Sonographer pretty much gave it away!

When I was an ultrasound student a couple years ago, one of the girls in my class was scanning an ob patient while the sonographer was watching the images from the control room. The couple didn't want to know what they were having and the student had taken the pictures with the couple looking away. Well when the sonographer came in to take over, the first thing she said was, "congratulations on your little boy!" oops. It happens. I think pretty much every sonographer has probably given it away inadvertently at least once or twice.

I'm sorry you think you found out when you didn't want to know, but honestly, I have spent ultrasounds crying before...it was because we knew our little girl was going to be born extremely prematurely and would most likely die. I have held patients' hands and handed them tissues as they found out from their ultrasound that their baby had major defects and would not survive. (And I had to scan these babies and see their issues while keeping a poker face until I could show the doctor and the doctor could tell them, all the while the parents are discussing names and outfits and not having a clue that they won't actually need any baby gear.) Even though I try to be really careful not to give it away to patients who don't want to know (thankfully most do want to know, because honestly it's extra work for us to keep in the back of our minds to try not to reveal it), accidentally telling a patient the gender wouldn't even make my top 20 worst days as a sonographer and I've only been doing this a couple years and work part time. It stinks, but I think a little perspective is important.

I am absolutely enraged for you! I thought our second scan (our first scan they couldn't find gender or even anything really lol) was bad, but yours tops me. In our case, the unfeeling tech didn't even ask and we said, "We don't want to know sex at all, please don't say or show us anything." The first tech made us close our eyes a ton "just in case," but laughed when she said she couldn't find anything herself since supposedly they "have to check to make sure genitals look healthy" (whatever, lol).

The second tech asked what we had at home and went, "Hm" sort of serious. That drove me nuts. She then clearly focused on legs at some point and I said, "We can see gender, we can see it's a girl" and she said, "I don't know what you're looking at, since *I* cannot even tell gender from here." I have a thread on here somewhere about it, since I was pretty convinced it was a girl and was upset all evening about it.

Yours I think warrants even a call or email to the office -- it might make you feel better, at least, to advise them how NOT to handle things in the future, you know?

Re: Team Green though. I don't know if we're exactly on the same page for why we both went Team Green, Lily, but I do feel the need to step in to the people asking the questions here, because I know I am still very frustrated myself when people ask or suggest I find out sex even after so many times saying why I'm not. I'm pretty sure Lily has thought about whether or not to find out and I'm pretty sure she's wondered that now -- I don't know how helpful that is to suggest. Many mothers on here have gone Team Green (myself included) knowing we'd have an awful time pregnancy wise and hoping for the hormones of bonding and such that comes with labor and delivery. I know HOPING is one thing and being disappointed, but I'm seeing Lily expecting boy and being amazed if it's a girl in the delivery room -- not vice versa.

Edit.

I'm locking this post now.

Just not liking where it's going.