Scared of gender disappointment

I was in a terrible place for nearly a month. Could not bond with this pregnancy. Woke up in terror hoping it was all a dream.It was just awefull. I will admit that there were days when i wanted this pregnancy to end. I didnt even know i had those emotions in me.
I am quite better now but the feeling of anger and denial have been replaced by guilt. I am a full time working mom and no family support so i feel selfish that i am going to deprive my eldest two of "me"their mom for my need for a boy. I dont think this feeling will ever go away. Any time i will be overwhelmed as a mother i will regret my decision.
That being said i guess there was no right or wrong answer. If i hadnot tried for a third i would have always felt the "wgat if" so i guess i was between the devil and the deep sea. If i could reverse time i probably would not have tried for a third. Having 2 kids of same sex my odds of the same sex baby were pretty darn high. From what i have seen sway success rates are high for ppl with 3+ kids. Only a few have had a successful 3rd child sway.

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Hi honeybee , yes I have the same feelings going on !! Scared ,excited and I'm pretty sure we not going to find out til d,day... I just don't want to go through that again and feel the stress , the sadness again. I love all my boys to the moon and back . This is our last chance and I've decided to go with it simply bcos I'm not ready for it too be over , boy or girl !!! Oh dear how I long for a girl but I must get myself prepared to hear boy . Hang in there and don't think to yourself oh I could have done this better or I could have taken this to help my sway , that will only make your mind wonder . Trust yourself that you are doing all u can to help get ur girl and the rest will fall in place ..
So you going to go Team Green ? I'm with u on that .. I think If I hear GIRL ill fall off the bed , but if I do hear BOY.... I will just know at the end of it IM JUST A BOY MUM, and pretty dam good at it...
Hugs xx

Squiggle I feel the same. im sure a third would be the same. Feelings can be scary sometimes tho can't they?! I am trying to focus on what teenage girls can be like at the min and convince myself I will have a ragbag of one if I manage to have a daughter! (I know I was one!)

I think it is a myth that boys are harder than girls. It is completely up to a personality of the child. My boys were also definitely easy compared to some girls in the family (if it wasn't that way, we wouldn't have had another child :-))
But I also noticed (even before I had children) that somehow people feel sorry for families with only boys, more so than for families with only girls. This is definitely makes GD worse. Though if I look around in my surroundings the 3 family I know of with 3 boys are all great, well-behaved, cool boys. I thought that before we tried for our third that someone a third sibling affected them in a positive way, they all seemed more content and emphatetic for other's feelings then families with two boys.

Haha- thats what my hubby says, girls are great till they are teenagers then he says he might freak out!! Oh well, who knows what the future holds for us. We can only be there for each other. This is a good place for that! We are in the same boat. I dont know if its at all possible to not feel some type of GD considering the effort we will put in to our sways and the fact that we are going for a third to try get our girl! But.. they will be ours and we will love them regardless..

That's it squiggle... And it's what I need to hold on to. I can be super critical of myself and know I'll go over my sway obsessively... It's so hard! I do know I can imagine a third baby boy and him fitting in just fine so maybe I need to visualise that and know it'll be just fine whatever xx

Its going to be fine. And perhaps it will be a little better this time round if it is a baby boy, because regardless of your sway he wanted to be a part of you all so he got there first :awe: That's the way i think my head will get around GD..

Dont say that i have 3 teenage daughters to look forward to .... yikess !

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Originally Posted by Bluebooties

Dont say that i have 3 teenage daughters to look forward to .... yikess !

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Haha teenage girls scare me but so do teenage boys as they go through the invincible stage where they drive like idiots. I have heard too many stories from DH that it scares me! Maybe I will be lucky and they will be boring and studious like my brother was.