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Yeah the h/r thing is nonsense but I understand it makes you feel nervous when someone you trust says they think it's a girl. I went HT for a girl and I still feel nervous when people say 'Oh my skin was like yours when I had a boy' etc etc. I hope you hear BOY! (I know nada about nubs!)
you definitely can't go by heart rate. DD1 and DS always had the same heart rates and DD2 was always lower, so I thought she was going to be a boy
I'd take boy nub guesses over silly heart rate nonsense anyday. I bet she's going to have to eat her words :)
i'm no expert, but i would say boy. xxx and not just because its what you want but to me it looks clearly stacked and that's usually boy. xx
Thanks everyone. All of your comments have made me feel more rational again. It's probably a goo thing for me to be prepared for another girl, just in case. I didn't realize just how disappointed I would be until she made that comment. We'll see what happens!
I didn't have a nub shot- but just had DD3. My dds hr was always low, even at birth. I knew to take it with a grain of salt (we were team green). I'd put much more stock in your nub shot.
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Definitely don't worry about heart rate - my little man had a quite high heartrate but we always seemed to get to scan after he'd had a big ol' party in there. Some babies are certainly more active than others!
Well we had the big ultrasound on Monday... and it's a BOY!!! The tech pointed out all the boy parts and said she is 99.999 percent sure. I'm overjoyed!! And still kind of in disbelief! Thank you everyone for your kind words. I just feel so thankful to finally be getting our boy.
It's been enlightening for me to read on here about other women's experiences with gender disappointment. It seems a majority of posts are about trying to conceive a girl or women feeling like other people look down on the all-boy families. I just want to say that this has given me a completely new perspective. For years I've felt like people look down on families with all girls. Comments like "oh your poor husband...," "just wait until the teenage years," and "girls are so much harder to raise than boys, they're too emotional."
I know my husband especially felt the sting. He absolutely loves and adores our girls, but with each pregnancy his friends, family, and coworkers would constantly make "joking" comments. People even made rude comments about our FIRST daughter! Like "oh it's better to have a boy as the oldest, so he can lead his siblings." Like yeah, I hadn't thought of that I'll just go trade in this girl for a boy... Ugh people say dumb things! But you all already know that ;)
My husband's group of friends always jokes that men with sons are better lovers (apparently this is based on some scientific study...). I've felt for years that people feel sorry for our family. And that boy moms are somehow cooler and better and healthier, and have something I'll never be able to have. My high school boyfriend has two sons and every time I see them around (we live in a small town), I would imagine he's thankful he ended up marrying a woman who could give him boys, and that he probably feels sorry for my husband. I know that sounds crazy, but GD makes us think irrational things!
Anyway, I'm writing all this just to say that it was therapeutic to read how some boy moms feel. I had no idea! I wish none of us had to contend with these feelings. Social pressure makes it so much worse, people say the dumbest things. Just know that somewhere out there a "girl mom" is probably envying your family, too.
Thank you all for being so honest, it has really changed the way I look at this issue. I'm so excited and grateful for our little man. But, I'll always be hyper-sensitive to people's comments about family makeup and gender. I'm thankful I found this community that talks openly about such a sensitive topic.
Congrats!
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