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Originally Posted by aroundtheworld
In Ireland when I was growing up 3 was seen as a small family any less was seen as infertility or risky pregnancies. All of my friends have at least 3 siblings. I have 5 sisters and DH has 6 sisters. Nobody would bat an eyelid at it. It was normal then. I think now 3-4 is the normal size with a fair few stopping at 2 if they have the pigeon pair (my sis is one). I however would love to have 5 and DH has always said 6 or 7. But I think that will depend on how my next birth goes as I had a c-section last time due to long labour with DD being OP position, so I need to avoid it if I can next time
I live in Canada and in our community which is of mediterranean decent 2-3 kids is the norm. Couples have 3 if the first 2 are same gender. My DH's uncle who is married but has children,told my husband not to have any more kids after we had G-B.
Here boys are preferred but every family needs at least one girl b/c daughters take care of their parents when they get old b/c daughter in laws can be evil.I guess every culture/ethnicity has its own views/ideas about gender.
I love hearing how different and similar things are geographically. I just read Unnatural Selection:Choosing Boys Over Girls (kind of a historical documentary on the history to present day of gender desire) Anyway, really interesting the last ch. discusses present day U.S. which states a whopping 80% desire for girls when looking at the gender selection PGD stats.
Anyway, Inglewood- I am actually an identical twin-absolutely LOVE it! MY sister and I have had all our kids close in age and we actually live 2 miles from each other. It has been a wonderful experience. And you're right, identical twins are just a fluke when the egg splits. Also, really interesting. If the egg splits on day 6 after conception both kids will have the same dominant hand. If it's on day 9 the egg has already determined a right and left side so you will end up with mirror image twins. One is right hand dominant, the other left. Also, more idetical twins are girls than boys. I don't know why that one is.
Interestingly, even though there is no hereditary or gene for it, I have 3 sets of identical twin cousins-weird, right. 2 sets girls, 1 set boys. GL, I imagine you have your hands full now
N710 that is really interesting! Thanks for sharing!!!
It was some Discovery Channel "In the Womb" series about twins, really interesting actually
2 are the norm in my fam and neigjborhood except both sets of grandparents had 6 and 7. Now dh's family are very different. They seem to be trying to have as many as they can. But they are from another country so I'm thinking its a cultural thing to have big families there (Hispanic)
I would say the average where I live is 3 kids. However I am throwing off the average by being pregnant with my 5th :) I am definitely completely crazy and ready for psychiatric evaluation lol!
I would say America is more open to big families when they are viewing them as circus freaks on a reality show. It's pathetic really. Everyone is sooo interested in the Duggar family and watch the show but then talk poorly of them in real life. Granted they have 19 kids which is a bit over the top but in general here in America, anyone with more than 3 kids gets stares at the stores...at least where I live. I plan on having four kids and that's not a crazy amount but I will likely get comments about it from strangers. Personally I think people should mind their own business :-)
Oh and I did not mean they are actual circus freaks. Americans just seem to like to be in everyone's business and scrutinize them like circus freaks. I realize how bad my post sounded, haha!
In my circle of friends, 2-3 is very common, but I do know a handful of families with 4-6. The only ones I know with more than that are in our homeschooling group.
In my husband's family, it is an unspoken rule that if you have a pigeon pair, you stop and if you get two of the same gender, you can try once more, but everyone stops at 3 no matter what.
We have 2 now and want at least 4. I am willing to go on having kids until my body is unable to anymore, but since we like to have three years between them, that limits us to 6 or 7 unless we have multiples.
I grew up in the South of the US(Tennessee/Georgia), and now live in the Netherlands, my husband is from here.
The biggest difference is that where I grew up, people tended to start younger, have more children, and were more likely to have steps and halfs. No joke, people usually expressed shock that I was over 22, never married, and childless. I'm 30 and will be 31 as of when we start conceiving (this is our first), most women my age where I grew up are on their 3rd or 4th child and often their 2nd marriage. I grew up in a family of 3, my brother had 4 kids, my sister had none.
In Holland, the vast majority of people stick to 1 or 2 kids, and many first-time mothers are 35 or over. There's a lot less open space here, so people tend to prefer small families. My husband is the youngest of 2, his brother has 1 son and they're planning on stopping there. Also, the majority of people are much less religious than in the US, which contributes to smaller family size, although many from Middle Eastern and Antillian backgrounds do tend to lean towards large families.
My husband and I have decided that 3 is the absolute largest number of kids that is practical, but we're both leaning towards 2, as we'd like to space them out 4 or so years, so having a 3rd would very likely mean we'll both be in our 40s. We're swaying pink for our first, as if we have 2 kids then we're likely to miss a shot at having a daughter, something that's very important to us for various reasons. Although if we can have 1 of each, that's what we'd like. Basically, we'll have 2, see how we feel, maybe have the 3rd.
I have to ask...where are you from? Anyway, where I am almost everybody has 2 or is aiming for 2...hardly any families have more (and I have to say that personally, I only know 3 families with 3 kids or more). And the large majority have pigeon pairs, although I know 4 families with 2 girls who are perfectly happy with that. I know one woman who had 4 boys...and I think we all know how she ended up with 4 boys...she was trying for a girl from #2. She's done now.Quote:
Originally Posted by Zivic-Bubac
With 5 boys I'm used to being stared at like a circus freak now. I don't feel anything from it anymore. They can't hurt me now. LA LA LA LA LA.... :wink:
Where I am 2 is the norm, 3 is a "big" family. I'm a bit of an oddball. I have five children and I had my daughter first, then four sons, and the range of ages is 20-17 months with a 10 yr gap between the first 4 and last one. So if people ask me if I'm having another to "get my girl" I can honestly say NO I'm doing it again to have another baby so my youngest can have a buddy! Sure I'm planning to try to sway girl but if I get another boy I'll be just as thrilled.