HE Diet 6 weeks or more but without limiting strictly calcium intake OR gaining more than 10-15 lbs (the people who dieted a long time while gaining gobs of weight and/or not eating calcium foods got lots of opposites) And making sure you are getting the majority of fat intake from animal sources rather than vegetable
Weights for DW
Limited drinking alcohol and coffee intake for both DH and DW
Prenatals for DW
1000IU Vit. D for both DH and DW.
NO biking/jogging for DH
NO smoking for DH (or DW either of course) THIS IS THE NUMBER ONE THING
Regular release by DH every 2-4 days starting as far in advance as is possible
3 attempts or more in fertile window
Not having kiddos too close together
Not TTC immediately after coming off hormonal birth control
All the rest of it I'm not totally sold on or are things we can work around