Congratulations on a sweet baby girl, gizmo! I'm sorry you didn't hear boy, but happy that you are doing well! xx
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Congratulations on a sweet baby girl, gizmo! I'm sorry you didn't hear boy, but happy that you are doing well! xx
HGizmo, big congrats on your baby girl. As a 3 girls mom, i would say if i did remember how joyfjul a baby girl, i wouldn t ve sway ever. The moment i hold her time stopped and fall in love with that lil princess. I never did care "others" opinions. They are just others. You ll know what i mean when you get her. After 3,5 years i was completely forgot what does it mean. If i go for a 4th one, i ll hope for a boy but ll not sway. Because baby girls are too beautiful to avoid from :) When she looks at you and smiles you just forget about the gender. You are being the happiest women in the world. I am sure i would not be any happier than now if i had a baby boy. Just focus on you and your lil one.
This is to all same gender moms. The desire of your DG ll be in your heart but don t let it ruin your unique moments with your baby. She/he is gonna cure your GD.
yeah real level headed//the last few days ive been mulling over getting PGD for the next one. even tho i cant wait to meet DD3 and im resolved with it, its making my dream of having the 4 kids ive always wanted a reality. DH had a HUGE fight (wahy before before conceiving DD3) about #3 and #4. his number was always 2 and mine was always 4 and somewhere he thought 3 would be a good compromise. but i dont feel like a person can compromise on a LIFE/CHILD and nor did i feel it was his decision (this is how i USED to feel) bc *I* would be the one to carry and primarily raise the kids. but in the end he said he wasnt totally against it and i said i wasnt totally against not having #4. (he was just fighting me with #3 so that i would stop at 3..even tho he had already agreed to a 3 a while ago).Quote:
Originally Posted by Hobbermittens
ANYWAY...honestly i was considering stopping at 3 (tho i had been mourning that idea for month sbefore i even got pg with DD3) but now i feel like DD3 was meant to be so that i COULD have my 4th. this is still in early stages...as i dont know how id feel after DD3 arrives and the hectic life to come and money too of course. but i feel like if we are going for #4..id really really want to try gender selection. DH has already said he s against it (bc its against nature and something might happen to the kid, etc). but i explained..all they do is test gender just like they test for genetic conditions and tons of ppl get IVF (for infertility reasons)..so we 'll see. this all could be part ofmy grievig tho.
i AM happy about DD3 but at the same time im pissed i gained all that weight and ate all that food for nothing...and had DH take all those supplemenst which didnt do anything. i truly feel its bc of his caffeine habit. he s been drinking coffee since he was like 18 (he s 36 now). bc i did everything! my pH was 8-9, i had ew, i orgasmed. it was deep penetration. i kept my blood sugar up by eating constantl;y i ate POTAOES AND BANANAS EVERYDAY!!! hahahah! i mean...carbs and protein..barely had dairy...magnesium..whatever i even decreased my nuts close to TTC.
the only thing i can think of is we DTD 3 times in a row (afternoon and night and then the following night). and it was even a waxing moon (or a full moon going to new). laptop, cellphone, microwave..etc. lemon water all day every day. weights 3 days a week.
so what was it???
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Originally Posted by begonia
thanks begonia you said it well. and ido have to say this site i think has helped me get the severity of any gender disappointment that i may have had, had i NOT had you guys and read about others gGD (did that make sense). basically by reading your posts, it helped me re think things. when youre IN it tho, now i totally understand how you and others with GD felt. when youre outside its easier to think more logical.
it really is the ppl ithink for ME and also the perfectionism in me that makes the GD appear. i also feel like i failed. the thing is our family is going thru a move right now and things have really lined up for us thank God in a "lucky" sort of way. i.e. we sold our house, we found a new house fast, they accepted our offer fast, etc. so i feel like everything else went our way except for this one thing (that was the most impt for ME).
but things you guys say REALLY help anytime i start to fall again soi have to continuously thank you for all that. ;-)
oh zivic, im sorry for this. but im extremely happy you and your baby are healthy! congratulations. i know its been a long raod for you too so im glad that you were able to get pg and at least have some hope. would you rather have not been able to get pg if you knew for sure this #3 was a girl? i think once you see her (like me) you will forget a lot of the GD (hopefully for me to). im up and down. what helps me is reminding myself that tehre are those out there that cnt have babies at all and/or have kids with genetic abnormalities and that ihave a great family and 2 great kids before this pg....all the good things.i hope you get there too zivic!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Zivic-Bubac
thanks flava and CONGRATS on your pgcy! imso happy for you!!! well you dont know for sure anything yet so dont set yourself up for nothing! just behappy it happened. this was all meant to be! youre right about some of us who sway it prob wont ever happen for whatever reason. thats why i think this is mostly God;s choice..not really ours (for us where swaying doesnt help!)Quote:
Originally Posted by Flava
goodluck!!!!
thanks boy joy you said this really well and it made me really smile and feel stupid for even having GD. you girls know all the right thinsg to say! this is perfect and ill try to always remember this!!Quote:
Originally Posted by boyjoy
thank you!
I wouldn't think it was the frequency of BD. In fact, I am kicking myself for not doing it MORE than we did. Every day I find a new regret about my sway. That was the thing I wanted most (well, besides a BOY:DS: or course!!)--to have NO REGRETS about my sway, so I can say I did all I could. I definitely have regrets. :(Quote:
Originally Posted by gizmo77
I think you DID do all you could. I don't think it was the caffeine. I know several people that drink a ton of caffeine and have boys. And I know people who don't drink any coffee and have girls. As for the moon, I O'ed right on the full moon and I still think my baby is a girl! You can't control all that. I don't know if I believe in ions anyway. I took short showers, burned incense, turned off all our ceiling fans, etc. and I don't think it helped!
I really think your sway was perfect. So try not to over think what you did/didn't do.
well you might think so and i guess i WOULD have thought it was perfect except that i didnt get the desired gender!! ;-)
i could have went back on ACV (i stopped bc it gave me the runs), i coul dhave BSF'd more i only did it once 3 days before attempt but then the following days my pH was 9ish anyway so i thought why bother and increase risk of BSF killing off sperm which is what happened i think on 1st attempt..so whatever i did there was a reason but it was just my subjective reason. my dh wasnt eating like me (he just cant). i sort of blame his eating style (i dnt tell himthis) bci feel like i did the most and followed it the most. but youre right all in all, it was perfect in my eyes did the best i could with what i thought was right at THAT time...and thats it. i get what i get!
good luck hobbers, you still wont know for sure until i you get a true gender scan and besides you have nmore of a chance since you have a boy. id kill for just ONE!!!!
;-)
I wouldn't worry about the BSF--BS has a pH of 8. If your pH was 9, then the BSF would have brought your pH down!
Gizmo I see so much of my past emotions/thoughts in you right now! After finding out my initial thought process was wondering what on earth I did "wrong" and I analyzed my sway so much that I had to delete it. I couldn't figure out why it didn't work. And the thing is there's no way of knowing... MILLIONS of sperm were there, for all you know your sway could have gotten it to where 95% of those were Y, but an X still won. And from reading your sway, it did work in that you saw all those changes... I know for sure I changed my body, but still... a girl. It was REALLY frustrating. I don't typically play games I can't win, KWIM? But you can't control this, at all... it is a gamble every time w/o pgd. Anyhow the obsession over your sway will fade, I promise.
I also had to smile because we too sold our house just prior to pg! Things lined up perfectly and we bought my dream house... literally a house I used to walk by and dream of having. Things were going so well this past year that NOT getting my DG felt THAT much harder, because it felt like things were all coming together so well, how could this not happen too? LOL. Again, for me, the sway caused me to lose focus on what mattered: having another healthy baby. The GD is crazy blinding though and will make you look past the huge blessing of another child and only see the gender, and not only that, make you think that this baby's gender is somehow the most important thing EVER. And it isn't. And while you can know that rationally it is very hard to feel it while pregnant. I think boyjoy put it all really, really well :) Her post made me smile too.
I really wanted to do pgd for awhile after finding out but dh is set against it. We'll either adopt or roll the dice again if we go for 4. I love pregnancy and L&D so the idea of doing that one more time is really appealing. Like you though, I don't know if DH would have considered a 4th had it not been for the GD I went thru with this pg. Now he's really into the idea of one more, LOL... he's totally smitten with his newest DD and doesn't want this to be our last baby. I never thought I'd have four kids but it doesn't seem so crazy to me anymore, so who knows?
Anyhow I'm glad you're posting and working through this here! Maybe we'll both go for #4 at the same time :)
thanks begonia, your words really soothe me and its nice to know there are others out there that feel and take things the same way as me. i do feel like i "failed" at some competition (against myself or against the odds apparently). today i feel like for those who do sway and get their desired gender were probably already likely to have their desired gender eventually even if they never swayed. for ppl like me who swayed hard core..the ultimate sway with no "mistakes" are more likely to conceive one gender only. and the odds of them getting their desired gender are just harder or less likely. i have an aunt who had like 3 or 4 girls in a row (and they wanted like tons of boys) and they just kept going and going and i think finally #5 or whatevr was a boy..then another girl..then one more boy (she had one pg where she delivered still birth a baby boy). there are ppl out there who do PGD and just cant accept an XY embryo (or XX). i DO feel like its kind of a sign...a balance perhaps that a high being only knows WHY its this way.
we are defly not in a position to keep going and going until we have one boy..thats why im thinking more and more of PGD. when i 1st heard of it i was appalled. but the more i research it today, i think why not. its available. dh thinks its just "not right." and that something may happen to the baby (birth defects from pulling cells out to test). im worried about that too, but you can hav e birth defects naturally too. at least i THINK DH may be more onboard for #4 at this point (bc of certain things he says) but we'd still have to have a discussion. well istill also want to see how life is with 3 1st myself, then decide on #4, then decide on PGD. i dont think i can sway again (like you begonia and others) and "risk" having it not work after my having gone thru all that (not that PGD will be any easier). i dont know how (i think it was) flava or TTC5 was able to come to terms with swaying again after a "failed" sway.
i mean i felt like i worked so hard. id just be working harder esply having 3 kids around. the expense of food, the weight lifting. the drinks, eating constantly. explaining to ppl im NOT pregnant (hahah). making sure DH is getting his stuff. why would it work again.
i do have to say tho that i DO like beef better (normally i was a chicken eater) and i have always liked large breakfasts (but defly not when im dieting and boy WILL i be after this princess is done cooking!..by way of breastfeeding of course!). but iim starting not to care so much about cheese. im starting to CRAVE salads. could be pregnancy related too, but i guess i did take SOMETHING from swaying..eating better. could be me getting older too. who knows. so many variants.
so honestly, im hoping dh will be up for PGD. i doubt we would adopt. i think DH is more not for that than pgd (well im not sure actually i could be wrong..but i think he d rather have "his own"). i LOVE being pregnant and L&D also..so id much rather pgd then adopt. or just try again aimlessly vs adopt. so still a long road for me but we'll see what happens when i get there.
itd defly be nice to keep in touch with all you guys and get updates. ill be interested to see you begonia, if you sway unconsciously when/if you TTC for #4 (i think i would!)
xoxoxo for you Gizmo and KUP if you guys ever decide to go HT :) xx
thanks 5 and good luck to you!!!
Thankyou xxx