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I hope it's ok to chime in as I'm having the same thoughts as trinity. Does breastfeeding prolong those 6 months that we would have to wait before going HT? I'm pretty sure it does unfortunately...
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Yes you have to be 6 months postpartum and not breastfeeding.
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Our 3rd boy will be my 38th birthday present.
I guess my options are:
1.) Sway again in two years. But how will I feel about a final child being a 4th boy and my chances of HT will be gone?
My husband and I are very lucky people and we thought for sure our last sway would work. That feeling is gone now. I feels more like a gamble again. And i should be ready for the outcome. Pro I think is the timing would be better though. At least two years between baby's what works best for us. Also way less stressful than HT.
2.) Go HT. This will mean starting asap, so no spacing between kids (we always had pretty hard times with non sleeping baby's). Probably hard to do with my job and kids, the timing of going away abroad etc. Going to make the whole process "medical". And dealing with the whole mental side of the process. The worsed that could happen is going through it all and ending up with no pregnancy and lost a lot of money. Although we could still sway after that.
There is still something holding me back from this process. Maybe it is being healthy, able to conceive very easily and jumping into this whole medical process which scares me...
3.) Use donor eggs. Not een option yet. I think my main reason for swaying is having a mini-me.
i don't know what we are going to do yet....
Part of me feels like surrendering to the family we are ment to have, so not doing HT but sway again.
Other side of me feels my family does not feel complete without a little girl, so take a chance on HT.
It's a hard decision for sure.
The good thing is, you don't have to make it right now. Try it on for size, both HT and TTC naturally, and see how they both feel. What I find helpful (and I think you're already doing this, which is GREAT because you're being very realistic about it) is not to compare best case scenarios but to compare worst case scenarios...what feels worse to you, walking away with no money and no baby (or swaying again after not succeeding at HT) or walking away with an opposite + the money? I feel a lot of people approach IVF/PGD somewhat unrealistically - they compare an opposite with a success with IVF and as we know that's not necessarily what will happen. So just that you've already acknowledged that is a huge step towards making a fully informed decision. Just let me know how I can help.