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I was at a doctor yesterday (he was very young and I hadn't seen him before) and I mentioned that I 'could' be pregnant but too early to test and he replied with, 'Oh...I find that highly unlikely given your age. Most women your age are infertile.' It felt like a kick in the gut, even though I'm sick and period probably on it's way. I guess I may as well go ahead and believe that and just give up once and for all.
Sorry for your BFN 1moregirl, but isn't it too early since your last cycle was 35 days long?
Unless that Dr ran a beta on you he should keep his opinions to himself. How does he know you are not pg with any certainty?
I agree. What a prat.
I'm still here guys. CD 7 today. Things are good at the moment between Dh and I so have been remaining intimate regularly as it's important to just stay connected with your DH. I'm going out to buy thermometer and OPKs today and preseed as I can't really say we are having GOOD tries at ttc if I can't even pinpoint when O occurs. At least then I will be able to say we tried everything. I have been feeling downhearted a bit as one of my 3 younger sisters has just had her DH up and leave her and their 4 young children. They have 3 boys and then had a little girl. Oldest is 9 and youngest is 3. It's really devastating and come as a complete shock to our whole family. I thought their marriage was rock solid and they have been together quite a while. He is considerably younger than her though. She will be 40 this November and he is around 34. Sorry for rambling.
Oh gosh that's rough, I'm so sorry to hear that. :(
Oh whoops hit the post button accidentally.
Try to keep in mind that everyone on earth prior to 20 years ago got pregnant without knowing when O is. Some people just seem to find them more stressful than they're worth so I'd take that into consideration.
I'm still here. Lol! Just busy homeschoolers now so time to iPad for myself is difficult as then the kids start pestering me for a turn, so easier if I avoid using it til night time when little people are asleep. I am onto CD 16 today. Haven't bothered with OPKs this time either as my pharmacy didn't have the ones I bought there last time which were inexpensive and worked great, so gone without. I have had a few days of EWCM and O pains last night so went ahead and Bd last night (after a week of no BD because DH has been flat out working day and night) and again this morning. Will keep going once daily BD for few more days just in case. I'm not hopeful though. If I ever got a BFP again I would be really very bloody surprised. I think it's the best place for me to be in. I still feel I would desperately crave a little girl so I don't know how I would handle getting another little boy, although I'm sure as long as he were healthy it would all turn out ok. I am feeling soooo tired of all this ttc business to be honest and maybe I just keep churning out dodgy eggs. Anyway, sorry for my usual ramble.
It really does take a toll on you I know. Thinking of you and hoping that whatever is meant to be, will be.
Thanks Atomic. All will be well either way. I am just so thankful that I have one beautiful little girl in between my two beautiful boys. Plus I have a wonderful caring and devoted husband and father to uor children. Things happen constantly in life that affect us and make us appreciate what we have been blessed with (like one of my sisters whose DH walked out on her and their 4 yuong kids almost a month ago). They have 3 boys (eldest turning 10 this year) and they swayed a 4th time and got their precious little girl who is 3. Sooooo sad when couples separate when kids are sooo young and they don't even bother to attempt marriage counselling for the children's sake. My sister is the strongest woman I know and is coping really well but my heart is broken for her and those kids. Apparently he had become obsessed with exercise and wants to 'date other people'. Anyway, my DH and Inmanaged to get another Bd in last night and immediately after I had to get up and take a couple of panadol and get a heat pack because of the O pains in my tummy. I am CD17 today. You would think I would have at least 1 good egg left in there somewhere. If only I could get it, get lucky, and give our little girl that sister she has been asking for. Lol! Xx
Everything crossed for you!
Thanks MrsG. Was meant to be BD again tonight but I'm still sitting up watching a movie and DH has gone to bed. He has been working flat out this week and was quite grumpy tonight after work due to being tired. I might sneak into bed and try and gently seduce him again like I did last night. Hehehe! Otherwise it'll have to be tomorrow night. Lol!
Yes, i know what you mean. Unless it is the weekend or is on vacation my DH has zero libido also. Too much stress from work!
Unless I O on a weekend I don't know what I will do. I'm OUT for this month (wasn't even able to get an attempt in)....
PM me your great tips at seducing a reluctant/stressed out DH ...lol
CD 18 today and managed to get a BD in last night as well. I didn't think it would work as DH was already in bed sound asleep but luckily he certainly woke up and performed. Lol! My only thing now is that we have now Bd 3 nights in a row (CD 15-17) and I'm not sure if we go again tonight or just leave it? Given that I haven't had OPKs so have no idea when O will occur. Or should we skip tonight and do tomorrow again? I still have really sore boobs too so could that mean I still haven't Oed yet? And I have no idea how to check my cervix so I can't do that to see if O has occurred either. And the thermometer I bought doesn't do 2 decimal places, only one. So it goes like 36.4 or 37.1..... instead of 36.45 or 36.16, so I just gave up using the stupid thing. Waste of money there! I also have another question that I'd like to ask...bit embarrassed to ask DH. Sometimes his testicles are quite full, yet at other times they loser...does this mean anything in relation to how much semen they are carrying? Thanks and sorry if that is a stupid question. I just don't know if it is to do with their body temperature or semen quantity so thought I would ask. Enjoy your weekends. :) xx
Hey,
Its really easy to check your cervix. All you do is squat or put one foot on a toilet seat and then put two fingers up your V (i use my index & middle) waayyyy up until you feel your cervix (feels like the end of your nose around your nostril)
If it is firm and low it means not fertile.
If it feels soft and is really high up (ie you can barely reach it) it means you are fertile.
You can also check your fingers after for cm quality (if it is creamy or wet or eggwhite)
No idea about the testicles. If you are BD every day then the quantity will be lower but the quality will be better bc the sperm are fresh.
PS . how are you guessin O now? is cd 15-17 when you traditionally O? it might be a good idea to get some cheapie OPK at least since you seem to have large stretches in your cycle without BD.
You could be missin O by 1-2 days which would be a shame.
Thanks for that MrsG. I have tried in the past to check my cervix but I find it really awkward and have NO idea what I'm doing no matter how hard I try. Lol! I actually tried again the other day and I swear I have quite a few nose points up there. All lumps and bumps IYAM. Hehe! Anyway, I'm onto CD22 today and I swear I have been having a few faint period-type twinges this afternoon. But AF not due until at least 7th June. It would be so nice if I had Oed on CD 16 coz I would have it all covered if that was the case. I am definitely going to buy some OPKs from somewhere for next cycle. Too hard to be guessing. Haven't had any more Bd the last 4 nights either because we've just been too tired and have had sore throats. Anyway, will keep travelling along. Just feeling sorry for my sister right now (the one whose DH recently left) as she is completely laid up in bed sick with a flu type thing and has her 4 kids to take care of all on her own. Sooo sad.
Good luck 1moregirl!
Hopefully you won't need those OPK afterall :)
Thanks MrsG. Cd 25 today and this morning I woke up with period pains. This is a strange time in cycle for me to get this. It's either straight after O or justbefore O arrives yet it is too early for AF to arrive as the shortest cycle I get is 28 days. Usually. I have had sore boobs as well. BUT, I know better than to get my hopes up and so I am not. I am just waiting for AF to arrive, as I know it soon will. How are you going MrsG? Just seems to be you and me in here lately doesn't it? ;)
Lol! Yes 1moregirl....we are the only ones crazy enough to be ttc in our 40's....always get a kick out of those ladies who think 35 is "ancient". Ha ha ha! :)
How many DPO are you? Could be implantation cramps...with TWINS ( hee hee...if we're gonna think positive might as well aim for the moon!)
I have NO idea how many DPO I am Hun because I didn't BbT or use OPKS. If you looked at my chart you would think it highly unlikely I could get pregnant from uor Bd pattern. Fingers crossed. The back pain I've had seems slightly different to the back pain I usually get just before AF arrives. And this morning after I did a wee there was some creamy greens coloured CM on the paper (sorry...yuck I know). Usually just before AF I get EWCM, but that could still be on its way. Who knows? I took my BbT this morning for the hell of it and got 37.01. I 'could' be 10 DPO but not sure. Will def get OPKs next time. I don't know if it's a good thing but I haven't been really crabby like I usually get at this time prior to AF arriving either. Never mind! Will continue along as usual and try not to get my hopes up. I know I have had cramps starting a few days before AF before so I don't want to let myself up for disappointment. Which we know all too well about don't we? Lol
Here's a pic of my chart.
Attachment 36431
See what I mean? Would be a huge surprise if I got a BFP from that when we had 2 big gaps from BD. Lol.but fingers crossed anyway.
Hey, 1moregirl,
Your chart looks like my chart except I think you BD 3x as much as me...hahaha
I swear we BD 2x this cycle and nothing since. DH is either too stressed, too tired, or away....or one of the kids will be having a bad dream and sneak into our bed in the middle of the night.....ugh!
AF arrived today at CD29. ':(
I"m sorry. :(
So sorry 1moregirl. That sucks!
Onward and upward....hope you can get some opk this cycle
Thanks Atomic. I shouldn't have been surprised or disappointed. And I have to lift my game. I cannot honestly say we have been consistently trying for how ever many months because I've often had cold feet or not been using opks. I can't just guess it like that and expect to get a BFP. I'm ok though. Found out a friend who is 34 yesterday has been trying with her DH to conceive for 5 years and nothing...no BFPs or MCS. They have even tried IVf and have been told they have unexplained infertility. She had tears in her eyes as she told me and has 2 little 4-legged babies in case her dream of being a Mum doesn't happen. Have been praying for her hard since yesterday and will continue to do so and she certainly put my situation into perspective and reminded me how lucky I am to have been blessed with the gift of motherhood three times. Then I visited my sister today who has 4 beautiful children and whose DH recently left her out of the blue. Examples all around me to remind me to be grateful for what I do have in my life. I'm not going to admit defeat with ttc just yet, but I'm not going to let myself be disappointed if it doesn't happen. Sometimes I think I must be bloody mad to even still be considering trying, but it is hard to control what your heart wants. I'm going to go back to my FS and demand that scan where they inject dye or fluid into you to check for scarring or adhesions, etc and/or the Hysterescopy withOUT any sort of sedation or general anaesthetic (I will feel better about that as it will cut the cost in half). Anyway, that's my game plan.
Atomic you are truly amazing. You are encouraging and loving to total strangers. You have allowed our brains to rest from worry and anxiety. We are all so lucky to have you!
Thank you.