UK SMOG Wannabes July

Huge congratulations on your little bub Charlie, will be rushing over to fb now!

Hope your ds3 gets better soon petal

Hello everybody else

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Massive congrats charlie, love the fb photo! hope things stabilise and improve very soon X

Many congrats Charlie - was so pleased to see your news - even though I nearly missed it! ;) Your little boy is beautiful :) How is he doing? Did you have him at home and then went into hosp or did you have him at hosp?
Massive Congrats again....lots of love to you all xxx

Congratulations maybepink and Charlie - more scrummy babies in our group!

I'm sorry I've been MIA - I finally caved and got the Fifty Shades books for my Kindle and read all three back to back. I didn't want to like them but I was well and truly gripped and I'm even thinking about them now a day after I finished the last book! I need to start reading something else to get it out of my head. Any suggestions?

I've been feeling quite down lately. I'm just festering at home and not seeing anybody (school run aside) during the week and I guess I'm just not used to it given that I'm usually at work. I hate housework, always have done, but the less I do the more despondent I become and the less I actually want to do - then I look around at the mess and dust and I cry because I feel like it's all on top of me. I came home from school this morning all enthusiastic about getting the house straight and have done lots but I was about to do the hoovering and I felt very dizzy, so I've stopped for some toast and a drink! I wish I could get motivated! I also know that within half an hour of having the boys home the house will be a complete tip again *sigh*. DS3 is very challenging lately. He's obviously jealous of how much time I spend holding and feeding the baby but he's really playing up, having mega tantrums and pooing his pants several times a day. DS1 and DS2 are just hyper - and trying to kill each other half the time. I'm trying not to shout and to keep them occupied but because I'm feeling down and unmotivated I end up leaving them to their own devices (and giving them way to much tv/DS time). Oh - and to top it up I was looking at my wedding photos this week and I can't believe how ugly and fat I've got. I have 5 stone to lose, which is just ridiculous. I also need a new haircut but I've got stupid thick curly hair which doesn't do as it's told. OK, I'll crawl back in to my hole now - I hadn't intended on this rant!!

Zanacal I'm sorry you feel so down, you are not alone on some of your sadness, I am exactly the same with my house, and it's made ten times worse by the fact that dp has been off work for the last three months and has not lifted a finger once! Which in turn makes me sooooo angry because why should I do it all when he is here, how is that slightly fair!

I remember being stuck in a rut with staying home and feeling down about myself when ds2 was little, I managed to pull myself out of it eventually by meeting some mums from netmums and trying to be more socialble. Also got an app called myfitnesspal which was fab and helped me to loose weight, the community boards were brilliant for advise as well :)

Don't be too hard on yourself :) you have a lot on your plate at the moment! Could you ask dh to help you with the chores so that you can get on top of them? Or tell him he's taking the kids out so you can have some time alone to just relax a little.

Oh Zanacal, so sorry your feeling down at the mo, but its perfectly normal!! you've just had a baby!! you have 4 kids and you are doing a great job! im sure your dh would agree!! Try not to let the housework get on top of you, i do understand where you're coming from as i too get really pissed off when my house is a mess, can you ask anyone to help, maybe family or dh? hun, you have a beautiful little girl, just enjoy her as she will grow up sooo fast as im sure you are aware, the housework is un-important and can wait :-)) x x

Just looked at my ticker, my baby is 8 months 2moz!!!! soo cant believe where the time has gone!!! im meant to be going back to work next week but im taking the 3 months unpaid off, god i so couldnt deal going back just yet, the thought of leaving ds3 is awful :-( x x

8 months on wed rather ha!

Z ~ Hugs hun. I agree with the others....try not to let yourself get down about it all, especially the housework. it is hard though, I am a complete organised freak so I hate it when my world gets turned upside down! I get very frustrated when I haven't got the time to get on with jobs....but then I tell myself that I need to make the most of my time whilst feeding Beck and have lots of cuddles.....it is easy to say make the most of them whilst they are small but its true!
I am still going to bed far too late so completely shattered - but thats me and my control freakish ways! :)
Thing is when everything gets you down its hard to know where to start so why not write a few things down that you want to get down this week and set realistic goals....once you start to feel better about yourself you will feel more motivated, why not start WW's? I have lost a stone and have two stone to go.....It gets me down every morning when I have nothing to wear, but seeing the results keeps me going.
Cant believe you've read all 3 books!!...I'm just finishing number 2 - love them! I must stop waking up in the morning and feeling sad when I realise Mr Grey doesn't actually exist......he is SO real in my head though :)

Petal ~ 8 months - what a lovely age :) Have you decided if you are going to have anymore?

Charlie ~ How are you and baby doing?

Hi everyone else :)

We are going away next week to the Cotswolds for 10 days, we've just bought a touring caravan so really looking forward to some family time - not expecting the weather to be great but we'll be prepared! :)

Hi ladies
The weather is just awful, summer holiday's for Scottish kids so typically wet.
The baby is wrecking the house, must dash, got a feeling it'll be like this for the next year or so!! Spent 2 days, child free, sorting out tje toy room making it baby safe, putting the older 2 boys toys in their bedroom so that ds2 can play without me nagging about small parts. A full weekend, 15 bin bags later, and is the baby happy?? No still wants to play with wires. I give up!! xxxx

Thanks guys x

I started putting the children to bed at 6 tonight and I sat down just before 9, ugh! Babymad - how do you deal with getting the 4 children to bed? My biggest two are giving me such a hard time lately and I know we've been crap recently and they've had no bedtime routine so I decided tonight to try and sort that. I bathed the youngest 2 first and put DS3 to bed (DD doesn't go to bed in the evenings yet but she's been asleep in her carrycot travelling rount he house with me all night!). Once I'd done that I did it all over again with the biggest 2 - and they still played up. Argh! I removed DS1 from their room to ours and didn't have to go back up so it wasn't too bad in the end but I'm absolutely knackered!

DH is brilliant. He doesn't get home from work until late and as soon as he walks in I have him helping with bedtimes - it's usually 9pm or so before he eats his dinner. He irons all the school uniforms and lays them out in the mornings and does lots of other jobs around the house too.

I am going to do Weight Watchers but am waiting for 6 weeks because of breastfeeding. I'll start some time this week or next. I'm so fed up with having nothing to wear too. I ordered some stuff from the Boden sale yesterday - if I'm going to lose weight it won't fit for long but if it's a decent brand I can sell it on Ebay or something!

Zanacal we have three boys between us aged 9,7 and nearly three. When we have them all here it is a chore getting them to bed, and they all share a room so it can be quite a challenge!
I usually do the same as you and put the youngest to bed first, he will fall asleep within about 30mins and then I send the other two to bed, if they play up Unfortunatly for them it leads to loosing something! Tv time, ds, a toy anything or they get sent to bed early the next day which they do not like at all! But persistence is the key I've found, they know what is expected of them now and we tend not to have many problems these days (touch wood lol)
I'm yet to add the newborn to this mix yet!!

Yeah, mine all share a room too unfortunately! They do lose DS time if they don't go to bed nicely but it doesn't put them off in the slightest. Monkeys!

Charlie, what a scrummy boy he is!!! Hoping he's home with u all soon. What are the boys saying about their new wee brother? BIG hugs! xx

Z, OMG!! your post sounds just like me!!!!!!!! My house is a tip and gets worse by the day. I've been so dizzy for 3 wks now and on stemetil for labrithitis with no joy! Thought it was due to irregular eating and have managed to eat so much I've gained 20lbs SINCE the girls were born.... forgetting I'm no longer able to eat whatever! I was so chuffed I only put on 22lbs during the pg and now have 5 stone also to loose to be my ideal weight! So depressed about that!!! Since I'm feeding the girls every 3hrs and it's an hour each time (30mins each) I spend so much time sitting and can't get out as the weather is so crap!! Raining so heavy there is flooding. Plus my body aches so much still from section. My dh is a great 'hands on dad' no complaints there, but he starts work at 0630am at the mo mon-sat, so EVERY night feed is up to me. I get sa night off. I'm usually up 3-5am every night. sometimes longer if girls unsettled.

With the girls being so unsettled, the colic, reflux...... I get 1 settled and the other starts. I'm stressed, shattered, miserable about how I look (still in mat clothes) and can't believe I'm due back to work beg oct. I'm saving so hard to try and take at least the 9mths off as being the bread winner I can't afford unpaid time off :( Money worries me too, well lack of it! I NEVER get out with the girls like I did with the boys and get super envious of girls out and about with their babies when I'm dashing into asda by myself, to rush back knowing dh will be having a time of it with 'greetin teenies' (as I have affectionately called them). It's a military operation trying to get out with 2 babies (no joke) and hands up I'm struggling! My poor boys prob forget that mummy can be fun sometimes and not stressed.

The HV told me to change the girls milk AGAIN due to constipation and STUPID me did!! Back to aptamil from SMA and they are back to being restless, not sure if it's that or the fact they should have 2 sachets of gaviscon but can only have 1 as they don't take 225mls/8oz of milk. They were getting 2 sachets till I realised the doc's mistake! and now I think it's the gavsicon causing the constipation??? so now they have had 4 milk changes due to Dr's and Hv's and so wish I'd stuck with SMA as they were ALOT happier on it (I'm sure I'm not dreaming) but don't want to change milk a 5th time. I'm taking them to a Mctimoney chiropractor/Homeopath on thurs and hope maybe they can help.... they have started to teeth which ain't helping. They are never content to sit and smile and coo, always seem restless. All u mamma's able to read these books are so lucky!! I can barely catch a minute to update on here nevermind read a chapter of a book.

DEAKS, were your boys constipated on it??? the winding trip u mentioned I was taught in the hosp this time and it does work!! My mum swears by gently rubing the back of their necks (like a soft pinch a few times) and that often works too.

I'm so so so sorry for ranting, just all getting on top of me and Dh is a "just get on with it" kinna guy.
The boys are going away to my BIL's tomorrow till fri then my MIL's fri-sun, so bless them they need some fun and attention. I'm gonna get my act together for them coming home and get my mum/dh to have girls while I take them someplace cool and have fun as there is no holiday for us this year (no £ to go anywhere) and boys bless them are happy with days here and there. We went to sealife centre yest. I'm 7yrs married on sun (15th) so my mum gonna watch girls while dh and I go for a meal where we got married (for the 1st time in yrs). Can't say I can be bothered, nowt to wear!!

Need a good SHAKE!!! or kick up the bum!! lol

Sorry again ladies, feels kinna good getting that off my chest, but poor you all reading it! x

:worry: Charlie, just thinking after I wrote that, there I am worrying about all that stuff and ur worrying about ur gorgeous boy, makes my rant seem like nothing compared to how u must be feeling. HUGS x

Kell, keep missing u to post a quick pic of my girlies! Did u say u don't have FB? x

Wow inglewood I am sorry you are struggling also. All these weight issues should be the last things on everyone's minds, you've all just had babies girls! It takes 9 months to put it on, and often takes longer than that to get it off!
Inglewood your health is more important at the moment, but I do know how it feels to be consumed by low self esteem when it comes to weight, so I'm sure you will have to remind me of this post soon enough!

Bloody hv and doctors they are always on such different wave lengths, the poor girls :(
Your boys sound amazing! Kids are resilient they will be just fine, I'm sure your feeling guilty and they are just fine, it's a shame the weather is so bad, we've had the same here, our school holidays start the weekend of my due date.

Don't be worrying and pictures of the girls inglewood, it's one less thing you need not worry about :) I'm not on fb no, it can cause was too much hassle lol!

What's wrong with Charlie's little man??

Oh Inglewood, big {hugs}. I keep meaning to mention to you that I'm still getting dizzy too. I had labrinthitis once too so I wonder if it's one of those things you can be prone to? The headaches I was having have subsided (though I still get a few a week) but I often feel like I'm walking on a boat iykwim. I'm at least getting some decent sleep but you must be absolutely knackered, which can't help! What a shame we don't live closer together so we could share a glass of wine! It sounds like the Health Visitor is floundering a bit, getting you to change the girls' milk back and forth all the time. Is the Gaviscon helping with the Reflux but making them constipated or not even helping? Perhaps they could try a different medication, I know there are others. I'm going to email you some stuff from the site I was telling you about the other day - I'm sure you know most of it already but just in case there's something in there which may help you x

Z, that was a fab email going to take some notes once I've got girls dressed. My BIL coming for boys soon. Lots in it about positioning I haven't read. Know the 'boat' feeling well!! It lasted a week last time and wa so severe. I've had it 3wks now and it can apparently last 3-8wks!!! nightmare! Wish we did live closer for that glass of wine, but we couldn't live much further apart!! Your way on the south coast??? :(

Thanks for your lovely words Kell, the weight will vanish sometime, just not fast enough. When I had the boys I was early-mid twenties...now at 33 think it take a wee bit longer!! My boys are amazing wee boys, so kind and never jealous of the girls, attentive and eager to help.

Need to dash.... couple of screamers here!!! x

oh inglewood im so sorry things are so hard for you at the moment. Wish i could give more helpful advice but it sounds like you are trying all the right things. Keep pushing with the doctors though because truly i haven't known many people rely on ONLY gaviscon for reflux. Most people seem to find it does the job temporarily but then things regress. Also their weight will play a huge part of how many sachets (or dosages of other meds they might end up on) so if they need to be on two sachets, go with it and try giving them a little water or something too to help with any constipation. As for the milk thing i really cant help. In my area it is commonly known that sma is very rich especially for babies who are sensitive and thats why we all end up with aptamil and many aptamil comfort. But it really wasn't until both my sons were on ranitidene and domperidone that life got easier.

I too wish lived we all lived close enough for a pop round and a glass of wine :(

Things seem really busy this end but i think its just that ds2 isn't all that well, bump is slowly getting bigger (though i really cant complain about that as still tiny), having to order masses of school uniform etc. But trying to read posts even if i don't get a chance to respond.

Much love to you all X

Hi laides!! I apologise I don't post much at the moment - I do keep up with your posts though!

Zanacal ~ I think we can all relate to how you feel! Don't be too hard on yourself though, you've just had a baby a few weeks ago! You are doing a brilliant job I'm sure!! I know what it's like though when it feels like the housework is getting on top of you and seeing the mess makes you even less motivated to do anything about it.. it was like that for me after dd was born and it's only now that my mum is visiting that i'm getting the help to sort it out.. dh's family is useless at helping out unfortunately. Remember hun that life won't be as hectic forever, it's only for a few months and then it should start to settle down.. ((hugs))

Petal ~ 8 months already bless him :D how time flies! how's the weaning going?

Inglewood ~ oh hun... i don't know what to say really :( i hope things start to get easier soon for you!!! ((hugs))

Babymad ~ enjoy your holiday!!! :) my mum is here now so i have only had time to make a start on the third mr grey book.. i don't have time to read at all when she's here. love the books though :)

afm, nothing really new to report here. my mum is visiting at the moment and it's so so lovely to get a bit of help with the housework and the children :) as i said earlier, i'm not posting much at the moment but i still try to keep up with your posts and i cant wait for the meet in august :)

deaks have you got any bump pics?? :)

charlie and maybepink congrats to you both and charlie i hope your little sweetheart gets better soon!!!! sending lots of positive vibes your way! x

Thanks sunset, enjoy your time with your mum :) x

Just found out my girlies ARE true ID twins!!! not 2 fused placenta's, just 1 placenta but 2 sacs, so Monochorionic diamniotic twins.

Hiya ladies, sorry been away from the thread for a while. SO so tired at the moment and sleeping when I get the chance!

I love keeping up with all your posts though.

Had a lovely coffee with maybebaby this morning, thanks hon, loved seeing your beautiful ds3 again, he's so cute! :HH:

Midwife said today I'm getting low on iron, any tips on building levels up, sure that has something to do with the exhaustion.

love to you all, will be better at posting!

not to bust into this thread, but is Charlie's little boy OK? I don't have ya'll on my Facebook so just wanted to know.

and Sunset, you need a new pic of Serena as your avatar :) let's see how she's grown!

Aurora I have no idea, I'm not on fb but I'm assuming there is some worry there from what some of the girls have said.
Sorry Im not much help :(

Indigo good to see you about :) sorry your so tired, I googled iron rich foods there's quite a few websites with good lists, from what I remember things like red meat, and green veg are iron rich foods!
Hope you can up your levels I ave been ok this time but did suffer with the boys.

Inglewood oh that's lovely, and rare!!

Congrats Charlie, I'm so happy your little man is finally here. Not sure what is wrong either but hope it's nothing serious and you're all home together soon. Sending big hugs x
Indigo - I was low on iron for last 2 pregnancies. Spatone really helped me - take it with some orange juice and it's quickly absorbed and definately perked me up x

Hi all just a quick one as shattered! Lovely seeing you today indigo! My house is still a tip! Aurora I will leave things for Charlie to say but I think lo is perking up now.

Pinga - will do your fb request in the morning ;0)

Zanacal I feel your pain. It's too soon to feel great. Four kids is a big deal so it going to take time to get into the flow. Be easier on yourself. I have thick curly hair and I just embrace it! Trying to tame it is to hard. How about just lots of mouse, air dry then a load of hairspray? I do that then there's no frizz or time spent with my ghd's. Or you can get it thinned out. I do that too. But it's all failing out now :-(. Sod the house work. The dust will still be there in six months, your newborn won't.

Inglewood. Massive hugs. I couldn't cope. You clearly are and your doing a great job. Again be easy to yourself

Will post Tomoz

Love to all xxx

Indigo, I ended up taking Sytron liquid which isn't as harsh as Ferrous fumarate/sulphate. That helped my Hb go from 8.9 -11.2 ( taken 3 days pre-section) did take around 2 mths tho, but lots of greens ans red meat. My SIL told me to try spatone, she works in maternity and they recommend all women take it when pg, can buy it some supermarkets and boots. x

Quiet tonight ladies!! Well girls saw a Mctimoney chiropractor/Homeopath today so FX it helps! She gave them Chamomile to add to water and realigned their spines. To return in a month. Finally took girls into my work to meet everyone, girls were perfect angels thankfully, just smiled and stared at everyone staring at them.

Hope ur all well? getting close Kell!!

H&G, hope ur ok? not heard from u in a while. x

Hope the new bits help the girls inglewood! And glad to hear they were good at work!!

I had the midwife today, lily is fully engaged now and has decided that she wants to be back to back :( here's hoping she turns before she arrives!

Thanks for all the tips about the iron girls, I saw some spatone at tesco so have started to take that. I feel better just knowing I am doing something about it.

Inglewood- that is so cute taking them into work, they must have gotten so much attention, glad they behaved for you. I hear a lot about the positive effects of doing all that aligning spine stuff and have friends who swear it cured all sorts of problems. Hope it works wonders for your girls.

There have been a few people MIA, hope you are all ok. Anyone heard from chocolate? lavenderlime? or LMW? or Mrs I?

Babymad- how are things going with dh? I hope they continue to improve.

Hope you all have good weekends. Have a few parties for ds1 to go to which is good since the weather is constantly bad. Otherwise a quiet one for us, hopefully I'll be able to get a few naps in!

xxx

I met up with my bf who moved to York yesterday. She came down and we was up chatting till one in her hotel room with her dh and kids snoring! It was such fun, I realised just how much I miss her. Went to my village toddler group which was lovely. One mum was telling us about her 50 acres of land and her livestock plus au-pair! They are on my road but we really are a world apart! She was lovely. Met another mum who did ivf for eleven years before she got her twins. Some days this crazy life still amazes me. Imagine being that strong and determined? I can't imagine how that must have felt. I told her I understood a bit as we tried for two years, and she said about all the peeing on the sticks etc, but I can't imagine that. I would have given up. I don't belive in certain things but some days I think things happen to put your life into prospective. Now I feel lucky he took two years!

Enjoy the rain everyone, I'm cleaning in preparation for mil to arrive on Sunday - and count to ten......

Must pack some emergency bags for my mums!

Hello all

Things going well here. Duke is 1 month old tomorrow! Can't believe how fast time goes!!! :P He is a lovely happy little chappie. He has been doing great the last couple of nights - going 5 hours and then 4 hours. Loving all the cuddles... ahhh I just love love love this point.

Maybe - its strange isn't it how some people have these huge journeys to get their family. My sister tried for about 10 years and on and off IVF... she had a stillbirth, an ectopic and numerous miscarriages and it makes me feel so very grateful for my 3 gorgeous little men.

Kell - oh I hope you manage to get bubba turned... I had a posterior labour with DS1. Mind you it wasn't too bad a labour. She'll be here so soon :)

Anyways - better dash... lots of things to sort out tonight. Feel like I never have time at the moment. Also DS1 and I have a huge stinking cold! Bit of a grumpy household :P

Hope everyone else is doing well...

Hi all! Just a quickie as on my phone.

Kell - check out Spinning Babies Home | spinningbabies.com :-)

Oh thanks Zanacal! I've been reading! There's a few techniques I'll try to mover her :)

Hi lovely ladies,

I just wanted to introduce myself, I'm originally from near York in the UK but I now live over in Norway with my husband. We've been over here 6 years now and we have two sons aged 3 and 4 years old.

We are ttc our 3rd baby and swaying pink, congrats to all of you who have new arrivals or are pregnant at the moment, and lots of luck to everyone ttc. :happy:

Welcome mummypink! Are you following the le diet?good luck with your sway x

Hi Maybebabythree, thank you :) Yep I am following the le diet, I've lost 4lbs so far so going well although ideally I'd like to lose another 4.

Which sway did you try? x