I don't tell my children how they were conceived (naturally or not!) they dont need to hear about the sex LOL and if I went ivf it would be no different!Quote:
Originally Posted by ukini
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I don't tell my children how they were conceived (naturally or not!) they dont need to hear about the sex LOL and if I went ivf it would be no different!Quote:
Originally Posted by ukini
You have as much chance of them getting something if they were conceived via sex or not.Quote:
Originally Posted by ukini
Why didn't you consider all this BEFORE going ahead with conceiving?!!!!!
I am also having low progesterone level around 5 but I take two crinone suppositories, it seems it is not working what do you think I am kind of getting defeated at all fronts.
How do you know it's not working? My doc told me that testing progesterone is not always 100%Quote:
Originally Posted by ukini
Are you just trying to talk yourself into a miscarriage or justify an abortion?
I don't understand why you are feeling this way?
Especially with your desired gender.
What are you scared of the most?
I'm taking 200 mg of oral progesterone a day and I know it's working! :)
Having an abortion can affect your chances of ever concieving naturally again. That would be really bad luck if you could never have another child. Just think about it a child concieved in the womb is no different from a child concieved outside the womb. Its just a sperm and an egg, they dont damage anything when they do ivf. You are really lucky to have a DD already and expecting a DS.
You need to snap out of these thoughts asap. They are not warranted AT ALL. Do not terminate a perfectly good pregnancy. Most GS women would kill to be in your shoes right now. Or any woman for that matter .Are you mad ?
Think positive and do not let these thoughts take over in your head. I would seek counselling (not for termination) but to help you think straight. Sorry I sound harsh but you need a wake up call.
"Fear is the enemy of logic"
"That's all it takes, one drop of fear to curdle love into hate."
"Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it."
"Fear is the main source of superstition, and one of the main sources of cruelty. To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom."
"Fear: False Evidence Appearing Real"
I hoping one of these speaks to you.
I have just read this and am totally baffled. You went through all the ups and downs of IVF and it is NOW you are questioning it?
Where did you cycle? What country are you from?
I didn't read your link, but before I went into this I weighed up all pros and cons, I talked to a therapist about it in depth and came to the conclusion that there are no guarantees in life, that tens of thousands of perfectly healthy IVF babies get born each year.
Your baby will be fine, You need therapy (and I mean this positively) and if you decide to tell him , you tell him, no big deal. So many babies are IVF babies, it really doesn't matter. God wouldn't of allowed IVF if he didn't want it to be used!
But surely you realize there are no guarantees that won't happen even with natural TTC. Two families near and dear to me have lost or are in the process of losing their child to cancer and they were conceived naturally. I know naturally conceived kids with autism, severe food allergies, cerebral palsy, and Rett syndrome. My sister has gall bladder disease, I have a heart problem, my MIL has glaucoma, my FIL has Lou Gehrig's disease, my brother had a cyst in his throat that had to be removed when he was a little boy, my niece has kidney disease and we were all naturally conceived.Quote:
Originally Posted by ukini
If you live long enough, we ALL will come down with something - there is NO way to prevent it. No one gets out of here alive unfortunately!!
do you share the IVF process with friends? we have not shared with anyone should we?
It is up to you, I have told a few people but not telling the majority.
I would say for you no don't tell anyone, if you can't handle being pregnant by IVF then you won't be able to handle the judgement you will receive.
Curiously do want to know where you cycled and what country you are from.
No, you do not have to tell.
Honey you are quite clearly having a HUGE panic attack right now. DO NOT make any rash decisions about terminating a healthy pregnancy whilst feeling this way. I could almost guarantee it would be something you lived to regret. This fear will pass as your pregnancy progresses and you see your healthy baby boy growing inside you. By the time he is out and in your loving arms you will look back on these thoughts and hate yourself for even thinking them. He is going to be FINE!!!!!
There is no reason at all that you need to tell him how he was concieved if you don't wish to. As others have said there are hundreds of thousands af people born via IVF who are perfectly healthy.
Go see a doctor and talk about these COMPLETELY IRRATIONAL thoughts. You may even be better off on some pregnancy safe anxiety meds (if there are any). Seriously, if you ended this pregnancy, after you snap out of this panic attack, I believe you would be devastated by your actions. Focus on the HAPPY HAPPY fact that you are pregnant with your son!!!!
Why did I open and read this thread???? :(
Girl you need some help and you need it quick. I don't say this to many people but be thankful for what you have as you clearly have no idea how special a little life can be.
Oh what I would do to be pregnant with my DG I wouldn't care how it happened.... Even if an alien from outer space implanted her in my womb...... I'd b the happiest woman on the planet
I'm leaning toward the troll theory! Why someone would put all the time, money, energy, emotions into IVF/PDG and then after a BFP freak out and make all these posts?!
I would be *beyond* thrilled to be pg with my DG, however it happened. If you are serious, I think you really need to speak to someone about your reaction at this stage of the game.
I feel stupid, but what does troll theory mean?Quote:
Originally Posted by PinkWish
A troll is a fakie poster who comes on to basically stir the pot-Quote:
Originally Posted by Possible pink?
Troll (Internet) - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Yah! That makes sense...I am in disbelief that someone would go HT and then think about àbortion also.
Uhm I heard of someone had done ivf to get one girl. She put back one and it's split so she got pregnant with 2 of the desired gender. She did an abortion because she didn't want 2. At the moment she is doing a fet......unbelievable huh!?! I would do a murder to geT pregnant of the desired gender (I have to wait 2 weeks to know the gender of my ivf/pgd baby).
She aborted because she didn't want 2??? How awful! Everyone is different I guess...
It's really crazy isn't it? I can't understand that.....when I heard it I was so sad and I wanted to trade with her I wish I had twins girl/girl (or even better girl/boy). In this pregnancy I lost one, I don't hope it was a girl (not that I dont mind if it is a boy) but I will never know......
It really is hard to comprehend...I just can't imagine why you would go to such lengths to conceive, all that time and all that MONEY...and decide you don't want 2! I bet she didn't tell a lot of people about her decision!
I think there may be religious and cultural issues at play that we probably can't understand or comprehend.Quote:
Originally Posted by Possible pink?
This doesn't sound like a troll to me but rather someone who is just a bit mixed up.
Selective reduction is a complicated issue due to the much higher risk of health issues with multiples. It's not a decision I would personally make either, but it is a fact that pregnancy outcomes are better with one than two. Particularly in the case of identicals (a baby that split would be identical twins) where there can be things like TTTS that have every possibility of causing the death of both babies if SR is not done.Quote:
Originally Posted by The Anchor
Atomic it was not for health issues at all!! She just didn't want 2 kids. There was no selective reduction! It was an abortion of 2 baby's.
I cannot imagine not wanting identical twin girls... for many of us it would be our wildest dream come true!!! How sad.
Ukini- any updates? Are you feeling better?
That's terrible :(Quote:
Originally Posted by lisvna
This thread is heartbreaking
I know pp.....