sure our kiddos are close in age. Hope this helps and you find some clarity and comfort. :HH:

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Originally Posted by Out of the Blue

Everyone we talk to who has only 1 or 2 kids says they are now regretting not having more.

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That was a big factor for me, honestly ... DH's parents said they always wish they'd had a 3rd (and they had BG already), DH's uncle has 3 girls and says all.the.time how happy he is they had 3. Like you OOB we knew if we didn't have one more we'd live happily ever after with our 2, but we would always have a nagging regret that we didn't have a 3rd. I just felt way too curious about who the next one would be to not go through with it.

But I can definitely say 3 is our magic number and we won't go for 4, even if we're given our 3rd girl :happy: Good luck making your decision, keep us posted!

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Originally Posted by Legacy_19

Am I the only person on here that sometimes second guesses if we should have another child? One day I am ready to be pregnant and the next day I think maybe we shouldn't have another baby. I hate these back and forth feelings! We didn't plan our other two children at all - they just happened. This time I require Clomid, OPKs, charting, etc and it just feels... weird. We would love to have another baby but then I worry about money, daycare, etc. Is that bad or is it normal? We can afford another child but we would have to give up a little here and there (vacation, eating out as often, shopping, etc). And my oldest is 11 - he will be almost 12 by the time I would deliver if I get pregnant right now. Is that too big of an age difference? Sorry I am so all over the place. I should start my Clomid today and I am just scared/unsure. Am I the only one that feels like this!?!:nails:

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I think it's totally normal to feel that way even under optimal conditions, and then you throw in Clomid and the rest of it and of course it can seem overwhelming.

I had a 11 and 13 year age gap between me and my brother and sisters and I really liked it a lot. And I have (drumroll please) an 18 year age gap between DS 1 and DS 4! I waited 13 years between having DS 1 and 2 and DS 3 and 4. It's different but it's def. worked for us!!

Oh and just take it from one who knows, it's much better to TTC when you're young and still can rather than having regrets when you're really too old to try again. :( I would give my eyeteeth for a time machine to travel back and tell myself to TTC when I was in my early 30's rather than just ignoring that "I want a baby" voice and trying to be at peace with my first two sons. I still feel like someone is missing from our family. :'(

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

I still feel like someone is missing from our family. :'(

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(((HUGS)))

I struggle every day with this as well. DH really doesn't want a 4th, but agreed to do it when he saw how important it was to me. We struggle with money - we have a good house and dh has a good job (he's a tenured professor at a university), but with one income we are house poor. Having a 4th baby means that money will be even tighter, so I have a lot of guilt about that.

Most of my friends are done having kids, so just as they are starting to experience the freedom of having older kids, I'm going to plunge back into the baby years. If I get pregnant in the next month or so, I'll have 4 kids under 6, which will be crazy!

However, having said that, I am 36 turning 37 and this is probably my last chance. I don't want to be 45 and suddenly realise I regret not having any more kids. I don't think anyone regrets children they already have, though lots regret the children they didn't have.

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

I still feel like someone is missing from our family. :'(

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((((hugs))) to you atomic!!

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Originally Posted by Mochagirl

I struggle every day with this as well. DH really doesn't want a 4th, but agreed to do it when he saw how important it was to me. We struggle with money - we have a good house and dh has a good job (he's a tenured professor at a university), but with one income we are house poor. Having a 4th baby means that money will be even tighter, so I have a lot of guilt about that.

Most of my friends are done having kids, so just as they are starting to experience the freedom of having older kids, I'm going to plunge back into the baby years. If I get pregnant in the next month or so, I'll have 4 kids under 6, which will be crazy!

However, having said that, I am 36 turning 37 and this is probably my last chance. I don't want to be 45 and suddenly realise I regret not having any more kids. I don't think anyone regrets children they already have, though lots regret the children they didn't have.

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I completely feel the same way!! DH didn't want to ttc again but he knows how much I do. I too do not want to be older and regret not listening to that feeling that I wanted one more baby in our family.