I puked just after they took my. Mood this time, thank goodness! I can't imagine having to take the test twice. Hope you passed!Quote:
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I puked just after they took my. Mood this time, thank goodness! I can't imagine having to take the test twice. Hope you passed!Quote:
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Just curious, does your gender disappointment mostly come from you wanting a sister for your daughter or did you just not plan on having any boys, let alone 3?Quote:
Originally Posted by Girlieplease
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Good question, I always wanted a dd, my aunt has 5 boys and always wanted a dd and became a very bitter person in part because she never had a dd. My mum and her were very close until my mum had me, am 10 months younger than her youngest son. When I was born she bought me a blue dress and said to my mum I will never buy her anything pink. Bizarrely am close to this aunt. Anyway, I was always terrified of never having a dd, but on my husbands side it's all boys no girls and on my side it's all boys as well so I just assumed I would have boys but was desperate for a girl. When I found out with my first she was a girl it was amazing. I then assumed I would have a second as most people I know have two of the same gender. At my scan with ds1 20 weeks I was told he was a girl and all my dreams had come true, I never had a sister and really wanted it for dd. I so invested in this idea and then was crushed at 36 weeks when I saw myself he was a boy. But I kicked the can down the road and we agreed to try again, must get a girl surely? Nope another boy. This was my last chance to give dd a sister. Been reflecting on my gd and I suppose it's in part a desire to recreate the experience I had with dd, which was so perfect ( I realise now it never would) and because dd is become more independent and needs me less and wanting to recreate that mother daughter bond with another girl. Does that make sense?Quote:
Originally Posted by lindz
Girlie, it makes sense. It also reads that you feel at least on a subconscious level you didnt soak up every moment with her like you feel you would have if you knew for sure she was going to be your last and only girl. We can only do the best we can with the information and knowledge we have at the time though, hopefully one day you wont beat yourself up over it anymore. Maybe your daughter will have a daughter of her own, think of how special that may feel for you? she may not get a sister, but then there is always the possibility of a 3 generation bond between you and your daughter and hers if she has one. The dream may change, but it 100% doesnt need to die. I am thinking you will get lots of grandaughters from your sons or at least one very special one from your daughter. By then we will probably not talk anymore as this site may or may not exist let alone if life gets too busy to come on..but know i will hope that for you for the rest of my time.
btw for someone like your aunt who wanted a daughter so much, surely your birth was painful at first which is probably why she said what she said to your mom...but look at how that turned out. You said you are close, and i am sure in part its because a niece in alot of ways CAN be like a daughter :) she could see herself or your mom or both inside of you i am sure.
Thanks for answering. Makes total sense. I was a little sad my first was a boy, but held onto the belief that my second and third could be girls. I have a twin sister and I love our sister bond. That's what I wanted for my own family. Now I'm just hoping my third will be a girl, but it doesn't stop me from being bummed that she'll never have the experience of growing up with a sister. Hopefully your daughter has/will have a best friend that will be like a sister to her, and she will enjoy growing up with her brothers. My friend had 4 younger brothers(she was the only girl), and now she's having her second boy. She's so excited about it. I love that she is able to have no GD despite being surrounded by boys her whole life.Quote:
Originally Posted by Girlieplease
Maybe a part of the bond and experience you have with your daughter comes from her being your first born? It's just so special to have the one on one time with them. I don't blame you for wanting a new little girl to be attached to you with the first one growing up so fast. I'm sorry this couldn't be your second girl. Third time should always be a charm :/
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I am close to this aunt, she was not very nice to be when I was a child and my mum would have explained to me about her situation to try and help me make sense of it. She never did buy me anything pink! But we ended up going to university at the same time, albeit different universities. My aunt is like myself is found of lively debate so it formed a string bond. We were also going through similar experiences at uni with deadlines and therefore had lots in common. My aunt has four grandchildren, two girls and two boys and her first grandchild was a dd. As an adult she buys me lots of girlie gift and when my dd was born she bought her the pinkist dress she could find. My mum and her still have an awful relationship, it just never recovered and then other things happened. They still spend alot of time together but don't get on!Quote:
Originally Posted by Burakoam
I should add my dd really wants a sister and complains bitterly about having two brothers, I still have not told her she is getting a third, I live in large clothes. Interestingly my dh thinks my dd would not have coped if I had had another girl. I am very close to her and her friend came for a cuddle with me when we were at a play place at the weekend and my dd was so jealous and huffed and was upset, she who knows!
How did your test go?
I was singing the wheels on the bus with my youngest before bed and when we got to the part of the horn on the bus he grabbed my boob and said honk honk! Two year old are so funny! X
Had my scan today! We STILL did not get a pic of his junk! Haha. Again, only saw a flash of a moment on a screen what looked like boy parts. It's very different than with my DS 1. We had lots of CLEAR pictures all times of my scans where I could see his Frank and beans practically waving at me. Haha.
No matter, I still have no doubts that this baby is a boy. It's been strong in my intuition from day 1.
I would be FLAMING mad if it somehow was miraculously wrong and was a girl. Yeah. Mad. Because I am learning to be happy that he is a boy and I am injecting him into our future and lives, as a boy. And I wouldn't want to confuse the hell out of my toddler, either.
But, anyways. He's measuring a day early putting him due at May 14th instead of the 15th!
He's folded in half in there !!! Haha!!
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I had my 20wk scan on Thursday and beautiful baby boy looks healthy. I was so happy seeing him again!
my happiness didn't last long though as the next day I was at my in laws when my sis in law came in with her scan pics and after a son they are now expecting a daughter on the exact same day as me.
I joined in the happy chatter about girls etc, but had to go to the toilet when I could no longer old my emotions in, I spent the whole of yesterday crying and still feel sad today.
I love my baby boy and am happy that they are happy, I just cant control the feelings I have and how all of hubbys 5 siblings have gotten daughters yet we are expecting our 5th son. my two sils will have daughters a year apart and I know they will get closer and I will watch from afar feeling left out. an seeing a little girl the same age as my son and picturing if that's what our girl would look like just feels unberable atm.
does anyone have any advice or tips on how I can get passed this jelousy I'm usually a happy bubbly person and hate feeling like I want to cry all the time, even my sister cried when I told her they were having a girl because she knew how I would feel...
and I know how lucky I am to have so many healthy children when people cant even have 1 child and I am so blessed.
Samantha Alexandria finally showed her darn face today. Had been struggling the whole pregnancy not seeing her face..she would hide it with hands or placenta...was worried cause they couldnt rule out cleft lip at my 20 week anatomy scan...
Despite my health struggles she is strong and BIG. they wanted to see 2 pounds today at my 28 week mark and instead she is measuring 3 pounds of solid baby. She also measures 29 weeks 1 day, though i just hit 28 weeks today. It is good to know and i feel i can relax just a bit more knowing she is growing well even if they never treat my damn thyroid.
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Oh I'm sorry All Blue that your SIL is getting a girl. It does seem terribly unfair that it just happens so easy for some people. They really could be a bit more sensitive than to discuss how great having a girl is going to be right their in front of you!
I'm waiting to see what my SIL is having. I'm hoping she gets a girl but I know if I was expecting another boy I would probably want her to have a boy too as I would be jealous.
Burakoam, that is great you finally got to see her face! Does she look like any of your other daughters?
I'm so curious what my bub will look like but I'm going to have to wait another 8ish weeks.
I think she looks like DD3
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Angela (dd3) at 29 weeks :)
Sorry All Blue trust me Ive been in so many similar position, it sucks. My two SIL have Pp, they also fell pregnant sooo easily. I had miscarriage after miscarriage even a d&c the day the first granddaughter on DHs side (where my Gender depression comes from) was born. I did HT and still have no daughter. I've had so many unfair situations I just don't understand how to process it. I think knowing I can't have any more is just adding to the depression. Just wanted to let you know you aren't alone. [emoji8]
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Im so sorry u are feeling like that too, it definitely makes it worse to.think u are done, hubby said I may be able to talk him into a 6th which has helped a bit, but i don't know how I will feel with 5, 6 might be too much for me...i would like to try to sway though and then I can say ive tried xQuote:
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Oh my she is so cute, am sure you cannot wait to get a cuddle! Congratulations, xQuote:
Originally Posted by Burakoam
I totally think part of what is special about dd was she was my first, she was and still is the girl of my dreams, a really girlie girl, super smart, funny and witty. But alot of my desires and fantasies about having a sister for her are due to the fact that I never had a sister and totally idealise this role. Maybe if I had had a sister I would be more balanced and realise having a sister is not as perfect as I imagine. My friend has a sister and she really tries hard to have a relationship with her but her sister is not interested and we have talked at length about how this impacts on her. She is actually closer to her younger brother. So the reality of sisters is never straightforward xQuote:
Originally Posted by lindz
Sorry your feeling this way, I think you should see how you feel when baby is born. For my part, I only discovered swaying relatively recently. I never swayed for my other. Three. I always told myself when I found out about swaying, that I had to try and if I got an opposite I could content myself with I tried. I would have to say the reality having worked so hard at my sway and failing is so different. I regret trying in the first place, as am still in the same position I was before this pregnancy and now I have deal with that in context of a house move, changing car, more financial burden and less time for my other three. But then maybe is different as I have a dd, not sure. Would ht or adoption be an option? XQuote:
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I have no idea how since i cant even gain any weight apparently but i failed my glucose test...i shouldnt be surprised..i wasnt surprisedwith angela or even that heartbroken over it but this time it really is hitting me. my fasting level for the first test was 170...it didnt have to be fasting i just prefer to do mine like that as they do the 3 hour one that way anyhow...
Im just so sad. And i dont know what to do. I had finally gained 2 pounds, and now i am going to be told to go low carb and that isnt going to be helping me at all :(
Hmm sounds strange you failed it. Did you have extra weight to start? Will you need to do the 3 hour one to confirm?
Here they have changed it to just going straight to a 2 hour GTT as they said the 1 hour screening isn't reliable.
Doing my GTT right now, not even half way.
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Yes purple I did have extra weight.. i normally Am in the 120's for weight when I get pregnant but was 158 this time. Held steady until 2 weeks ago when it looked like I had lost weight and then at another two scales (all different) I had actually finally gained 2 pounds! I was ecstatic and now I am a bit sad. Weighed 161.8 today on a scale that had showed the previous gain so again I want to be happy despite my awful BMI that baby is well but now all I can think is as I get heavier my sugars will be worse. Ugh
Just to jump in. I had GD with my previous pregnancy (the other GD) and although yes plenty of women who had it were overweight, a large percentage were not. There are many many very thin women who get diagnosed. I started this pregnancy 30lbs less than last time and the odds of me having it again, despite being much thinner, are very high. It's the placenta's fault not necessarily the mom's fault although controlling it can be in the hands of the mom. But even then, some women need insulin (especially with subsequent GD pregnancies) and some don't. I did not have it with my 1st, diagnosed at 28 weeks with my second, and they start testing me at 14 weeks with this one. I've already been monitoring my sugars just to make sure. Anyway rant over but just know it doesn't all come down to weight and often times even it is out of mom's control
I did the 3 hour instead of the 2 hour gtt, also they changed what they take notice of more now my middle dandge was higher but not by much and I still got put in gtt group where as with my other 2 never had it and apparently they didn't use to pay attention to the middle reading.Quote:
Originally Posted by purple
Everyone is talking about their Glucose test...mine is on February 13th. My husband is worried that I won't pass. Ugh. He just told me that he was worried that I wouldn't last time either! Sheesh!
I am going to deliver this baby as big as a house. I'm only 10 lbs less than the weight I delivered my first son at. Sigh.
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I think people reacted a little touchily on the weight comments. Obviously skinny people or heavy people get both diabetes and gestational diabetes. Weight is simply one of those things that while it doesn't always matter it IS a risk factor. And I am much heavier than I was before. 30-40 pounds is a big difference in my height and frame. An educated person will never assume you are fat just because you have diabetes and in fact I am sure that's why purple asked.. she knows it's a risk factor but knows also it doesn't mean that I am heavier. Better to ask than assume :) just in this case I am heavier and so my risk was probably greater even though it's a placenta issue it deals with your own bodily bloodflow and transport system and hormone levels as well or it would all be reflected in the baby and not the mom... which is why weight can be a problem.
Good luck Lisa :) I am sure all will be well especially if your levels were good with your first. Mine were borderline with my first so I guess I should have known I'd get it eventually.. just didn't expect every pregnancy after :(
My levels were quite good with my first. That was in 2013, though. I'm just going to be bummed out if I can't eat fried fish and ice cream anymore! Hahha! Oh yeah, I totally gave up on being a vegetarian! Hahaha!
That's good im already over the weight I delivered my last and I've 19wks to go!! So probably another 14+ pounds I actually cried when I weighed myself xQuote:
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So 3 hr results are in :( probably going to end up on insulin this time i just dont see how i'll do it..
after not eating for 16 hours my fasting sugar was 91, i had dinner at 5:30 last night and couldnt eat this morning because of the test but couldnt go take the test until 930 after another appointment i needed to be at so that sucked.
first draw 1 hr after drink - 230
2 hr draw -222
3 hr draw -122
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Hope everyone else passes. wont see my Endo until next friday to figure out what the safest route is since i also need to be able to gain a little bit of weight for baby due to thyroid stuff...bleh.
Ah sorry you didn't pass the GTT Burakoam. Hopefully you get some good advice on what to do now.
I'm 33 weeks today! Bubs has been so much more active in the last week, I don't think she has turned head down yet but hopefully by my 34wk appointment she will. A breach baby will mean no homebirth and possibly not even a vaginal birth. Anyway... too early to stress about that!
Glad she is starting her dance parties in there purple :) she still has plenty of time! i wouldnt worry unless your others had a history of being breech or not turning..3 of my 4 have been sunny side up babies until they were born..DD1 was born vaginally that way (dont ask me how cause i really dont know but it was a 17 hour labor to say the least) DD2 was the only one in proper position and probably why she came so early and easily..DD3 was sunny side up and its probably why i DIDNT get to have her sooner than 39 weeks and this one, DD4, so far is the EXACT SAME as DD3 so i am already devastated and just gonna suck it up lol
DS1 was breech at 32 but had turned by 34 weeks. DS2 was head down and staying that way from 25 weeks... It was pretty uncomfortable as he would engage more every appointment, it felt like he would just fall out sometimes! He still only arrived at 39+4.
This baby has been lying so low from the start even at my 20 week scan the ultrasound guy couldn't get a good head circumference because he was behind my pubic bone. It's soo painful having him so low.
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Is the GTT standard there? I've never had one 5th baby I thought it was just of u had signs or a family history...
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Yep its standard here in Australia, I had to do it twice as I am considered "advanced maternal age" and they have lowered the numbers for a positive result so lots more women are being diagnosed with it.
Same is true for the United States.Quote:
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It is standard but I haven't done it since DS1 and that was the 1 hour test but I passed very easily. They are fine with me declining but some recent changes at the next closest hospital to me is making all women who want to homebirth through their program do the test. I'm sure mine will follow soon but hopefully not too soon. They are also forcing women to do the GBS swab which I plan to decline as I don't want antibiotics. If they make me do it I just won't be swabbing it anywhere.
I have never been asked to take this test ever and this is baby number 4! Odd how things are different in different places
My sister is currently in hospital for monitoring as they think she has pre-eclampsia, they are thinking about induction in Monday. Another piece of process for me as am actually am excited to meet my niece, am sure I will feel jealous at some point as she will be sooooooo cute but I bought her a wee outfit and brought it to the hospital and I really did not feel sad buying it! X
That should have read sister in law! X
I hope your SIL is okay Girlie and that they do induce if needed. Snuggle that baby and tell her how happy her auntie is to meet her...because obviously some part of you is happy :) glad you enjoyed buying the outfit and just know the mixed feelings of meeting your niece are very normal and acceptable with gender disappointment...I will have them as i hold my nephew for the first time too, coupled with the surreal feeling of how i will never have a little boy like the one snuggled in my arms, will be joy that somewhere in that little person is my husband too thanks to genetics..and then the healing begins. with lots of cuddles and kisses :)