Due in December 2011

Well Lola, I am now almost 7 weeks and the last 2 days I have felt sooooo tired, barely able to keep my eyes open in the afternoon and mild nausea has started. I have put on about 3 pounds too, but only because I went underweight on the girl diet, so have gone back to eating normally now and feel so much better for the bit of extra weight. Clothes still fit though. Not sure how I will cope with my night shifts now I am so tired. Work do not know yet. I am a nurse.

As for the whole jealousy thing, after I had DS3, everyone had girls that year, most already had 1 son already, so got the 'perfect' 1 of each. It killed me inside, made me so sad and jealous. Everyone at work bar about 3 people now has one of each, and it is so hard to deal with. In fact I don't get gender desire all the time, it comes in waves, and especially when someone I know has a girl. My brother and sister don't have kids, nor do they look like they will for several years if ever, so I don't have that to worry about, but it would be nice to be a aunty!!

Lola, I started wearing one size larger jeans about the time I got my BFP, and I'm stretching them out nicely now :) . I lost some weight while being on the alkaline diet, so it's nice to have a range of clothes to grow back into! On the jealousy, though, the fertility envy was definitely worse than the gender envy in the end! I hope your sister gets pregnant :) !

Puked today, by the way. But I was eating tuna. It's been so long, I'd forgotten I'm not supposed to :worry: . We only ever eat salmon otherwise. Now I feel bad. I need to do some reading... :oops:

The tiredness is beginning to get to me too, nicnee. I could hardly get up this morning, and little things just exhaust me. I'm sorry it's been so hard for you though. That sucks!

I am still a zombie from about 2pm-4pm each day, it has definitely hit me! Thankfully the nausea is not that bad this time around. I have way more food aversions that nausea. I think the worst new symptoms I have are headaches (probably because of cutting down on morning coffee....used to have a big cup, maybe 1 1/2 normal cups worth on way to work, now it is unappealing), and being sort of depressed feeling! That just hit me the other day. I've had this blase downer attitude, saying stuff like "It's probably another girl" and being very unlike myself. I think my brain is playing hormonal tricks on me. Grrrrrr.........

This is just such a wierd time for me, psychologically.....as this is our last. I don't want to know what the baby is, I don't want to be upset and have a bummer pregnancy and have to deal with all the comments and know that I'll never raise a son. It's like I only want to know if it's a boy, but of course, DH and the kids want to know, so I will surely cave in and find out with them. I think I'm just anxious anyway, since I have my 8 week appt in 2 days and still don't even know if this bean is alive and kicking yet.

Oh, Lola, I'm sorry you're feeling so down! I hope you feel better after your appointment. If it's any consolation, I've been feeling extremely moody lately, too. Maybe it's something that will pass. At the weekend, I usually have a nap if I'm feeling moody and quarrelsome, and I actually feel much better afterwards, like the rest just makes it go away. It saves my DH some grief, so he doesn't care if he has to cook or do other things :) .

Hey girls, I had a pretty unfortunate appointment, needless to say. I posted in pregnancy loss about it. I'm pretty gutted, just feeling like I don't want to start over again, I don't want to go back to freaking opks and swaying and whatnot. I've been doing this ttc thing for 8 months, and was so ready to be really crossed over into baby land. Hope you girls are feeling well, and I am going to keep checking in! HUGE FX for a baby girl for you nicnee and a blue bean for you, Freya!

I posted in your loss forum Lola, but again I am so sorry that this has not worked out for you.
I know I wouldn't want to go back to the diet and swaying, so I can see how you feel, but I hope you can find the courage to try again, even if you set yourself a time limit. I hear people conceive quickly after a loss.
Whatever you decide, I hope it all works out for you.

OMG Lola, I'm so very sorry, how absolutely gutting! I really understand that you don't want to sway again, but if you decide to try again, swaying or not, my fingers are firmly crossed for you!

My warmest thoughts to you and your family, and I hope you all get through this difficult time :heart: .

Thanks girls, I am feeling a bit more positive although still just angry at the world for letting this happen. We'll try again, because my DH is the stepdad to my kids and this would be his only bio child, so I don't want to let go of that dream for him. Hope you gals are doing well and feeling better!

I'm glad you haven't lost all hope at least, Lola. GL with your next attempt!

How are you doing Nicnee? Any m/s yet?

I was just worrying over the weekend over my lack of increasing symptoms, only to wake up yesterday with heartburn and spots all over my face (yep, my turn now ;) )! I have trouble sleeping as well, as I get very hot around 4 am despite the fact that the room is 10-15 degrees celsius.

Let's hope the next month doesn't get too tough!

I haven't been sleeping either.We had a hot spell in the UK and I keep waking up feeling too hot. My face is still covered with spots, but M/S only coming intermittently when I am hungry or tired. I have felt quite well overall, but every so often I get 2 or 3 days when I am so exhausted I can barely move. I guess that is a growth spurt. Also had increase in appetite which seems to occur a day or 2 before I get really tired.

The boys have just gone back to school after their Easter hols, and we went out most days to parks, open spaces, and even a theme park, so I reckon I did too much last week. Am in bed at 9pm tonight!!

Got my 1st appointment with the midwife tomorrow. It may seem more real then.
Got some dull aches, like period pain today. Like I said, I reckon it's a growth spurt!!

Hope everyone else is well. Hope Lola is OK.

Hi ladies was wandering if i could join you here, im only 4/5 weeks bjt got a really early bfp so it feels like ive been pregnant longer lol! EDD is around the 30th december 2011 going by O,
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Welcome, wishing on a star :welcome: How are you feeling so far?

I get the same phases of symptoms as you, nicnee, which I find very reassuring :) . Sometimes, however much I sleep, it just isn't enough, and I spent the entire Easter unable to get out of bed in the mornings (my MIL was visiting, and all the activities just crushed me). I also have my 1st appointment soon, next week, although I feel I won't be able to relax completely until the ultrasound in week 16. So far off!

When are your first ultrasounds, ladies?

FREYA ive had slight nausea now for about 3 days and the tiredness has really kicked in today!! I dont mind at the moment though as i get so paranoid in the first few weeks that everythings ok so having pregnancy symptons good or bad is fine by me lol!! Hoping the nausea dosent get to bad as had it really bad with ds2!
I know this is so silly as i feel so grateful to be pregnant but im going through kind of a neurotic phase where i keep analysing my sway. Instead of focusing on all the things i did right i keep picking at the things i did wrong, its really getting me down! I know its probably to do with my hormones and whats done is done but i cant help myself is this normaL?!
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I think we're all fretting over something, wishing on a star. Personally, I'm terrified that something will go wrong, but if I didn't have that to worry about, I might be more concerned about something else. I'm so glad I have an appointment on Tuesday, so at least I can chat about my worries...

I'm sorry you're feeling tired, but at least you're joining a club of exhausted ladies ;) . I need 9-10 hours a night or I get into such a state that I can't work becasue my brain just shuts down. I'm feeling quite low at the moment, but I'm holding out until week 12. I agree though, nausea is reassuring if anything :bigsmile: .

How did your appointment go, nicnee?

Hi Freya and welcome Wishing!
Haven't been on here in several days, so busy here. 2 of my boys have chickenpox, I have a written essay and exam to do on Fri for a course I am doing, so working hard on that, so no time for anything but being mum and student!!
My appt with m/w was fine. She said I would be OK for another home birth, should everything progress OK. Had bloods taken, B/P was fine, low as usual. Should get a scan appointment for 2-3 weeks time. 1st scan will be at 12-14 weeks, 2nd at 20 weeks. She is a new m/w for me as we recently moved house and changed GP surgery, but turns out she was the m/w that delivered DS2 at my first home birth!
I am feeling under the weather, sore throat and headache, but luckily I have had chickenpox, so boys don't pose a risk to me.
Still not much nausea, at times I am really tired, boobs sore, but not as big as with the boys and spots (on my face) have died down a bit.
Hope everyone else is OK??

Sorry to hear about the chickenpox, nicnee, I hope the boys are not too bad! And such bad timing for your course as well! Hopefully the boys will feel better soon. How nice to know your m/w! I got a new one this time as well, because my old clinic moved, and it's a bit weird.

I had my appointment too, and it turns out I can elect to have an early ultrasound if I want, so I'm really pleased (apparently, they don't want worried ladies there :) ). They're going to find out whether the baby is rhesus negative (I'm negative myself) through a simple bloodtest, isn't that amazing? I never heard of it before.

My nausea is peaking now, and it's concentrated a bit on the mornings, which is nice for a change as I get some time off in the afternoons ;) . Still, I wear the acupressure wristbands all day now, really can't wait for it to go...

Hope you're feeling happier, wishing!

How's everyone feeling? I'm actually beginning to feel a bit better on the occasional day now :fx: .

Well I have had a lot of tiredness lately and seem to need a nap most afternoons!! No nausea though, some bloating and indigestion. I'm finding the 2 mile round trip to school 3 times a day hard and if I can I do the lunchtime run in the car.
Overall I have felt well though with the odd days of feeling terrible. This has definitely been my easiest 1st trimester of the 4!!
Working the night shifts is hard at the minute, especially since work do not know yet, so no easing up on me!!
Still my coursework is over, so that is one less stress and I can relax in the evenings now (when I am not at work!!)
Hope everyone else is well, or coping well enough!!

I'm glad to hear it's not so bad for you nicnee, although it's a shame you have to work nights when you're so tired!

How are you feeling, wishing?

I'm on some sort of weird rollercoaster, feeling fine sometimes and then suddenly so tired, bloated and nauseous that I can't focus on my work. Pretended I had a virus this week so that I could stay home and rest :rolleyes: . Still, better than last time for me, too. Let's hope it means something, genderwise :) .

Hi freya, seem to be able to cotrol the nausea a bit better now but it seems to be worse around late afternoon, early evening, only way to stop it is to eat lol. I have a lot of indigestion with this pregnancy too, everything i eat repeats on me, its not even as if im eating anything strong tasting either. Tiredness isnt to bad at the moment although if i can i will have a little rest late afternoon. Had an early ultrasound this week and baby measured 5 days bigger although im quite sure when i O'D so maybe its just having a growing spurt. I keep comparing all my symptons to my other 2 pregnancies, there are a lot of similarities to ds2 but then that pregnancy was so different to ds1. I seem to be looking into everything lol
Has everyone decided wether they are going to find out babys sex or not?
Anyone have any gut instincts as to what they are having?
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I'm extremely curious about the gender, wishing, so I will find out for sure :bigsmile: . Can't until the 30th june, when I can ask. I have my first ultrasound on Friday, so I'll have a peek for sure, although I'd be more focused on the results of the screening. It's a bit scary, I've become so attached to this bump now, I don't know what I'd do if anything was wrong. I think of my bump as a boy, so it would be weird if it's a girl. Still, I'd be equally happy for a healthy girl!

Sorry you've got all that indigestion, I totally sympathise! Do you have any feeling for what you've got in there, wishing?

I have my first USS tomorrow to confirm my dates. My EDD from LMP is 30/11/11, but I know I didn't O until CD 22, so I expect a week to be added to that. Will be nice to have a confirmed EDD though!!
I am quite excited to see baby. As I have had very few symptoms I keep telling myself maybe something is wrong!! But then in the last week my boobs have gone up a size and are very tender and I have a little tummy now. I think I can feel the top of my uterus just above my pubic bone too, so perhaps there really is a growing baby in there!!
I don't think I will find out the gender in 8 weeks time. If it is a girl I want it to be a surprise and although I would rather know if it is a boy, I also don't want to spend the 2nd half of my pregnancy disappointed and not enjoying my last pregnancy. So overall I think it best I don't know, although that said, I 'knew' without a doubt that DS2 and DS3 were boys by the time I was full term.
My initial gut feeling with this one was that it is a boy. I think if I convince myself of that, then the worst that can happen is I get what I expect and the best outcome is a marvellous surprise!!
Hope everyone else is well?

Ive been telling myself that this one is a ds too so that way i wont be dissappointed but something deep down tells me its a girl. Everytime i get that thought i try and block it out as i cant let myself believe that and then turn out to be wrong. I wont be dissapointed if it is another ds but i think i will feel sad for the little girl that ill never have, that thought is very hard to come to terms with.
I try not to but i do think about the gender on a daily basis, it dosent help when other people make comments like 'i bet you want a girl' and 'im sure its another boy'. Ive told everyone that i think its another boy so they dont go on about it. I think half the time womens GD stems from other peoples opinions and thoughts and not our own, if we genuinley knew people were happy for us and didnt feel sorry for us if we didnt get a mixed gender family we could probably deal with things better when the time came.
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We only started telling people a few days ago, and then it was only our closest family and friends and I have already had 'I bet you want a girl this time', to which I always answer that is something I have no control over, so there is no point yearning for it. Everyone expects me to find out what gender this one is at 20 weeks too, perhaps another reason for me to be stubborn and not find out!! Although I will look for gender clues at both this scan and the next one.

I feel quite calm this time and open to the idea of DS4. If it is a boy then it wasn't meant to be for me to have a daughter and I can make my peace with that, although it will always be hard when others have a baby girl.

Scan went OK. 1 baby in there, due 6th Dec which was exactly what I (and fertility friend) predicted. Nuchal fold measured 2.5-2.8 mm, so a bit concerned that is above average, but should get down's results in next week or so.

My initial thought was that it looked boyish, but later in the scan it looked girly. Will try to post my scan pics to get some nub guesses.

Glad went ok hunny, i know a few people who had the same result as you but all results came back fine so try not to worry too much about it. Did u manage to post your pics?
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Will try to post tonight. Didn't have time last night and may need the help of my IT professional husband!!

Hi new here due December 10th! We're hoping for a girl, and posted my first ultrasound last night. I have a 3 year old son, and DH is firm (right now ;)) in only having two.

Hello Mrs S! I have 3 boys aged 6, 4 and 2. This is definitely the last one. Everything crossed for a girl, but I am trying not to get my hopes up and am imagining life with 4 boys!!
I will post my 12 week scan pics tonight if I can work it out. Got my DH on the case at the minute!!

Just to let you guys know I managed to post my 12 week scan pics in the ultrasound gender prediction forum. Took some doing to get the files small enough!!
Please have a peek and let me know what you think, if you have any nub theory knowledge!!

How exciting, nicnee, I'll have a look (not that I know much about it but still...;) )!

It's wonderful to see the baby, isn't it? I had my scan yesterday, and it was just amazing to see the little thing! I got a low risk for all the chromosomal tests as well, which is nice. My baby was upside down, so no nub prediction for me :( . My impression was girl, though, so I got just a little bit sad, just because all the effort we put in. But, as DH said, we won't know for another month, so there's no point thinking anything, really. I suppose we're all prepared for the worst, now!

I got a due date prediction for end of November (28-30), but I'm not sure I quite believe it. If it only depends on the O date, I'm sure I couldn't have Oed before my LH surge :suprise: .

Welcome, Mrs S! Nice to see you here :) ! And belated congrats :celebrate: !

Freya, you had your scan!!! Fantastic:) I've been wondering if it was due, thats great news on all the results, do you have any pics to post even upside down ones, I love scan pics they are just do special aren't they. Still fingers firmly x'ed for blue for you xx

Great stuff Freya!! My due date from LMP was 30th Nov, but I didn't ov until CD22, so I knew I had to add a week to that. I estimated the 6th Dec and that is exactly what the scan showed. Shame you didn't get a good nub shot, although I guess all we do if we do get a good shot is obsess over it!!
I was surprised to get such a good shot as baby was not being very co-operative and seemed to be trying to get away from the ultrasound probe!! Also with my boys the shots were all really fuzzy. But back then a midwife did the 12 week scan and it was just for dating, no nuchal fold measurement.
I agree though, it makes it more real and reassuring to see baby moving and see the heart beating. Hope you get your blue, despite your instincts. I have to say I really felt mine was a girl from looking at the images on screen and now lots of pink guesses from the nub shot. I really hope everyone is right, but I still daren't hope!!

Thank you ELP and nicnee :heart: ! Just for fun, here's a link to the pics: Scanpics. I have no scanner so I had to take a photo of the printouts lol.

They certainly seem to move around a lot nicnee, I think mine was sucking a thumb briefly and bouncing up and down :) !

I have another appt next week (june 8th) and I'm hoping another ultrasound (I'll be 13 weeks 4 days)..hope to get a good shot of the nub to get some accurate guesses!

Good luck, Mrs S! Looking forward to seeing the pics :) !

I had my Down's risk back and I was right to be concerned about the size of the nuchal translucency measurement. My Down's risk has come back at 1 in 15 and I now have to decide whether to have the amniocentesis test or not. I really don't know what to do, but I wish all this would go away.

Oh, no nicnee, I am so sorry, how awful for you :( ! I guess that decision will be different for every family, and you will just have to go with what your heart tells you. I hope you can find decision that you are happy with :heart: :luck: .

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I had my Down's risk back and I was right to be concerned about the size of the nuchal translucency measurement. My Down's risk has come back at 1 in 15 and I now have to decide whether to have the amniocentesis test or not. I really don't know what to do, but I wish all this would go away.

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Hey Preggies, just checking in to say HI.....nicnee, I wanted to offer hugs and prayers for your situation. That is a hard decision, indeed, and you will do the right thing for your family. Just remember that although odds are odds, and they are never fun to stare down....1 in 15 is still not bad and also keep in mind that the odds of the amnio being fine in regards to not causing problems for your baby are good also.

Thanks Lola. DH said the same thing, so we are going ahead with the amnio. Just so I can know either way and not stress about it for the next 6 months.

Hope you are OK Lola. Still planning on TTC again in a couple of months?? I'll keep my eye out for you around the forums.