hey ladies had to switch laptop back on to update you!
said to dh so how about sparkle (the bean) being born at home? and he said i'm not a midwife and i said i know you get two thou and he said if that's what you want! in a really nice way yeahy!!!!
hold tight ladies i may have lots more questions!
what did you do with your ds's?
My kids were there for both of my homebirths. My mom and/or sister came and helped keep them entertained and taken care of during the tough moments, but they all stayed home and if they wanted to watch the birth (my daughter did), they were more than welcome to.
With mine my sons were only 2 and 4 and it was late at night so they stayed for a while then my dad took them to his house to sleep over - too them to school the next day so me ad hubby had the morning to ourselves with the baby they both came home together to meet their brother at 3pm.
This time Id like them to be there they are 3 6 and 8 but DH is worried it will be too upsetting and is probablyright for our 8 year old as he has dyspraxia and gets upset easily by teddies getting hurt on programmes etc so seeing me in pain wouldnt be good for him
mine have always been there front and center. my last my dd cut the cord since she was 11 and daddy had already did it a couple times:) when my 3rd was born it was after midnight and the kids made it till around 10 and went to sleep but I asked them and they said they really wanted us to wake them so when we got to push time we did:) they were right on the bed and I have the most precious pics of them watching in wonder and smiling:) My last 2 aare closest in age so he was only 2 and I wondered how he would do but he was there holding my hand and as soon as baby was in my arms he said "baby" and was trying to give him his toys:) every child/family is different so it's a personal choice to have them there or not.
yay had my first appt/ w/ mw today. so nice to hang out and laugh. got to hear the babes hb(150) of course lo was moving around. checked my iron wasn't as bad as I though (11.5) and everything went great. yay for midwives:)
My fight has begun - 8.30AM on a sat morning and the midwife was calling to find out why i had cancelled my obstetrics app next week ..... well the letter says allow 1 hour for a birth choices appointment ..... I want a home birth again end of - last time i had an appointment like that they spent the hour trying to talk me out of it scaring me with scar rupture stories and generally making me feel angry and upset so i would just rather not go in all honestly...staff shortgages are not my issue - obviously if things in pregnancy dictate i need a hospital birth or c section then so be it but until such point im not open to beng talked out of my homebirth..... after that i made an excuse to get off the phone as didnt want to start my weekend arguing with my midwife !!! God the NHS make me so cross sometimes
Hang in there mum23boys! I've had experience of giving birth in an Nhs hospital and I wouldn't go back except in an emergency. I'm glad I had 2 home births - you should definitely fight for it if that's what you want!
My kids were only 3 and 16 months so my mum came over and sat in the house as it was 3am, they never woke up and pottered up the next morning to meet their new baby brother. It was amazing!
mum23boys- so sorry. that is crazy they offer it but then try to talk people out of it. what kind of mw is this???
here we have certified nurse midwives that had nurse training first and then went on for extra birth training and they work mostly in hospitals/birth centers. then you have your homebirth midiwives who don't look at birth the same and they do not have rn degree but have been trained through another mw's and homebirths. But a lot of ins. do not cover homebirth so you would pay out of pocket anyway from 1500-6000 depending on where you live and how much your mw wants to charge. It is worth every penny to me. Can you choose a different mw or you have to go with who they provide??
I had 2 hospital births and one birth center birth. I want this birth to be another birth center birth or home birth :)
our nearest freestanding birth center is about 2 hours away no way i'm driving that far lol. it is really nice and fancy but it's nice not to have to pack up and go after babe is born:)
Here in the UK you get who your given mw wise :-(
The mw that attends your birth might no even be one ive ever met as it depends who is on call !!
yikes!! can you pay for a private one or do they even have those? sounds like how big ob practices work here.
hey doll you can ask to change midwives if you write to the contrller of midwifes at the hospital - however what you're discribing sounds more hospital wide than just one midwife.... so sad to hear this we're west sussex and they are very supportive had wondered if you we're too but i'm guessing not.Quote:
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my freind hired a doula and had a great 2nd home birth after an bad time with first 'home' birth....i know you still need a midwife thou
my boys will be 2&3 so i think i might get MIL to come and get them at the point i would have left for hospital, they'll only be 5 mins away and i know dh would worry about them being upset and my mum isn't the type i need in my house when i'm trying to give birth ;-S
fish Im in west sussex too and although they are supportive of homebirth in general they are just sooooo short staffed right now that theyare trying to scare as many women out of them as possible especially those that have had previous c sections - Im lucky that my midwife Im seeing at the moment ive seen with all my boys so she knows i wont back down
As i knew i possibly wouldnt know the midwife on call for my homebirth I too had a doula last time and am in the process of trying to find one this time around too as the lady i used last time no longer does it.
Are you near gatwick at all ?
Hey mum23
I'm near Chichester my parents live near gatwick - Croydon way, diff hospital i guess were Chichester and they seem genuinely to have enough midwives its amazing really were very lucky
It's such a shame there isn't the choice there should be, I have a new midwife this time but that's good last one was rubbish!
okay weird question! I don't want to have to hire a pool and have all the faffle of filling it, can i have a water birth in my big courner bath?
It wouldnt be deep enough for a water birth I dont think hunny but by al means will be great for pain relief. I would ask your midwife when she comes over to do the home risk assessment.
I bought a poll for my 3rd sons homebirth off ebay lady bought it new then had to go hospital - I only paid like £50 for it and then i just buy new liners and sterilise it in the garden for 24 hours with milton liquid before each birth - So far 3 friends have used it too - some think it sound unhygenic but I dont see how so long as its properly sterilised and everyone uses the proper fitted liners for it.
Perhaps buying one might be cheaper - you can get some great bargains on ebay - or ask around to borrow one ? Your welcome to come and borrow mine after ive used it so long as your not early and Im not late as we are only about 4 weeks apart
I've seen people birth in their garden tubs but not sure how large that is compared to yours. people also have used kiddies pools lol. I bought one as it was only like $100 less than renting. I have rented it out to a couple other moms and loaned it to a friedn also. I just do like mum23boys and they use a liner and wipe clean :)
I used a kiddie pool I bought from the local hardware store for $30CDN, my kids have played in it on a hot summers day since then. LOL! I'll just buy a brand new one for this birth, it's not a huge investment for me.
hey guys thanks for the replies, i watched obem the other night and i think you're right it won't be deep enough, the hospital rents them out for £40 maybe that's a good deal!
thanks mum23 might take you up on that I'm hoping to be 10 days ealry for the school year ;-0 i'm due 09/09!
can you take them upstairs will i fall throu the floorboards?!!
I know people who have done upstairs and have been fine I don't know maybe if house was really old lol
I've been lurking in this thread for a while because I'm not pg yet, but I had both of my boys at home. We had great experiences both times and plan to have all future babies at home.
I had a water birth in an upstairs apartment with no issues. If you would be reluctant to let 5-6 adults stand in that space at the same time, it's probably not a good idea. Otherwise, it's really fine. A birth pool is not as heavy as most people think and since you won't be leaving it unattended while full, it's actually nothing like a waterbed or aquarium (which a lot of people compared it to while I was doing research to see if it was against our lease).
also if you have a real birth pool or a nicer kiddie pool it has a couple diff. chambers so if one breaks the whole thing won't link just that chamber. so don't have to worry about major flooding :)
I agree if you would have 5-6 people stood in a space in the room u plan to brth in then a pool will be fine :-)
Honestly hun if you need t just shout. Im due 10th august but am usually 10 days late so will be done with it by 24th August.x
I agree if you would have 5-6 people stood in a space in the room u plan to brth in then a pool will be fine :-)
Honestly hun if you need t just shout. Im due 10th august but am usually 10 days late so will be done with it by 24th August.x
Ha ha 1911 ;-0Quote:
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thanks hun hopefully we'll both have summertime girls! i've never been early so timing wise think it'll probably be fine!Quote:
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i know it's a wierd question but may have MIL at home looking after boys and i don't really want her at the birth iykwim!
thanks hun sounds like you've done your reaserch xQuote:
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my last homebirth fish I had 8 relatives plus my doula hubby and 2 midwives but it hardly felt like it as step dad was busy upstairs with the boys and sisters were both maki ng tea etc and your so out of it in your own zone you wouldnt know she was there in all honestly !
Oh and if she does get in the way and you shout obscenities at her its acceptable cos your in labour :-) ha ha
Oh my dreams of a home birth are over, it's twins ;-)
Mum23 sadly I had a bad experience today the midwife I saw after my scan basically said I have to have a labour ward birth with a epidural maturely I walked out! I'm not feeling so confident now ;-)
Huge congrats - did you take clomid ? Just as a lost one of mine there seem to be loads of twins cropping up, makes me do sad but also so excited for everyone as they are a real blessing. I think your best bet is to contact the head of midwifery at the hospital and come to a compromise. Good luck and congrats again . Xx
yay!! congrats on twins! yes it does seem to be a lot here natural and clomid users:)
sorry your mw sounds like a beeeeep. sounds just like ob's here our homebirth mw's do not talk like that or feel that way about birth at all but there are some states(every state has diff. laws about mw's here) that do not allow mothers to have twin births at home. Although you can find underground mw's :) Def. would do as mum suggested ad talk to someone else and explain that you would like to go as natural as possible even if in a hossy. Hope ti works out for you. Start upping that protein:)
called my community midwife and feeling much better she was a cow but i don't have to see her again however i am now under a consultant at the hospital i know safe babies is the main thing but i feel i will be able to have the best chance of delivering them safly where i feel comftable and secure and i don't think that'll be the labour ward ;-0Quote:
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atsukina - here they can't make you do anything however if you do any thing apart from what they want you to do the guilt is squarley at your door i still could have a home birth thou with twins it would be too risky i feel. i'm hoping to push for the midwife lead centre where i had my ds1&2 its lo vely and three meters from labour ward in case of problems
that's good that you do hhave the final say and there aren't actual laws against it. nice to have the labor ward and be allowed to go vaginal. Here it is almost an automatic c-section. I have seen pics online of women having vaginal but you would be very hard pressed to find an ob and hospital that would allow it even fullterm and healthy pregos. Same goes for vbacs and breech. Just hard to find an ob to do it. Here ob's do most hossy births. Some hospitals do have nurse midwives but it is rare and they are under docs so not like having a homebirth midwife. glad you don't have to see the other lady again. maybe you can find one that has done twins naturally:)
thought I would bump this up:)
how is everyone doing?
my iron has been pretty low so trying to bump that up. saw a chiro for back pain and to keep babe all good and lined up so hopefully I can have another easy birth(well as easy as having a baby can be lol)
Hi ladies Im ok - suffering terribly with SPD but just makes me more determined to get my HB again as i really want to be in the water and there is talk that if this baby is big ( measuring 3 weeks ahead ) then they want to induce at 37-38 weeks but as Im allergic to pitocin and its unlikely a sweep would work that early that only leaves sintocinin ? (spelling) and that means a drip, close monitoring and being on a bed which is definately not in my birth plan !!
My doula came to visit me again today - I dont really need one but I just found it helpful last time to have someone around that knew what I wanted and made sure the midwives stuck to it - last time despite birth plan saying delayed cord clamping they went to do right after birth until my doula piped up - things id forget to say at the time !!
why are they so worried about "big baby". it is a horrible scare tactic they use on women(whether babe really is "big" or not)
you have already birthed 2 children vaginally right? 37 weeks is too early for most babes