Originally Posted by
Throwaway_panther
I know in the IVF world, women wanting girls have their husbands take Olive Leaf Extract for hopefully more girls. But I have seen a LOT of women expecting all of one gender get a split though, and even MORE of the gender they want! I know I got a 50/50 split in two cycles. Our healthy embryos were WAAAY in a different ratio, but that was a result of my husband's sperm issues... (so definitely look into getting that tested before cycling!!)
Just to add some other things -- in regards to your angel DD, if you never tested the fetal tissue, it's still possible she passed of a chromosomal abnormality. NIPT only test for a few :( I was disappointed to learn myself. And there are many chromosomal abnormalities that can occasionally make it into the second trimester (Trisomy 8, for example, can occasionally make it into the second trimester, although that affects predominantly males -- we had TWO of these embryos in cycling which we were told was uncommon, and that it's possible we had some of these losses). I only mention this to stress: as AWFUL as it is to say, a chromosomal loss in the second trimester is, as atomic said, a fluke. Mutations and abnormalities are still the most common explanation for losses. And different things to help egg and sperm quality can help affect this for the future (my husband and I can attest for this clearly!). Second trimester losses can often be more difficult things to deal with -- cord issues, placental issues, clotting, immune responses, etc. Not having these but instead be dealing with a chromosomal issue that slipped by could warrant success in the future, even though it's scary to plan future pregnancies! And IVF with PGS would definitely help mitigate this.
I'm thinking of you and hoping you recover as quickly as possible from your upcoming procedure <3