Making me so much worse....

This is really an example of where "fake it 'til you make it" is important for both you and those around you.

If I did it all over again, when people gave me the horrid comments and terrible looks when I said "Girl #3" I would have given them the most bewildered look and said very flatly, "What's wrong with girls?"

Unfortunately, I still have to use that now, but not as much as when I was prego with DD3. The comment doesn't say you are thrilled, it is just challenging the persons stupidity and lack of tact.

My heart goes out to you, but I REALLY think if you start faking it, you will feel a little better. You will eventually attract that type of energy too and then it won't be so hard.

Their is an end to this dark tunnel of GD, I promise. Hang in there.

Thanks guys,
I have to admit, the comments at the moment are a bit 50/50, sometimes I just make a joke like "yes, another boy, I ordered a girl this time but my husband didn't quite get it right" and most people comment on how nice itll be for the boys to have each other, so maybe, me saying it in a fun manner brings better reactions?

I have managed to buy a couple of outfits for the new baby, and also I have even toying with the idea of maaaaaybe having a third which seems to be helping a bit. I just guess until this little one is born I am going to feel sad, so yes fake it til you make it it is for now....

Thanks for the support, I honestly appreciate it.

If it helps ds1 and 2 are really close, and ds1 is always helping ds2 with things.. its not uncommon for me to walk in and see them virtually sitting on top of each other, playing a game or watching a movie. DS1 is always mollycoddling him like a little mother hen haha. They have a great bond, it is very heart warming. ds3 just absolutely adores both of his 2 older brothers and i just melt when he looks at them and just smiles and laughs. Its just such a big soppy 'i love you so much' grin from him, and he is only 5 months! i can't help but feel so lucky <3 I think the disappointment wears off a bit when you know you have another chance at a girl as well. Thinking of you, and i hope its gets easier

Yeah I'm sure the mum of the hemsworth boys doesn't get GD or any nasty comments :)


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Apparently I don't make girls either mum4life, or so says my mother in law :nono: (which apparently it's just not true, atomic replied to this in one of my other threads). We are actually telling the inlaws tonight it's a boy and I am sure she will be ever so pleased (she favours boys over girls strongly)'which actually will annoy me tons too (they can't win can they ;)

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Trust me, if a woman who has made 4 boys over 21 years can get a girl (ME) you don't only make boys! :) I know a woman who got a girl after 8 boys!!!

Atomic, I have had a question preying on my mind since my failed sway: IF we decided to go for a third....I remember once you saying that to get a baby of the opposite gender to what you already have you should do the opposite to what you did then. So what do you do after a failed sway?
Thanks :)

Sorry I can't post a link from my phone but Atomic has an essay on this called "when sways attack!" It's a great read & will hopefully answer some of your questions :)

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Thank you I will take a look!!

Cattypad, I've been through this not once but twice. I just told people "We're getting another boy, exactly as we thought!", with a huge smile on my face. So most people don't dare to make a negative comment after that. Of course I've had my fair share of comments about having only boys, but when announcing another boy-baby, with a huge smile on my face and letting everyone know that we were excited about it, usually stops people from saying nasty things. Comments will always come when you least expect it, but in time you learn to live with it and shake it off, instead of letting it go straight to the heart.