I would be ten weeks on Tuesday. I'm scared it'll be worse cos I'm getting to be fairly far along although the nurse at the hospital said nothing additional would have been created since the baby died. How are you getting in MrsG?
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No advice, just :pray: and :heart: to all.
Thanks Atomic. I had a smear of blood this morning and so thought it was beginning, but the cramps that were getting pretty painful have completely stopped again. I am getting sick of being in no mans land and basically just wallowing a bit! Hospital on Tuesday. Am so p*ssed off this is happening :( (sorry)
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(Hugs) Honeybee,Quote:
Originally Posted by honeybee37
It sounds like it will be starting soon. I had 3-4 days of spotting pink/brown before it started.
*don't be shocked when it does start that the cramps and blood will be intense for a few hours. It really is more like a mini labor than a "heavy period" like the dumb hospital always likes to go on about.
Have you been drinking the Red Raspberry tea?
I really am pissed too! #4 mc in a row for me and just when I finally get off of swaying and can eat whatever I want, I have to start all over. Part of me wants to just throw my hands up and do whatever, but I did manage to conceive a girl after 5 boys with a strict sway. Too bad she didnt stick :(
I'm still in no mans land. only 8w2 and baby died over a week ago. I had a blood draw on Thurs and again later this week. Usually starts at 10w for me so i have a ways to wait yet... At least this will be over before Christmas. I really hope for a Christmas egg even though they say you don't normally O until after 1st AF.
Oh MrsG I am so with you on everything you say. I really thought it was starting last night as I had pretty bad pains in my lower back, but I woke up this morning to absolutely nothing. No more blood, no pain.... sigh. Am 10w on Tuesday. Like you, I have been eating what I want and mentally I don't think I can go back to the LE right now. Part of me is so desperate just to conceive, part of me thinks I'll be mad with myself if I don't try, having done the diet and exercise for the best part of a year!!!
I too absolutely can't wait for Christmas. I am not restricting myself this Christmas though as last year I was really into the LE. This year I really will eat what I want (I hardly eat meat anymore anyway but there will be plenty of cheese and plenty of wine!!)
MrsG I am sorry you are also stuck in this rubbish limbo, and also so sorry you've been through this so many times, I really am. Thank you for holding my hand through it! Keep me posted how you go. Oh, and yes the hospital told me the same "heavy period" story [emoji52]
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Ooooohhhh, that just infuriates me when they do that!Quote:
Originally Posted by honeybee37
I know the hospital staff thinks they are "helping" by not trying to scare women, but it really does the mother an injustice when she puts on her maxi pad like usual expecting a few small clots and instead she's doubled over the toilet with clots the size of lemons coming one after another.
Then you stand up to change the maxi and the blood keeps dripping out of you like a leaky faucet in starts & stops.
That's why i just slap on the adult disposable diapers and dont have to change a pad every 15 min.
Hope that's not too much detail but that's really what a natural mc is like at 10 weeks...it is nothing like a period. Knowledge is power and you shoukd know what to expect.
You must stay hydrated through it to keep your fluid levels up.
If you feel cold or clammy that's your clue to get to the hospital.
Thanks for that, MrsG. That's good advice. I've passed some pink blood today, and had quite a lot of cramps. And I've stocked up on pads and painkillers... really quite scared now though. How are you? Have you got an appointment for an ultrasound this week?
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(Hugs) Honeybee,
Its normal to be nervous the first time not knowing what to expect. I remember my first time..... @10 weeks DH went off to play baseball & I let him thinking just a "heavy period" was coming....then got the shock of my life when the clots were so darn huge. I'd never seen clots like that before in my life!
I was on the phone with the 911 operator thinking I was dying and she calmly tells me its all perfectly normal...amount of blood, size of clots...everything. She calmed me down quite a bit bc I was hysterically crying and panicking....
By the time DH got home 3 hr later the worst was over and I was in bed.
I'd say the worst lasts 2-3 hr at most.
With my twins after 5 hr it was not letting up at all, i was cold/clammy and needed an emergency D&C bc something got stuck apparently. That was my only mc where i needed help & i think its bc double the babies = double the blood loss.
I think you will be ok Honeybee. 10 weeks is still manageable.
GRAPHIC WARNING!
I am posting this picture for Honeybee's benefit so she know what to look for when collecting a miscarriage sample. I apologize in advance if this offends anyone.
Honeybee,
You will need a strainer to collect your clots.
Then you need to examine each one as they come out.
Regular blood clot looks like liver. It will break apart in your fingers and feels soft like Jello.
What you are looking for is a solid clot that wont break apart. It will be more fibrous.
When you carefully rinse it in pure saline it will have an outer membrane (the gestational sack) and then skin tone , feathery part (the feathery part is the chorionic villi and it is what is tested for genetic make-up much like in a CVS test)
Keep your sample in saline solution (needs to be 100% saline so check the label) in the fridge for up to 5 days (but really you should send it for testing asap)
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After you get this, you don't need to collect anymore clots.
Tip: the lab will only need a small part of the sample, so what I did was carefully cut it in 1/2 with scissors and saved 1/2 in my fridge just in case the lab screwed up for whatever reason.
After I got my report, I buried the other 1/2 from my fridge under a cherry tree and had a small memorial for my little one. :broken:
Thank you. I had no idea it would look like this - that's really helpful. I feel like I am ready to do this now.
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You're welcome Honeybee :)
I took pictures last time since info online was few & far between.
That's what it looks like all clean and pretty....
When it comes out it looks like a huge dark maroon clot about the size of a lemon You really need to handle it with care and wash in saline to make sure you have the right thing.
Have your clean container with saline ready on the counter so you aren't caught off guard.
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It was actually my smaller fetus that caused my bad m/c with exessive blood loss. I didn't even know when it passed as it was only aboy 5wks in size.
My one at 10wk it was around 8wks in size according to the ultrasound an I needed to push a bit at the end like in childbirth, although not as bad as it was smaller than a tennis ball. Mine was still complete in the sac so all I saw was a solid greyish lump. It was quite different to the photo above. It was the last part to come out for me but I have read other stories where it comes out sooner.
Did you feel the urge to push? I am having pretty bad cramps and lots of red blood. Only one small clot so far. I think I'll be up all night...
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The back pain right now is the worst thing
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Yes, i felt the need to push.
I had red bleeding Sat night and a strawberry size clot.
Then nothing much overnight.
Severe cramping 1pm Sun,
Pushing 5:30 pm
Passed the placenta/sack 5:45 pm
Heavy bleeding clots until 8 pm (needed to change 1 the depends 1 per hr)
Then heavy bleeding overnight but the worst had passed.
Heavy bleeding for an additional 4 days
Medium flow another 4 days
Light spotting another 7 days
Sorry for the backpain. Hopefuly painkillers will help.
(Hugs)
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So sorry honeybee. Thinking of you in this difficult time.
Well what a farce... am back from the hospital follow up scan. She said "good news! IThe baby has grown since last week!" It hasn't, but the trainee sonographer last week was unable to find it. It measures exactly what it measured at the private scan we had where they discovered it no longer had a heartbeat. But because the NHS can see growth, they are reluctant to offer interventions and have discharged me. No follow up or anything. Now the bleeding is back to spotting but I have back pain still and some cramps so I can only hope it will happen on its own. She did say the sac and baby are high up in my uterus and in her opinion, it won't happen soon but she also conceded that I know my body better than anyone. I am so, so fed up of this right now. Nobody ever reads my notes or knows what is happening so I am constantly filling people in etc. I am snappy with my husband and I just don't know how long this is going to take.... sigh!!!!
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Hi Honeybee,
I went to the hospital at about 12 weeks and demanded and u/s because my pregnancy symptoms had lessened. A tech said he heard the heartbeat but I wasnt confident that's what he heard. About a week later I knew I was no longer pregnant and confirmed it with another scan by a "seasoned" tech. I wasn't, baby had passed about 2 weeks prior.
I opted for pills to mc but it was rough. Passed lots of blood and ended up calling the ambulance as I went in shock after I pushed. MrsGoodies is correct, it's a mini labor and NOT a heavy period. Pads were of no use and I wished I had taken more pain meds prior. I never went to the hospital even though I called the ambulance. They helped me through the shock. I relaxed for a couple days afterwards and stayed super hydrated and well nourished.
Take care sweethearts. Sorry to you both honeybee & MrsGoodies. Be gentle and completely selfish during this time if you can. 💋
OMG I am so, so very sorry. I am fully fed up with the behavior of sonographers around the globe and the way they "train" people on us as if we are guinea pigs or something.
Are you doing the red raspberry leaf?? If not that is what I would add in.
Oh honeybee I am so sorry. How awful. They didn't see a heartbeat and they are reluctant for further interventions? Ludicrous!
I had a m/c at 14 weeks. I actually had my water break the day after we discovered no heartbeat. I had had some light spotting for about 5 days prior to the u/s. The cramps were pretty bad, coming in waves, just like labour.
I hope you are able to find peace somehow...
Well, the baby was born at 4:30. It ended up happening very quickly and I managed to hold the baby for a bit and felt better for doing so. Still passing bits of placenta and feel very drained but relieved also. I can't thank the people who have supported me on this thread enough. Seriously, you got me through this horrendous episode. Mrs G I want to give you a massive hug!!
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So many hugs. So sad you had to go through this but glad you are out of limbo. Hugs & prayers.Quote:
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(Hugs) honeybee37;
:sadflwr: i'm so glad you were able to hold and say good-bye to your little one.
Your body knew what to do and you got through it. I am proud of you.
I pray this nightmare will be over soon for both of us and we'll be blessed with healthy babies in the new year :pray:
NHS are a bunch of dolts...i know bc my cousin complains about them non-stop. Socialized medicine is a nightmare!
Big hugs honeybee. I am sorry you had to go through this but also glad that it now over and the healing can begin. You were very brave to go it all natural and it sounds like the benefit was that you got to hold baby and say goodbye. Hope your rainbow baby is just around the corner.
This brought a tear to my eyes.
So sad this has happened, been thinking of you a lot this past week.
Beautiful that you were able to hold your baby, so precious.
Love and healing hugs to you <3
I'm thankful that it is over, honeybee.
Thanks so much to the wise women who were so helpful in this thread. :heart:
Hugs honeybee, take care x