Will I have this desire for the rest of my life???
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oceancitymom
I wonder the same thing. I had a client, a very old lady, who had four sons. I always remember her murmuring during one meeting...I can't remember how it even came up..."We tried and tried for that girl but it just didn't happen." I remember that because I wonder the same thing you do...will I ever get over this? Will I be an old lady still mourning the daughter I never had? I wish I could switch my brain and just be totally content that I have two beautiful, bright, healthy sons who are so much fun and so loving. I love them; they make me so happy! I don't even understand totally why I am so hung up on having a daughter. I guess I worry about the future too...about feeling sad as I watch friends plan their daughters weddings...or be there for the birth of their babies. Although, one day recently my five-year-old boy who is super thoughtful and well, contemplative, was talking about becoming a dad. He was asking me about various stages of life and we talked elementary school, high school, and college, and then becoming an adult. And he said, "And after college, I'll meet my babies, right?" And I said yes, after college he can get married and have kids. Then I said, "Can I come to the hospital when your baby is born and hold the baby?" And he thought for a minute and replied, "Yes. Well, I want to hold him first. Then you can. Then my wife." HahahaHAAAAA! That won't be the way it goes, but I do hope I can be a part of it. :)
Happylea, I too wonder this. I have 2 boys and desperately dream of a daughter who I feel is almost real but slipping away. I know many of you have more children than that, but for me, at 40, with a 52 year old husband (who had 3 children already before we met) I am really supposed to be done. But I also think about it every day. I don't relish the thought of another pregnancy, even tho I was lucky with mine, but I won't have her unless I have another, my hb doesn't want any more which is totally understandable, so where does that leave me?
A similar thing happened to me, like the old lady mentioned above, just the day after I found out my 2nd was a boy.
I went to see a customer. I was making something for his wife's birthday. They have 2 sons, 30 and 25. I took my son and was obviously pregnant. The customer asked what I was having and I said 'a boy'. Then he asked me how I felt about it, and added 'my wife's greatest sadness was never having a daughter'. It absolutely shattered me.
I got in my car, drove down the road, stopped and cried. I think because even though her sons were grown we were exactly the same, even though I had the possibility of a daughter just the day before, it was totally gone and I would never have her. I knew this would be my greatest sadness too.