EWCM at 8 and 9 DPO?

I know. It's just frustrating when I used to fall pregnant soooo easily. And it doesn't help when I want it sooo badly and DH is completely on another page to me. My bBt was slightly above from yesterday this morning but I'm still not confident. I'm sure that test I did yesterday would've been pos if I was pregnant. But it's just been strange how I have been feeling light period cramps on and off for the last 4 days at least. Usually the pains hit me suddenly and bang, the blood flow starts, or I get some blood on loo after wiping and then get the pains. I watched 'Call the Midwife' on tv last night and cried seeing all the pregnant Mum's and newborns and remembered Saturday was my due date for the pregnancy I lost last year. :( sometimes I feel soooo angry with my DH I just want to pack up and leave him, but I stay because of our kids. Sorry for my negativity....I'm feeling really down and out today.

aw 1moregirl im sorry to hear your feeling so down about it all, fingers crossed you get that bfp :fx:

I'm pretty certain I'm out. I did a First Response test today and it's a definite negative...no hint of a second line. I thought I'd nailed it and that I'd definitely be pregnant. I'm also wondering if maybe DH has low testosterone (is tired ALL the time) and that the swimmers just couldn't make it after BD with me on top. If we'd done missionary we might've nailed it and gotten a BFP. I'm just really disappointed and I don't know what to do next. Do DH or I need to get any tests or do we just keep trying? Not bloody easy while he is not 100% on board with ttc. Just feel like I'm running out of time. :(

I get that you are upset, but I don't think it is realistic to expect to get pregnant on the first try at age 44. I am 34 and had both my boys in my 20's and they were both oopsies. My last pregnancy, at age 33, took 5 cycles over 7 months time to get pregnant and then it ended in a miscarriage. I have 4 best friends from high school and we all have two kids each. We all had our first pregnancies in our 20's, and out of 8 pregnancies in our group there were zero miscarriages. Since we all turned 30, there's been 8 more pregnancies and 5 have ended in miscarriage. Before age 30 we all got pregnant easily and stayed pregnant. Nothing has changed but our age and I fully believe the miscarriages are due to us getting older. We are all currently 34. I'm sure if we were 10 years older the miscarriage rate would be even higher and the pregnancy rate would be almost zero. It sucks, but it's the truth. We can look young, eat healthy, etc but our eggs are still aging. I don't want to be a downer and I totally know what it's like to have a DH who doesn't want to have any more kids, but I think you just have to keep trying month after month and hoping he'll cooperate, without getting your hopes up too much. I get depressed about it to but don't really have another choice.

Essence - I get what you're saying...I really do. But I started when I was 36, had my second when I was 38, my third when I was 40 and fourth pregnancy last year at 43 that ended in miscarriage. I'm not going to give up. I will just keep trying and see what happens. It is interesting though that this last time we BD we did it with me on top and every other time I've conceived it has been missionary (first two were conceived via missionary and third child via doggy). Anyway, I just checked my FF calendar from when I conceived last year in June and we BD a bit more regularly (CD 11, 13 and 17) and I'm not sure abt every night but on CD 17 (was my third day of pos OPK) we BD with me on top but I inserted diva cup afterwards and went to sleep. I should've done that again this time. Plus I've noticed this time round my EWCM didn't correlate with my positive OPKs and BBTs which is why I don't have solid cross lines marked on my chart for when I Oed. It's probably my hormones and AF coming thwt has made me feel sooo down today so I apologise for my negativity.

I also think your age plays a role, as fertility really drops off after age 42. It can definitely still happen but I wouldn't expecr it to immediately. Fx for this next cycle.

Well AF is most likely on the way as my BbT dropped below the coverline this morning. Plus I'm just feeling tired, crappy and over-emotional (all signs of AF). I don't know why I thought it would straight away after it did last year...guess I just got my hopes up. I do wish DH could be fully supportive of this and 100% on board because I wonder of the quality of his swimmers as well as he is always tired and moody. Not to worry. I know I'll get past this and will be back to my positive and determined self soon. It's just been a bit difficult lately as just passed our last would-be-baby's due date over the weekend and I seem to be seeing pregnant ladies every where I go. But I know part of me is being selfish and stupid because there are women out there struggling to conceive just one baby so I do feel guilty and ashamed for feeling like this, believe me. Plus my DH is not an easy man to live with. He is serious all the time, moody, tired, doesn't talk to me much, has a short fuse with all of us - and he brings me down with him when I'm usually a positive, upbeat, fun loving, prankster who loves to make people love and be happy. I don't think he realises how lucky he is. He just takes us for granted. Ok. Rant over and I do apologise.

I got pg at 41 on top.

It probably just wasn't your month. No one can know why.

Pregnancy tests during different pregnancies can't tell you anything tho. It all depends on whatever your HCG levels were to start with.

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Originally Posted by essnce629

I get that you are upset, but I don't think it is realistic to expect to get pregnant on the first try at age 44. I am 34 and had both my boys in my 20's and they were both oopsies. My last pregnancy, at age 33, took 5 cycles over 7 months time to get pregnant and then it ended in a miscarriage. I have 4 best friends from high school and we all have two kids each. We all had our first pregnancies in our 20's, and out of 8 pregnancies in our group there were zero miscarriages. Since we all turned 30, there's been 8 more pregnancies and 5 have ended in miscarriage. Before age 30 we all got pregnant easily and stayed pregnant. Nothing has changed but our age and I fully believe the miscarriages are due to us getting older. We are all currently 34. I'm sure if we were 10 years older the miscarriage rate would be even higher and the pregnancy rate would be almost zero. It sucks, but it's the truth. We can look young, eat healthy, etc but our eggs are still aging. I don't want to be a downer and I totally know what it's like to have a DH who doesn't want to have any more kids, but I think you just have to keep trying month after month and hoping he'll cooperate, without getting your hopes up too much. I get depressed about it to but don't really have another choice.

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I agree totally. I got pg first or second month in every time I tried but took me 6 at 41 (and I was luckier than hell and thank God every day for it still)

Got pregnant on my first wedding night with my first and took ages with my last at 36 so one more girl think you won the lotto 3 times at your age when you conceived your kids.. But 44 is really almost impossible from the first shot :)

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