Oh gosh, I'm so very, very sorry for your loss. :( Take care of yourself mama. Huge hugs!
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Oh gosh, I'm so very, very sorry for your loss. :( Take care of yourself mama. Huge hugs!
Oh no FM! My heart goes out to you [emoji20]! This is so incredibly unfair. I want you to know that while you had been in fear of having your twins, you did nothing to cause or to deserve this. Please take care of yourself right now. I am keeping you in my prayers, and I am sending you lots of strength and healing your way.
Huge hugs!
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I am so sorry for your loss. You must be going through a lot of emotions right now and it's really too bad that your husband can't provide the understanding you need. Is there someone else in your life who could give you some emotional support? I'll keep you in my thoughts. :-(
I am so sorry to read this - please let us know how we can help. :sadflwr:
I am so so very sorry to read this. What a emotional rollercoaster. Please take care of yourself and give yourself time to cry and grieve. Time will heal.
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I am SO sorry for your loss :( xxx
I'm so sorry to read this.
oh no im sorry to read this x
Oh no I am so so sorry for your loss
I am also so sorry to read this! I agree with xx, YOU did NOTHING to cause this.
Iam really sorry FM. Take care sending you huge hugs xoooo
I'm sorry to read this. I can only imagine how devastating this is for you. Miscarriage alone and the grief associated can be so isolating and heavy, much less when loved ones fail to meet our expectations in response.
Sometimes when things are taken away it really gives us the opportunity to reflect on what we truly want. Its cruel sometimes. I'm so sorry that you are enduring this. Please know you aren't alone. [emoji1374][emoji175]
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Thanks everyone for the kind words. I am feeling very lost at the moment. We hadn't told any friends yet so I feel like I need to turn to my best friend but it will be strange having to explain to her what has happened when she didn't even know I was expecting. It's such a weird and lonely feeling knowing that what you were imagining as your future is now no longer going to happen.
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You always can turn to US all here on GD.. Family my heart goes out to you, keeping you in my prays and thoughts xo
Thinking of you...
I'm soo sorry. You must feel lost. Praying for you and your family. Here for you
I'm feeling really low tonight. DH has just told me that he doesn't think he wants to try again for another baby and that we should just be happy with the 3 we have... He only agreed to this one reluctantly and he admitted he wasn't that thrilled when I got my BFP (he didn't tell me that at the time). I feel so hurt, I'm not even in the right frame of mind to be thinking about trying again but the fact that he's just slammed that door shut on me has really taken me by surprise. I'm so freaking mad at him right now I don't even want to be near him. How dare he drop that bomb on me, I'm barely holding it together as it is. He's entitled to his feelings but jeez talk about bad timing.
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OMG I'm so sorry FM!! I would be FURIOUS!!!! You don't need this right now. :(
So sorry your husband has shared such heavy news at such an inopportune time. It's hard to remember that husbands are also hurting and emotionally labile at times like this. I agree that taking a short break from future planning is wise and giving you both time to heal. Maybe in a short time you will both be on the same page and stronger together.
[emoji1374] for you. Try to be patient but set boundaries with him as well. It's not fair to be taking things off the table without considering your feeling and desires, much less at this very vunerable time. Hopefully he realizes that soon.
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It seems a lot of men really don't understand what we go through, they think of themselves first. So sorry
I'm sorry this is happening to you. In Jan I lost twins and was in the same boat since DH had reluctantly agreed to let me have a 4th and I ended up BFP with twins. Right after the D&C for mmc two days later I got infection and ended up in the hospital. DH freaked and told me he didn't want to try again and that if we did we would prob end up divorced. Few weeks later he started trying again with me. It's a tough time just give yourself and him some time to grieve.
I'm so sorry for your loss. In my experience men just process things so differently to us, you should seek comfort in your friends.
I know it's hard but try to focus on emotionally healing from the miscarriage and forget about whether or not you will try again. That's a conversation for another day not when you are dealing with this
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I'm so sorry this happened to you as well. How far along were you? I spoke to hubby last night and he said that he is really worried we will have twins again if we TTC naturally. He definitely doesn't want 5 children (and neither do I really), except I'm not worried about twins again as I'd think the chances were fairly low. I'm happy to go HT to ensure no twins and also ensure we get a girl, but he is very reluctant because of the cost and effort it will take. So I'm not sure where I stand anymore. I feel like going on the LE diet again and just getting my ducks in a row because I want to act quickly if he changes his mind. I'm nowhere near ready to TTC again anyway, emotionally I'm still all over the shop and I've been off the LE diet for at least 8 or so weeks so I'm not in a rush for him to make up his mind. I actually think he will agree to TTC again, I think I just need to give him a break from talking/thinking about it.Quote:
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I am so sorry you are struggling with DH. I am sure he will chance his mind. Just give him time and try not to become enemies but relax, listen to him and show him love. Sometimes when we are tired, sad or upset we say things we don't mean. I am sure he will change his mind and follow your baby-dream if you give him some time to think it over.
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I was almost 10 weeks when had the D&C but babies never even got a heartbeat
Oh no fm I am so sorry. How heartbreaking. I hope your DH comes around...
I'm sorry - I don't have any other advice other than give it time. :(
My heart goes out to you. I think you have a great plan in place by starting the diet when you're ready and giving your DH the space he needs. We women process things much differently than men and giving him the space he needs will allow him to think about how he feels about all that happened. I agree- I think in time he will come around to trying again.
FX and [emoji1317] so hard for you.
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