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If I were you I would wait. I have a friend who was diagnosed with this and her doctor suggested to her to not even try to conceive another child. She is currently 17 weeks along after doing IVF. I think if you know you want a girl and not just a 3rd baby, you should hold out. I can't imagine a few months will make that big of a difference.
Please do the IVF. That's your only guarantee. Try to relax as much as possible about the possibility of progression, he's probably giving you the worst case scenario and the most likely thing is that it will progress slowly over time and there won't be much difference between now and May.
I would do everything possible in advance, talk to the doctor, have the pretesting done, see if you can schedule the Lupron sooner or make payments or if the clinic will be able to possibly tighten the time frame for payment since you are in this situation. The IVF clinic may even have a different opinion about the adenomyosis - I have had a couple clients with it and it didn't seem like that big a deal, we just did the endometriosis-type diet (less sugar, refined carbs, phytoestrogens) and everything was fine. NOw it may be you have a more severe case, but I would just follow up with someone else to see if they think things are as dire as your current doc is making it.
Thank you, its really good to hear you don't think it will progress to quickly. I think having my doctor jump straight to have another baby asap and get a hysterectomy just freaked me out. I wasn't expecting him to suggest that with me being so young. I sent my documents over to the RE I have been working with. I am getting some tests done next week and than he will let know what he thinks we should do.
Of course do take what I am saying here a thousand miles away with a grain of salt since he has seen you and I haven't but it's just been my experience that there are some alarmist docs out theree and you go to some other guy or gal and they don't have the same opinion. :)
Please keep us posted as to how you're getting along!! :heart:
Yes I am so very blessed to have been able to get my two girls, and to be expecting my third, this time naturally at that!
The laparoscopy will definitely allow to get a clear picture of the extent of the disease, and the surgeon will be able to clean what can be, which can buy you a bit of time..
Definitely sounds like IVF with gender selection is your best option – if the disease is progressing fast, stalling it until you are ready for IVF looks like the safest option.
I guess if that fails (and FX it works first time!), you still have the option of reverting to TTC naturally maybe?? Maybe with a boost from your RE treatment wise to get pregnant fast etc?
That way you will have tried everything to guarantee a girl, and if it comes to it, you can still try naturally after?
I would definitely not rush into anything but IVF looks like the best in your case, once you get confirmation with further tests
Oh yes, endo sucks – and how cool would it be to be able to truly trade blue or pink dust eh? :D
In any case, take all my pink dust! ^^
There's also the possibility of doing an egg retrieval + a surrogate!
Thank you I wish that was more affordable so I could do that! Its good to have it as an option though.Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
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oh yes that's totally true, very expensive unless you could use a friend or family member.