You can always wait until she's born and then see which "fits" her better. That's what we did when I had my dd after 2 boys. We were torn between 3 names but I knew which one to choose as soon as I saw her :)
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You can always wait until she's born and then see which "fits" her better. That's what we did when I had my dd after 2 boys. We were torn between 3 names but I knew which one to choose as soon as I saw her :)
Eliana definitely grows on me too!
I don't put much stall into name popularity, although I do try to stay out of the top 20 (my youngest name now is in the top 20 lol bah!)
I think they are both good choices - but to choose I'd go with the one that sounds better with Logan and that would have to be Ava for me. Logan and Ava.
I have to admit I am biased towards Ellie as well, and unfortunately not in a good way!
Ava Sophia is adorable and Sophia is on your list too!
If you really like Eliana and Ava could you not use both in some form? I'd never heard of Eliana before this forum (i think spinning like it to) but it is really pretty and there is a lot of scope for what she could do with it in the future to determine who she wants to be (i like names that kids can put their own spin on when they are older)
Boys:Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetpea
Owen
Noah
Zachary
Girls:
Amelia
Gianna (maybe nn Gia or Gigi) This one is my favorite btw.... Giabella (my own twist) was my only choice my last pregnancy.
Sophia
There's always Eva as an alternative to AvaQuote:
Originally Posted by sweetpea
Twins how exciting. I am biased as I have a Joshua Eli, two of the names on your boy list and I love it because he can be a Joshua or a Josh and it is always a cool name. I also like Leo . I love the name Ava but if you wanted a variant on the name that isn't so popular you could think about Ada ! Have fun choosing x
I would love to do this, because in my mind, I have a different vision of what an Ava would look like compared to an Eliana. I'd love to wait and see which name fits her better, but I'm afraid if I do that, then a couple that we know (who won't be finding out the sex of their baby until about a month from now) will choose Eliana if their baby is a girl. And then, that would be that. I think we just need to pick a name now and stick with it, because I can't just "claim" two names until she's born, kwim?Quote:
Originally Posted by lovemy4
Sweetpea i would claim Eliana now, tell your friend thats your choice, then you can change your mind after your daughter is born if you feel like she is an Ava instead, but it would be a shame to lose Eliana now.
I would tell them that you are going to name your baby girl Eliana then. If she doesn't look at all like an Elle when she's born then go with something else.
I love the name Aveline.. It's almost a crossover of eliana and ava?
Either way, I'd claim it if you think there's a good chance you'll use Eliana. :)
Hmm. . .what about Aviana (A-vee-ah-na)?
Sweatpea,my jaw dropped once I saw ur list of girl names,u cant believe it maybe,but Juliana,Liliana,and Gianna are the three names that I have on my list for my girly girl that Im swaying for In March hopefully.
Id go with Lilliana for ur princess,and for ur prince,even though the name isnt on ur list,I ADORE the name LUKAS.....sigh....
Lukas and Lilliana, how lovely is that........thud
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Sort of an update...
I talked with my sister today on the phone and after talking it out, I realized that I really did love the name Ava over Eliana. I realized that Eliana (especially Ellie or Elle) just does not sound good with our last name. The more we talked, the more I realized that Ava was the right name for our baby girl.
So, I got off the phone, and said to DH, "Okay...so, what about Logan and Ava as their names?" And he said, "I've been saying that all along!" LOL. I love the way they sound together, and it was like a huge weight was lifted off my chest because I wouldn't have to worry about the other friend of mine who is pg choosing Eliana. I was okay with that, because Ava just felt right.
Well, I texted my SIL later in the day to tell her we chose our names. When I told her it will be Logan and Ava, she said, "Oh Ava is our pick too!" Uh, I kind of had a feeling she'd say something like that. She's not pg, I don't think she's even trying yet, and she already has a DD (and a DS). Anyway, we kept texting for a bit, and she flat out told me that she still plans on using the name Ava if she ends up having another girl. Ummm? Her and I married brothers, so we have the same last name. And we hang out a LOT - which means our kids hang out a lot. So, our daughters would BOTH be Ava ____ (same last name)? Like, as in the EXACT same name? How weird is that? I was shocked she said that, and now I'm worried that if we chose the name Ava, that she'll end up getting pg with a girl and also choose that name. WTH?! She already has a daughter, she already experienced that blissful ignorance where she got to choose whatever name on earth she wanted for her daughter. And she chose Emma. She got to pick her favorite girl name, now it's my turn, isn't it? Why should I have to forfeit the name I love most for my daughter, who actually exists, for a hypothetical niece I may never even have?
I feel like I've been kicked in the gut. My SIL won't budge -- if she gets pg with a girl and I've chosen Ava, then we will have two Ava's in the family (with the exact same last name). That seems so stupid to me. I don't want my daughter to have the exact same name as her cousin.
I don't know. I don't want to be selfish, but don't I have the right to name my daughter what I want, without all the drama? I just don't want to compromise on a name I love for the one and only daughter I will ever have, just because my SIL *might* have another girl someday. But then again, I don't want to set up my daughter for an awkward situation when/if my SIL does end up having another girl, and naming her the exact same thing.
Ugh. Why can't anything be simple anymore?
(really, really sorry for the vent - I just needed to get this all out)
I always say keep your dream name to yourself to avoid such unnecessary drama with family and friends. Sweetpea, I'm so sorry you are going though this.
My SIL threw out some MAJOR family drama when I named my DS#2 the second name choice she had for her first daughter. (And I didn't remember that was her name pick until after he was named) And she didn't get pregnant with her second daughter until 2 yrs after I named him.
So she played this game and tried to get my dream name out of me for my daughter so she could name her second daughter that. I wouldn't tell her, but someone else in the family did.. So anyway.. it was all a mind game complete with having her DH call mine. When she delivered she told my MIL it was never a serious name consideration.
USE the name you have picked! But I just wanted to throw in something cute you might like..
Elayna or Alayna.
Aw babe -- she will be the one that looks ridiculous if she names her (hypothetical) next daughter the same as yours. I honestly would just tell her that its her choice what she does in her imagination but you are naming your daughter Ava and if she really wants to be the follow up act to your most beautiful princess then she can answer to her daughter in years to come. ;) what a biatch though, seriously...
I agree that she will be the one that looks like a complete idiot. She's not even preg and I would hope that her dh and other family members would talk some sense into her if that should be the case.
Thanks, ladies. Your replies make me feel a bit better. I guess it would be her looking foolish in the end, not me. I just don't want my DD to feel stupid later in life, having a cousin with the exact same name. How weird. And the funny thing is, my SIL doesn't even think it's an issue. She said she would call her (potential) DD by her first and middle name -- Ava Grace -- and I would only be calling my DD by her first name. But still, Ava and Ava Grace, with the same last name, is still essentially the SAME name. Just so weird to me.
I wish I could just keep our name choices a secret until the birth, but she is also the type of person who could get a positive pregnancy test next week, and announce that the baby will be Ava, if it's a girl and (?) if it's a boy. So, if I keep our name choice a secret, then she would look like the one who chose the name first. If we do go ahead and choose the name Ava, we need to just put it out there officially and announce it, I think. Like I said...she's not even pregnant!
Ughhhh, drama! This is so stupid. I finally get my one and only girl, and I can't just happily name her what I want. :mad: So frustrating.
I am so sorry!! Everyone is right... she will be the one that looks like a fool. Especially since she didn't make it known that Ava was what she wanted her next daughter's name to be. Besides she may never have another girl and then you would be really pissed that you changed the name you wanted for something that never happen. She might change her mind or maybe her husband won't like the name. Talk it over with your DH. Chances are when you start letting everyone in your family know that you have chosen the name Ava she is going to look like a fool. She got her first pick at a girl name and she chose Emma. I doubt her husband will be okay with the idea of naming their daughter after YOUR DD:)
I would call her bluff. Whoever actually HAS the baby (girl or boy) has first dibs I think, and you are right that she had her chance to pick her favourite girl name and it was NOT Ava. She may never end up having another girl, and it would be sad if you forfeited your favourite name for your long awaited (and very hard fought for) daughter for a child that may never exist (or how annoying would it be if you changed your name for her, then she had a girl and didn't even end up using the name? Possible). I reckon she is trying to make you back down and back away from the name or call claim to it by insisting that she will still use it... but in reality several months or years down the track when your precious Ava is in the world and everyone associates that name with her beautiful niece, it would be very suprising if she actually went ahead with calling her daughter the same name. Plus her DH would have to agree and hopefully he wouldn't be silly and insensitive enough. She is probably a bit shocked at the moment as we all are when we found out someone has used "our" name (happened to me the other day) but there are many beautiful girl names in the world and she has plenty of time to get falling in love with another one. It may even not be her first pick, just one of several on a short list but she is trying to "call" it because it is one of several she liked and wanted to have open as an option. It is inappropriate of her in my opinion. Cant wait until your beautiful Ava joins you - don't let her take the shine off the name or this experience for you through her selfish behaviour. It is NOT all about her, despite the fact she is trying to make it be.
What hoping said 100%. Don't not use the name Ava because of a possibility. I am in the same situation with a cousin, different last name but she is pissed I am using the name Theodore saying she staked claim in it long ago because ts our grandfathers name and she wanted to honor him and it means more coming from her than me...wtf?! Yeah I am totally using the name...why because she isn't pregnant, I am and I am having my third boy and I'm going to damn well name him what I please.
Oh we had that too when we named DS2. The name we picked was also, coincidentally, the same name my younger sister and my SiL wanted. My sister accepted by declaring the name Lucca of bounds then, which I agreed too. But my SiL.. who has never had a boyfriend and doesn't even want kids is still fuming over it 2 years later! Christ almighty!
SO, if we ever have anymore kids, we are just going to tell them different names than the ones we are planning on using and then announce it after the birth.
Use the name Ava. You love it. It makes you happy and they may never have another dd. Don't let a hypothetical situation deter you from choosing the name you want.
Noah & Amelia or Elijah and Sophia :nursetwins: Congratulations on your twins!! Such a blessing! Did you sway or take clomid? Look forward to hearing your choices x
Sophia rose she took clomid and has posted her sway if you fancy a peak.
Sweetpea call them Ava and Logan its not only really cute its what you really want. Your little person will be the first and original and she will look stupid to everyone if she copies you and i'm sure when the times comes she would not let that happen to her daughter. She may even not have another daughter! You have waited long enough name your little girl the name you love.
Just as an fyi i had a similar story. I have always liked the name Lily and it was a my girl name for all three of my boys, my SIL found out she was pregnant just after i had ds3 and guess what she was proposing to call her - yep my name! I was adamant and told everyone it was my name and she'd look stupid as i'd use it if were to have a girl, everyone knew it was our name and after three boys i reserved the right. Anyway she had a boy and i named my female puppy Lily just to prove a point! Silly i know but she really rubs me up the wrong way on purpose. Now i have the potential chance to name a daughter i don't want it anymore she put me off it. I have a new dream name for my potential little girl - people and their opinions do change and the fact that she liked it put me off - just cause she calls it now does not mean she will ever use it. Your Ava will have years on her and i'm sure other family members would put her off etc if common sense doesn't.
ps you know i love hearing everyones names, maybe we should update the roll call icons with their names to!
Thank you all so much for your replies, I really do appreciate it so much. :agree: DH and I mulled it over a bit, and realized that we're kind of screwed any way you look at it. If we don't use the girl name we love, then one of two things will happen: 1) SIL will have a girl next, and name her DD Ava, and then we'll always be a bit sad/mad that we didn't pick our favorite girl name, while they picked their TWO favorite girl names...OR 2) SIL will have a boy next, and then we didn't use the name we loved for absolutely NO reason at all. If we DO use the name, there's the possibility that our SIL will still use the name (which would make me so mad and make our family look stupid by having TWO Ava's with the SAME last name). So any way we go, it's not easy.
We just finally decided this weekend to pick the name we love, and be done with it. We have a little girl on the way NOW...they don't, or might not ever again. They already picked their favorite girl name, so now it's our turn. Whatever happens after that...oh well. I don't want to regret not choosing our favorite name and settling on something else.
So...our twins will officially be named Ava and Logan. I'm super happy with our choice, and it makes me laugh that I even created this thread, because looking back at the original post, I realize now that my heart had already made the choice. ;)
Lovely names and good on, they are a dream come true so why should their names be any less special than them x
Awww, that was really sweet, MrsP. It made me smile, thank you. :)
Good on you sweetpea, i really doubt your SIL would want to have the exact same name child if she ever has a DD, i think its great you got it 1st.
Thank you, Cinss! I agree. I hope the name will grow old to her and she'll pick something else if/when she ever has another DD. :agree:
i have a noah he's ds2 absolute cutie, i love joshua too ds1 was nearly joshua
ava rose is so lovely
what an exciting choice to have to make!
ahhh read whole thread that's a lovely choice sweetpea, ignore the baby that gets born fist gets the name simple as ;-0
Thank you, fish! :) I hope we're making the right decision.
Ok, so I've created a poll on the Baby Names website and I'd love to hear what you ladies think! Just click on the link and vote "thumbs up" or "thumbs down" on each name combo. I'd love to see what you guys like and don't like from our list! This is our last time naming babies, and the only shot we get at naming the only girl we will ever have, so I'm feeling really picky about names this time around! :p
I really like all 5 boy name combos I have on our list. I'd probably be equally happy with any one of those names. The girl name is a lot harder for me...like I said above, I'm feeling really picky and indecisive about her name.
Anyway, go ahead and vote! Thanks so much! ;)
Here's the link: Sweetpea's Name List