praying for a healthy pregnancy for you all...and that you all get those little princesses you are dreaming of! the fear is hard to let go of..this is out of our hands <3
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praying for a healthy pregnancy for you all...and that you all get those little princesses you are dreaming of! the fear is hard to let go of..this is out of our hands <3
"life begins where fear ends" -- I like that Ladybug. I feel like that pertains to me a lot because I was so fearful for so long of letting go control of what the gender of my baby would be. I couldn't imagine getting pregnant on my own because I had to do ht over and over again to make sure it was a girl. Then I couldn't imagine getting pregnant without at least swaying and "trying" to make sure it was a girl. I was so fearful that if I didn't try -- it would never be a girl.
But in the back of my head, I felt like if I did try it would end up a boy, and if I could just let go and stop trying then I would finally be gifted with a dd. It took me over 2 years to do that -- but I find it strange that after 2 1/2 years of trying so hard for a dd and to get pg, the 1 month I did nothing at all and did not even try to get pg was the month it happened. I just feel like if there is a higher power out there -- then it just has to be a girl.
I just want one of those happy endings you know. The kind you read about from everyone else but think will never happen to you in your wildest dreams. For once I just want to be that lucky one.
LMAO @ dibs on my man! haha You all CAN HAVE him... he's driving me crazy! hahaha Noooo, I know I'm lucky... a lot of husbands don't want too many children but I have the opposite problem. He wants a huge family and he REALLY wants a daddy's girl. While it's nice to share that desire with him, it also adds a layer of pressure because we will BOTH have gender disappointment if this is a boy.... I have often said that he married the wrong woman because I can't seem to keep a pregnancy to save my life. I'm not exactly "fertile gertle" LOL
First of all, glad you joined the due date group! I was wondering when you were gonna come in :)Quote:
Originally Posted by prayforprincess
I know exactly what you're talking about re the fear of disappointment and letting go! I think you have a very realistic view of this pregnancy though, and the fact that you FINALLY got pg when you let go of the need to control the situation tells me that *someone* up there has been listening to you! Know what I mean? I'm not a very religious person, but I have to say that God will not give you more than you can handle. If by chance you are having a boy, then there is absolutely a reason for it... a lesson to be learned and wisdom for you to impart on others. Now, will you be thrilled? No. But you will love the baby regardless.
I say all of that, but deep down I have the exact same fear as you do. I can't imagine God would be so cruel to take away the DD I had, only to make me TTC for almost a year and then give me a boy! NO WAY... it's got to be a girl. LOL
We have paid our dues... it's time for us to experience the miracle! :)
Could this thread be stickied please?? :)
Gut instinct gender guess anyone?? This could be fun!
I'll go first... I'm going to guess GIRL for me! (wishful thinking, I know LOL)
Anyone else want to guess? :)
I'm thinking BOY here. My friend just found out she's having her third boy...they are done. Why me and not her? I have 4 sets of aunts/uncles that all have 3 boys only. I think that's just what's meant to be in our family. And I've never been the type to win the lotto, or drawings, or heck - even bingo..so I'm really thinking this is no exception ;) But a girl can DREAM! :) It will be a fun nine months day-dreaming about it.
I hear you amk -- I have never been the lucky one either.
I don't know, something tells me girl for this one but I'm not sure if that's because I really want it and don't know how it could be any other.
Yet something tells me boy too because I feel I could never be that lucky to have my dream gender finally and I have never been one for happy endings. Or like if it is a girl -- then she will give me total hell when she is a teen and put me through the ringer! Like, you get what you want now but its not all peaches and cream -- she'll be the worst baby or something and not sleep til she's 2.
I don't know any other than being pregnant with a boy so for sure that's where my mind goes cause I know no other. kwim?
Wow all of you are so good at putting my feelings into words that I haven't given myself chance to process yet. Lol! It's amazing to find like-minded ladies who totally get it and like you I just don't know which way to call it. I have never been in such a poor condition with such a low body weight before, plus I took Clomid so my heart says girl. However, my head just assumes it'll be another little boy and won't let me get carried away with believing it's a girl. I think that I'm living in the moment and don't want to take anything for granted so am only looking ahead no more than 2-3weeks at a time just in case. I guess 18 months of living in fortnightly increments has made me very adept at not looking too far ahead to stop me upsetting myself! I sound like a right nut job, hey?! Dh actually mentioned names this evening :) Perhaps I'll believe it all a bit more once I see the midwife on Thurs. Focussing so much on ds1 and his fractured ankle that I sometimes forget about being pg. Mind the progesterone's certainly kicking in early and giving me a very stiff & sore pelvis and hips from doing a bit too much. The fore-runner of spd that I had with both ds. :(
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Absolutely! My cousin always says to be careful what you wish for :DQuote:
Originally Posted by prayforprincess
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I felt strongly at 6 weeks preggo with DS1 that he was a boy, with DS2, I wished with all my might that the baby inside was a girl.....and I can't say that I feel one way or the other this time around.
I firmly believe that you longtime or skinnymini or surprise mamas will have little girls in the Christmas season. If I am forced to guess a gender for myself, I will protect my emotions and say little boy.
As for lucky.....my DS1 has oodles of it...maybe that is one reason I should hope that I am preggo with his sister! I know that I am blessed with my little guys and for the next while, choose to let go of the fear that I will never have a daughter.
More than gender, I am stressing out about having a healthy "normal" baby. Out first was born with an oomphalocele (partial intestines still in umbilical cord) and second is autistic... I may not have the best genetics, or maybe it is just the luck of the draw, but I hope and pray that this one is healthy and has the best life he/she can!
Also, anyone have hcg levels checked? Mine almost quadrupled in 48 hrs. I know it doesn't tell you much, but I hope higher than norm is ok too.
After having so many losses, I worry sick about having a "normal" baby too :( or ANY baby for that matter! Gender desire pales in comparison to that fear for me right now, which is why I talk about gender so much... it distracts me from my real fear....Quote:
Originally Posted by amk2013
I do think that is the reason I too am so keen on gender...it takes my focus off the truely stressful part of pregnancy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Charlee
No Hcg checks here...actually this is the first pregnancy that I have NOT had betas checked. Amk2013.....when is your first scan booked?
@ladybugs - I don't have a scan scheduled yet. Only the first appt which I only get labs drawn and don't even see the doctor. Kinda weird. That isn't until may 6.
Hi aftmjt did u find out?Quote:
Originally Posted by aftmjt
I was 6wks 6 days so hav to wait a bit longer, but heartbeat was seen on scan so fingers crossed all seemed ok.Quote:
Originally Posted by Huds
Looking at the scan and according to ramzis method it's anther girl. How accurate do people think ramzis method is
I would not put all my stock in anything like Ramzi and nubs.....would rather just know at the 20 weeks....although that sounds so far away!!!!
I woke up this morning so full of hope....hope of a great pregnancy with a VBAC delivery of my daughter at the end of it in Dec. Since I am choosing to live in the moment (hard core planner at heart!!!), this is my thought for the day. Why not enjoy this thought and deal with the reality of things after the big u/s???
We have great names chosen for either gender, my hubby and I repainted the nursery before I got pregnant and we already know how amazing new babies are!!! You all may ask what I am thinking other than this....I still have vast concerns about m/c, it is hard to not go down that path mentally, but it is not worth my worry at this moment.
I LOVE your enthusiasm Ladybugs! I have learned a lot from you and decided to adopt this same mindset... MUST. THINK. POSITIVE! LOL
I have my first appt tomorrow and I am both excited and nervous all at once! I am crossing my fingers that she will give me a dating scan, but she didn't do one till almost 8 weeks with my last pregnancy so I'm hoping she will do it earlier this time since I'm so worried... I thought about telling her I don't know my LMP so she is forced to do one.. LMAO.. She knows me very well though, and she knows that I temp and keep a chart so I'm not sure she's going to buy it :)
Is anyone else super hormonal? I think I've turned into a royal b*tch this time around! I'm usually so calm and collected, but this time I can't seem to keep my emotions under control... it's unnerving actually. I hoping this levels out pretty soon... I can't act like this the entire pregnancy LOL
Hope everyone is doing well :)
Charlee....my MD is the same way, there is no way that I could claim an opps and not know my LMP. I would love to have an early u/s, but I know it is not happening. My hormones are the opposite....relatively calm and cool, usually I am the firecracker!!! May your appt go smoothly and your doctor rx you your u/s ASAP!
Hey ladies....
Mind if I join you here? My due date is Dec 25th...though I have C Sections, so it'll be before then.
I tried for a year to have this baby, so WHY AM I FREAKING OUT??? :(
I'm so incredibly anxious right now...I don't know why.
Maybe hormones?? Anybody else feel this way?
Congrats and welcome BeadinMom!!!! Your story is amazing......and I wish you happy and healthy 9 months with a pink bundle at the end!!!
Of course you can join us Beadin! Congrats on your little Christmas bundle :)
I am feeling SUPER hormonal too... read royal b*tch... haha it might be a good sign that hormone levels are rising though, even though it's irritating LOL ... anyway, when did you get your bfp?
I am so happy for you :) I TTC 9 months this time (after my loss last year) so I know how rewarding those 2 lines are FINALLY. Crossing everything for a girl for you this time :)
Aww thanks Charlee!!
I got my BFP yesterday & even though we were trying...I'm still in shock...lol
I hope we all hear pink (except those wishing for blue!) this time!! :)
And thanks LadyBugs!!
Crossing fingers for pink for you, too!! :)
I am so anxious this time too after 3 you think I would be ok with it all, but even if I have the stilghtest pain or twinge I worry. I've also be sssoo exhausted these past few weeks but today I feel great and full of energy I just hope everything is ok can wait fr 12 week scan.Quote:
Originally Posted by BeadinMom
Congrats BeadinMom on your bfp
I'm sending all you ladies my pink dust but would love all your blue in return
If the gender of your unborn baby depended on our blue dust, there would be at least twin boys in there!!!!!!!!!!! Wishing you a fantastic pregnancy and a little man at the end of it!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by aftmjt
I am FREAKING out! I literally haven't stopped feeling anxious today. It was 6 months for us and I know I really wanted it, but now I'm scared thinking about 3 and likely 3 boys.. gah! I'm wondering if it's hormones too...Quote:
Originally Posted by BeadinMom
Just wanted to update you all... I had my first drs appt yesterday. She took pity on me and did an u/s... we saw a sac measuring 5 1/2 wks but no yolk sac or fetal pole. She said it's "not uncommon" to see these results at this stage, which is why she usually hesitates to do scans this early. Anyway, she did a hcg test yesterday and I go in for one on Saturday, with results coming back probably on Monday. This will give us a better indication if the pregnancy is coming along smoothly. Anyway, I was upset yesterday but after getting a good night's sleep I'm feeling better. I have decided to withhold all judgement until I get the results of my blood test back. FX for good news!
I am once again reminded how gender is the LAST thing I should be worried about...
Hope everyone else is doing well :)
Thinking of you, Charlee & saying a prayer...
MsBlakely, you described how I feel EXACTLY...except this will be #4 for me...my youngest being 7. Even though I've wanted this for a long time, I'm freaking out now. I have my first OB appt Tues & plan to talk to my doctor about it. I went through this with #3, too. I hate feeling this way.
Welcome Beadinmom!! So happy you are pg and in our dd group!
Did you stick with swaying hard core, or did you give up a little and just pray for a pregnancy?
I've been waiting for this a long time but am freaking out a little too. My oldest will be 8 1/2 when this baby is born, and my others will be almost 7 and 5. Such a gap and in a different place now I can't believe I am starting over again. Although who would have known it would take me 2 1/2 years to finally get pregnant!
Oh my Charlee! I am thinking of you. I hope everything goes well with your blood results.
I am scared for my u/s on Monday. They say I will be 6w1d, but I think I will be earlier because maybe I o'd a little late or it implanted late, hence the lower hcg level at first. I hope to god they see a heartbeat.
I remember when I started bleeding with the twins. I went in at 5w5d and they saw a heartbeat in one but not the other. I prayed I would only lose one and the little one with the heartbeat would hang on. But I started bleeding so badly and I think being so early the little one just couldn't hang on through all the trama. It was devastating :( Especially knowing they were my little girls.
Here's hoping and praying for a healthy healthy happy pg for all of us.
M/s has hit! I dry heaved so much last night that my stomach hurts still....and nothing sounded good this am.
I am a bundle of excitement, nerves, worry and anticipation....but compared to how I thought I might feel, I feel relatively calm. Doesn't that sound pregnant..or at least full of pregnancy hormones!!
Charlee....Monday is going to be here before you know it....enjoy your weekend...I hope that you have plenty of sun and fun with your boys.
Beadin'Mom....your boys are going to love having an itty bitty baby around! I am hoping that you are blessed with an easy pregnany....and that the anxiety about #4 melts way.
MsBlakely.....I feel some of those same feelings about a third...I was one of those who swore up and down that I would only have a even number of kids. I grew up as one out of three...always 2 against 1...and now I am going to do that to my kids. I hope that you get your long desired daughter!
Prayforprincess..this is a long weekend...waiting for your u/s! Sending up prayers and good vibes that your baby is growing on target!
I've never had this before with my previous pregnancies! I'm not sure if it's almost a depression thing or what. I literally couldn't sleep last night thinking about the pregnancy and what if they baby isn't healthy and born with something wrong. All this thoughts just keep swirling through my head and it's killing me. I've been feeling this way for the past 3 days, but it's been about the same amount of time that I've been really sick with M/S so I'm just wondering if it's a general down feeling. I am known to be a worrier so I'm not super shocked but I can't believe I feel this out of sorts! Glad to hear I'm not alone in this because I KNOW I wanted it... sure doesn't feel that way right now!Quote:
Originally Posted by BeadinMom
will be thinking of you charlee! praying for some good news :) :FX:
prayforprincess - will be thinking of you tomorrow as well! (hugs)
ladybugs - sorry about the morning sickness! but at least that's a good sign ;) I didn't really have much of that at all with my boys, so I'm almost praying for that this time as a sign that it's "different" and maybe a girl, haha. I feel okay for the most part, but riding in a car...omg, the worst car sickness. i have to drive if we go anywhere. so odd. never had that with my pregnancies either. guess it's fairly common tho..
I had such bad m/s with DS2 compared to that DS1, I would have sworn that he was all girl!!! This time around, I am dismissing any and all OWT!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by amk2013
Good thoughts and prayers for our girls getting their u/s and bloodworks tomorrow!!!!!
Sidenote to the m/s thing... I hardly had any with my first 3 pregnancies - all 3 boys. I had TONS the last pregnancy - girl! So it *could* be a sign, but then it could just be the pregnancy... I hope it IS a sign for you both :)
I will let you all know when I get the results back tomorrow... oh I hope it's good news :nails: