Need to put this behind me

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Originally Posted by Debahlgrim

Thank you ladies so much. I know I am beyond blessed to have a daughter already. Having her first I always pictured a little sister for her and I have a brother and always wanted a sister. So it’s been hard to let go of that dream. But it’s been helpful planning and doing girly things with her. I bought us matching PJs for Christmas :) I’m getting more excited about this little boy. Thank you ladies so much for your comforting words. I really felt like I had a good sway and tried my absolute best. Just trying to push those “if only I did this” thoughts out of the head.

Any advise on raising brothers to be close?


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There's really no magic to getting them to be close. Yours will be close in age so that helps. It really comes down to personality though. My oldest is 5.5 and despite DS3 being only 10 months, he loves playing with his little brother. DS1 and DS2 are very close but they've never really known life without each other. I say just try to always include them in activities together and encourage them to work out any differences. I always try to get my boys to play together so no one is left out which usually isn't a problem. Most likely they'll be close anyway just by being brothers similar in age.

Swaying is an iceberg. What we see and think we are controlling with diet and stuff is this tiny piece. There's a huge mass under the water that we cannot know about and all we can do is step forward in faith when it is the right time for our family to start TTC because not I nor anyone can tell you when it's the right time. It is entirely possible that you'd have waited that month and gotten a boy or waited a hundred months and gotten a boy. I can't say why, I can't tell you what you "should have" done. It is just beyond my ability to know. All I can ever do is have you guys do what works for most people most of the time and then we roll the dice.

EVERY baby is meant to be in my book. No mistakes. No matter what we never ever lose. We only win. Whether we get a boy or a girl we get another beautiful little person to love and I promise, promise, promise that in time this will make sense to you like all our opposites do in the end. :heart: