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2xblue I've only told my mum. We speak probably every second day and I just couldn't imagine talking to her so much without her knowing. I wont be telling anyone else until I've had the nipt and 12 week scan. Leaning more towards team green than yellow. Its my very last chance for a surprise at birth!
Gosh I could literally wish the time away to my 7 week scan! 16 days amd counting!
We haven't told anyone yet, but I'm considering telling my mom after I get my ultrasound at 6 weeks. Otherwise, we wait to announce until around 12-14 weeks. I joked with DH that maybe we don't tell anyone this time, just wait for them to notice my belly getting bigger and bigger. He didn't think that was a good idea. I'm just tired of hearing all the negative comments every time I'm pregnant. When I was pregnant with DS1 we took my MIL out to dinner to tell her (I was 7 weeks) and her response to DH was "You can't possibly be happy about that." FIL wanted us to abort. When we were pregnant with #2 it was all "This is the last one, right?" Then with #3 we were told we were stupid and when it turned out to be DD it was like "Good, you can stop now." With #4 it was back to telling us we were stupid and wanted us to abort again. Then when he was born at 30 weeks we got told-you-so and that there must be something wrong with him. I can only imagine what we'll hear with this pregnancy. They might have a point that we had too many if we were on government assistance and couldn't support ourselves, but that's far from being the case. They are the type of people to view children as a hindrance to doing whatever they want whenever they want. MIL had made the comment that she didn't know why people would willingly punish themselves with more than a kid or two. As you can imagine, I'm less than eager to want to announce this pregnancy due the rotten attitudes of my in-laws. LOL
I speak with my mom almost everyday on the phone and I really want to tell her! Maybe in two weeks time? I bet your mom was happy for you Pbn?
I love the idea of team green! I haven't ever done that and I have some serious thinking to do if I could do it this time. Would be amazing to find out at birth! Sometimes I feel like I really have to find out before but sometimes I'm really excited about the idea of getting the surprise at birth. Well there's plenty of time to think about it.
BunnyGirl, omg your in-laws sounds horrible. How can they even say something like that. I'm really sorry you had to go through that with every pregnancy and I totally understand you don't want to tell them. Big hugs to you!
My mum made it quite clear she didn't think it was a good idea when I mentioned wanting another child. She said she was worried about my health and the fact it would be another c-section but I think she thinks we are too old. She said she was happy for me but there was no real excitement lol. But that's ok. She was visiting when both boys were born. Ds1 was an emergency c-section which I know put her through the wringer and ds2 was scheduled so I really should be more understanding of her feelings and not assume she's thinking the worse... Wow what a world of difference a scheduled cs made! I was ready to go home the second day with ds2 lol!!
Bunnygirl what an awful reaction to receive from family about such wonderful news!! I cannot believe the word 'abort' was thrown around like that!! What on earth were they thinking????? How are they with the kids now? Do they have a good nanny/poppy relationship?
Thanks, but I'm pretty used to their attitudes by now. I just wish they didn't feel the need to vocalize their displeasure about everything not directly affecting them.
I haven't decided if we're going to find out or not this time. Last time was supposed to be a surprise, but that didn't work out for us. We ended up not getting it confirmed for certain and didn't tell anyone what we thought we were having though. We are leaning toward finding out, especially since we are clueless for boy names. Our girl name is set plus one extra girl name on the list if for some reason we can't or don't use our first choice.
The relationships aren't that good. They act like they are the best grandparents ever, but my kids never live up to their expectations. They don't act and converse like adults so there is something wrong with them. It took DS1 until 4 to fully potty train so I was a lazy, terrible mother for it. FIL tells everyone there is something wrong with all the kids and that I refuse to get them help, which primarily stems from them being on the slower side with speech even though speech evaluations said they were within range for age and didn't need therapy. Nothing is ever good enough and he compares them to all these other kids who, if his stories are to be believed, would be geniuses and so far above normal development for age anyway. All these "issues" are then blamed on me ignoring the kids, never doing anything with them, not putting them in daycare (I'm a SAHM since my oldest was 2), etc. It's really just an excuse to hate on me I think. In FIL's view, the more kids we have, the more difficult and less likely it is that DH will leave me and that I'm purposely getting pregnant over and over to trap him to me. Before we even had kids FIL told DH not to or he'd be stuck with me, the golddigger. LOL! FIL insisted we have a prenup drawn up before marriage stating that I got nothing in the event of the divorce, none of DH's business or money earned in the operation of the business. We never drew up a prenup, let alone sign one. DH just let FIL think we did. In actuality, we never told anyone when we were getting married either. We just went to the county clerk's office, told only our best friends to come witness, and then announced after the fact. Yeah, my in-laws are such bundles of fun. LOL
Wow Bunnygirl! Well good for you and dh for not letting them destroy your marriage! I can only imagine how awkard family functions would be! Makes me count my blessings that dh family are lovely people!! I hope one day your inlaws come to truly regret being such awful, mean negative people!
Oh and remember the best revenge against mean miserable people is by showing them how happy and nice you are regardless of their attitude! I imagine it must really rub salt in their wound :)
It does! We've been together 11 years and they're still waiting for us to fail. LOL
2x-no I didn't test this morning but I have everything ready to test again tomorrow. The kids and I are leaving grandparents house tomorrow morning so I'll prob. Tell DH when we get home. I found canvas at my parents home and traced/painted their hands on the canvas in birth order and then put a red heart for baby #3 and wrote birthdays and Edd on the bottom. I painted a trim around it and put painted the background.
My parents r going to the beach for the full month of February so I can either tell them before, send them something there or when we get home. I saw these scratch off cards from the website Etsy where it has an oven and then you scratch off and there is a bun in the oven or you could add a sonogram. Then there were once that looked more like lottery tickets. I'm thinking of getting those for grandparents, aunts, uncles. $20 total so not too bad.
Bunnygirl19-that sounds awful. So sorry for you. My husband's family is difficult but not that bad!! I can't imagine! That is really hard on a marriage, so glad that you all have figured it out. I'd almost send them a letter in the mail and stay away for a long time. Geeze!
2x-I'd tell your mom soon. I think it would be good to have someone other than DH to talk about things too. And I would hope your insurance covers all your tests, you have good reason to be watched carefully and I know that you want that. If I had a letter of baby's sex I'd def. open it.
So sorry Pbn3. I see that she is worried about you but I know you need her to be excited for you. I bet she will be thrilled when everything is ok.
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Bunnygirl, oh that sounds awful. But glad you are coping with it.
Pbn, I can understand where you mom is coming from (being worried) but of course we all want our moms to be excited for a new grandchild. Hopefully she will get more excited when the time goes on.
Dpike, want to hear your DH's reaction!
My mom lives in another city. I'm going there in two weeks so planning to tell her then. It is really nice when you can share everything to someone. My mom's been hoping for us to have a third child a long time now (and she would love a girl of course) so she will be so excited.
In our country we have excellent public services and we don't get insurances for us adults for the healthcare. I don't know if I can explain this well enough because English is not my native language but as for the NIPT I probably will get it free (not needing an insurance). We can all get good and inexpensive hospital care without insurances. You can get your children an insurance if you want to take them to a private doctor but many people don't get it as we get good service at public doctors, and the normal doctor appointments are for free for children.
It's really cold here, -10°c. And next week can be even -20°c! And lots of snow coming. I'm happy I don't have to do the cardio 6xa week anymore as I loved doing it outside. I think doing cardio inside is just really boring. We had unusually warm fall and early winter and no snow but now it's changing.
2x blue, where do ou live? America has such horrible healthcare practices and maternity leave. I use to work for the US Dept of Agriculture and met with many people outside of the US and almost everyone had better services than us. I would have killed for the 1 year paid maternity leave. So happy I am a SAHM now and get to experience that with this child.
2x-so glad ur mom will be excited.
I just thought about it and I hope my parents will be happy. We don't care about DH side. Haha! My mom knows we were TTC so it shouldn't be too much of a shock. They r coming to our house at the end of January so I'll tell them then.
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Oh my test from this morning....
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I live in Northern Europe, Scandinavia. Yes I'm happy to live here as we have good health care and also maternity leave. We get pretty good maternity allowance for 9 months when we have a baby, the amount depends on your salary but it is very good comparing to many countries. After that if you stay home with your children you get child home care allowance until the youngest is 3yrs, it's not really much but you can cope with that. There's also a paternity leave when the child is born and dad will get paternity allowance (amount depending on his salary). Also we get a child benefit with each child until they are 17yrs.
We also get a lovely maternity package when each child is born. It's full of clothes and other baby stuff (you can also choose not to have so you will get cash instead).
I know we are really lucky as I've heard this is quite special. It's really great to be able to take care of your children by yourself. Many moms here go back to work when the child is about 18months-3yrs. Some go back earlier.
Dpike, glad to here you are SAHM now! It is special. Your test looks great! I did a cheapie today (again! I have bunch of them so why not use them, haha) and it looked much like yours. I had to order Clear Blue Digital 2pack tests online. I want to see how many weeks it says I am.
On my way to hospital. Cramping followed by bleeding this morning. Will update when I can.
Oh no Pbn I'm so sorry this is happening to you! I really hope everything will be ok hun, sending lots of positive vibes xx
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Pbn, I'm praying all is okay.
Bunny, I can't BELIEVE your ILs. WTF. I am so sorry but good on you for showing them up with your happy life!
I REALLY hope I join this group at some point, 6 is my favourite number and I'm somewhat superstitious about numbers.
Congrats to all you lucky ladies. :)
Hcg level 47 I go back in 48 hours but it looks like I'm having a miscarriage
I'm sorry. :( How far along are you right now? Maybe your numbers are just low because you're early.Quote:
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I'm 4w 6d. They said anything is possible but they believe I'm miscarrying and also handed me a pamphlet on early miscarriages in the same sentence.
Oh no Pbn3, I'm so so sorry. I can't believe you're going through this. This is just terrible! My hcg was 48 at 12dpo and they said it was low then. I ended up having a miscarriage at 7 weeks even though my hcg progressed enough to get 3+ weeks on the CB digital test at 5 weeks. (((HUGS))) to you and please take care of yourself.
Praying for you Pbn and FX it's just spotting and a slow grower. I too was in the ER yesterday with spotting and pain, baby was measuring a week behind and "too early" for heart beat so I have to go tmrw to check my betas again. I ended up being diagnosed with a UTI, pelvic infection, yeast infection, large ovarian cyst, and engorged pelvic blood vessels. I'm praying Hcg goes up tmrw for us and it goes up for you!!!
Oh no Pbn3! My heart breaks for you! I'm hoping and praying that all ends well for you and for Signing!
Huge hugs ladies!!
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Thanks ladies. The blood I'm passing is starting to look clotted so I'm not very hopeful. Signing I truly hope things turn around for you and your little bean sticks. My close friend just texted me the news that she's had her baby this morning and its a girl, started me bawling again. So happy for her so sad for myself :(
Oh no Pbn. :(
I know it's really hard to be hopeful, only reason I've not cried today is I don't want to boys to know anything but it's always good to try and stay positive until you see your dr.
Pbn, I'm so sorry :( I don't know what to say, I feel so bad for you. Take care of yourself.
Signing, I hope everything will be ok with your baby!
Signing, I really hope you feel better soon. That's so much all at once, you must be so overwhelmed!
Oh no, Pbn. I'm Soooo sorry!!!!
Hopeful for you and signingmommy.
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Ladies this thread has gotten very quiet. I hope you all dont feel bad about posting on my behalf. I'll know by tomorrow lunch where things stand. Bunnygirl if things go badly which I'm pretty certain of would you be willing to edit your first post to copy and paste the groups due date info and add people as they join? If so I can edit my first posts to a full stop or see if admin can remove them :) I'll update tomorrow so we can work it out then :)
I can figure out how to do that. I usually log in from my phone so I'll probably just need to make a point of getting on a computer instead.
You'll only need to go on computer once to copy and paste and then you'll be able to edit from your phone anytime after that :) thanks Bunnygirl!
Pbn, thinking of you. Have you still been bleeding?
Thank you 2xblue and yes I am. I get my hcg checked tomorrow so I'll update then.
I have booked my NIPT test, it's 8th of Feb. But I'm pretty sure I have to postpone it after I've gone to a dating scan and see what my dates are. I will probably go to a dating scan around 25th of Jan. Then I should be something like 7+3.
I'm sorry Pbn :(
Oh Pbn I'm so very sorry to hear this!! :( I truly hope everything is okay. I'll be stalking this board looking for your next update.
Miscarriage confirmed. Hcg dropped from 47 to 34. Bunnygirl thank you for taking over the thread. I'll edit my posts once you've had a chance to do yours. No more sad messages on here ladies this is meant to be a happy thread. I wish each and every one of you a happy and healthy nine months :)
Oh my goodness I'm so very, very sorry Pbn. :bighug: