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How are you doing Polaris??
Good! I was gone for awhile due to technical issues. I've missed you guys [emoji23] DD3 turned 2 in June and we definitely want a fourth! just unsure about when since life has been crazy.Quote:
Originally Posted by LMSM
I've been trying to read and catch up! Are you trying soon??
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Just dropping by to give you guys my thoughts and prayers! My messages aren’t working so I just wanted to say thank you guys here for the sweet messages!!! Let me know if I can help at all!!!!
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My messages aren't either!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Thefinalcountdown
I tried shooting you a message in our blue buddies one saying congratulations [emoji4][emoji4]
You definitely help just by making that daily blue log you did! [emoji170]
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I'm back from holidays so sorry I missed this while away!!Quote:
Originally Posted by polaris.kai
I get the whole life is crazy thing LOL
We TTC while away and now waiting on AF - I'm out as no positive test and about 13/14DPO, and have been spotting for like 5 days now,...suspect AF will start in earnest soon but have been sick so that's not helping.
I just want to move on, and try again!
How's life with your littlest man? :love:Quote:
Originally Posted by Thefinalcountdown
Hey thank you!! He’s so sweet and chunky! I dk if it’s his personality or the 4th child dynamic but he’s so chill and a good sleeper! Probably gets tired just watching the daily s**t show [emoji1787]
How are you? What’s your latest???
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4th kid dynamic probably at play - my 4th is the sweetest, easiest yet...that, or you just drop your expectations lower with each kid LOL I'm glad all is well - I'd love to hear his name is you are willing to share here :PQuote:
Originally Posted by Thefinalcountdown
I just started AF so our 1st cycle TTC didn't work unfortunately - all being well attempts some time late next week so FX it works :D
For my own benefit and to keep myself accountable - will also pop in exercise and food diary to ensure I actually eat/workout in these last days leading up to O LOL
Today - exercise: 35minutes mild cardio (am on AF, so doing anything too strenuous makes me bleed hard so keeping it low key for another day or 2)
Breakfast : Tea with ff milk / bowl of greek FF yogurt, 1/2 cup fresh strawberries, 1 TBS natural PB, sprinkle of pistachios, drizzle of maple syrup
Snack: Apple with PB dip
Lunch: Leftover homemade beef lasagna with side spinach salad (EVOO/ balsamic /garlic as dressing)
Snack: Dry roasted almonds, tea with milk
Dinner: Chicken curry with coconut rice, lemon/garlic broccoli
Snack: Tea with milk/ handful of cereals, strawberries
Oh whoa, is this a thing?? My 4th is SOOO easygoing! Good to know.Quote:
Originally Posted by LMSM
I don’t know if it is, and if it’ll stay that way (my 4th is only 2.5 yo) … but I think it may be!Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
That said, she’s a girl and girls are definitely more high maintenance LOL
Can anyone see this message? My messages don’t seem to be sending through. Atomic, can you send me a message?
Hey guys. I’m back. I’m terrified. I’m pregnant again. Not thinking at all that I was. I am 39 and was done having children ( husband refuse’s vasectomy) but I thought I was careful.
I have 4 kids and I am barely keeping it together with one with a TBI and needing medical care etc. my family and friends will all scream “ I told you this would happen” my parents will keel over and die. I need someone to talk to and you guys have always been so great.
Hi Dan,Quote:
Originally Posted by Dan1g1r1
I can see your messages!!!
That would have been quite the shock (my 4th was a complete surprise and I was NOT happy about it).... how far along are you now? which gender are you hoping for?
How are your kids?
Hello! Thank you so much for replying. I am only 5 weeks on Friday. I am praying for another boy. We have no more room in our current house, and if it was another boy, amongst many other reasons, it would be so much better and easier. Not that anything is easy. At least for clothes and babies personal belongings, we could just share with his older brothers. The order of my children are boy girl boy, boy, and praying for another boy. I know it sounds silly, but I am just not a girl mom. My pregnancy with my daughter was the hardest, and she is by far my most difficult child. My third child was in a bad accident in June 2021, and I found myself pregnant right after the accident. I was not preventing pregnancy then, but I actually thrilled when I found out it was another boy because I didn’t have time to sway, even though we did have intercourse a few times, and my fertile window. This time I’m freaking out because it was an oops, ( I thought he actually finished the transaction outside if you know what I mean). This terrifies me because I know this sways girl. My diet and exercise level and everything was the exact same as the other boys but because of the only one time in my fertile window and thinking that it was a pull out I’m thinking I am doomed to have another girl.
You have every chance of having another boy - I mean you have 3 out of 4 of your children that are already!Quote:
Originally Posted by Dan1g1r1
I know what you mean by not being a "girl mom" - I have 4 and I honestly never ever saw myself as one to have girls - would have been perfectly content with all boys!
Maybe look at it this way - this baby made its way to you even when you didn't expect it/want it (like your 4th - who you conceived under very stressful circumstances - and still had a boy!)...you likely are actually more primed naturally to have boys so don't give up this may be another one ;)
I hope you’re right that I’m naturally more inclined to make boys. Just with the fact of this being one determined sperm, that’s why I think it’s going to be a girl. With my other boys there were at least two attempts.
I see from your signature that you are going to be trying soon or are?
I see it, please message me at atomicsagebrush@gmail.com and I can help. Please don't be terrified, just take it one day or even minute or second at a time and you will get through this!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Dan1g1r1
PS - I would wait to tell people just in case things don't work out. They don't need to know until they NEED to know, if you catch my meaning! I didn't tell my family till I was very far along with a couple of my kids just because it wasn't worth the fuss.
You never know, though - we do have some pull out boys too and it may just be that you're sooo fertile as a couple that's how it happened!
Yes - we're on our second cycle TTC - in the TWW now ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Dan1g1r1
Well, I will be thinking of you during this wait. I know how every second of every day can feel like months.
Thanks!!!
Looks like I’m not far behind you Dan! Just took a test yesterday and it’s positive:)
Very early as not even 4 weeks but FX it’s a sticky healthy blue bean :D
Also kiddo 5 here and our families already commented (we visited in July as they are all overseas faaaar away so no help either :P) that we were crazy with 4…
And 4 girls, at that!!
My FIL especially is going to freak out especially if this is not a boy… thinking I may keep this pregnancy on the low down suuuper long
Congratulations! I hope this is your boy sent from above! I know how corny that sounds to say, but truly I hope that God gives you what your heart desires. I truly am very happy for you.
I am trying to pass the time without letting this depression take over. I am having a really hard time. I have no support system or anyone I can speak to since this is a pregnancy that I will hide for as long as I can, just like my last two. I pray it’s a boy for so many reasons, but I feel like hope is lost with how this one was conceived.
I love how I can talk with someone literally across the world from myself. I live in the states, Wisconsin to be exact. Sending you so many good vibes to you and the life in your womb!
Just following journeys in anticipation of restarting mine! LMSM wow congrats! Fingers crossed for healthy, and blue! Dan1g1r1 just wanted to reach out as although our situations are different I experienced horrid pregnancy depression and anxiety with my 4 month old son. I was really not ok; also hid the pregnancy for as long as I could, for many reasons... the low mood took the form of gender disappointment at some point but also many other hideous forms. I'm happy to say I do feel much better now he's here and I'm hoping that will be the case for you, too. Feel free to message if you wanna talk.
Thanks Dan - I certainly hope so too! I have wished for a boy since before our 1st, and never have seen that wish granted - so really hope that Life decides it is finally time...Quote:
Originally Posted by Dan1g1r1
I was severely depressed when expecting DD4 - and my husband urged me to see a counsellor...which I did. I was lucky to find someone that suffered some GD too and we could talk about things without judgement. Was the pregnancy horrid? yes, but it felt good to be heard.
We've no family or support system either (I am in Australia and our families are in Europe) - so the burden felt so very heavy. I'd suggest looking into counselling if you can - will you find out gender? and if so, when? You could put a post here asking for recommendations for a GD friendly counsellor...no doubt others have used those services and after Covid, I found lots of these are now also available online via teleconsult so it makes it easier!
I really do think it's worth questioning yourself why you so not want a girl. You have one, but also 3 boys...what is it you think a girl will disrupt? etc etc
I found that digging into that question with the counsellor helped acknowledge my own personal hurt, fears, and experiences. Does it solve GD? absolutely not - did it take me off the edge? maybe a bit - at least enough to continue with the pregnancy though I still feel like I did moreso because "it was the right thing to do"..BUT it gave me the most wonderful birth experience (I finally had the waterbirth I'd always dreamt of!) and 2.5 years on - I can tell you my 4th is truly a ray of sunshine. She is so loving, so funny, so cheeky, so beautiful... I'm glad I didn't miss out on her and let me tell you, I was MAD at her, at me, my body.
I hope that whatever comes your way, you will have a sense of peace ;)
PinkSabra - thank you! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by PinkSabra101
I'm so glad to see that things are better now ...GD is truly such a mindf*ck - that only those that have experienced can understand.
When were you thinking of going for another bub?
@Dan - there is a pregnancy thread you may want to join :) https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...ancy-chat.html
It's pretty quiet on the site unfortunately
LMSM how are you feeling? So we've decided to basically not prevent from when our youngest is 1 in May. I don't know when I'll even get my cycle back from breastfeeding (with my middle kid it was a year and a half), and I'm turning 40 this week. So I'm just hopeful it'll all work out ok!
Yay, that's exciting!! Did you have any issues falling pregnant previously? if not don't let the 'turning 40" stop you (happy belated birthday by the way!) - it's not like our ovaries expire from one day to the next!Quote:
Originally Posted by PinkSabra101
Sending you all the baby dust for when you decide to go ahead :)
Ah thx! We are lucky to get pregnant very easily but have also had several miscarriages so I've often wondered if I have an "unfussy uterus" though I don't know if that's a real thing. We've conceived 7 times, all but one on first cycle, and I have 3 kids. So my gut is that we'd probably conceive but realistically have to go through a loss or two before getting one that sticks. I can sound rational about it now but when going through it, it does take a toll so I think I have to detach a bit and try to be rational about it once we try. I'm in London and it's not at all unusual for people here to have babies in their forties, so that does give me hope. I'm in a music class with my 5 month old and while there are a few moms who look like kids (so probably about 25...) I don't feel particularly "old". Just wish I knew period would come back in good time so I don't genuinely age out of it! How you feeling about things??Quote:
Originally Posted by LMSM
Hello! I’m curious, did you guys track before trying? I’m nervous if I get off my bc I’ll get pregnant and not get a chance to really sway.
I’m also wondering, how do you know if you’re three days out from ovulation? Did you have to track to figure that out?
Thank you guys! I’m planning on swaying in April!
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Hi Madi,
I did track for over a year so could identify patterns of what was "my normal" so to speak- knowing there will always be variations. The cycle I did fall pregnant I was caught off guard by a peak that arrived super early - so it was all hands on deck to get attempts in earlier than I thought LOL
The best thing you can do is track your temperature and use opks so that you can see that for example you get your peak opk 2 days before O (as confirmed by your temperature chart).
That way, you can estimate when your fertile window is and "plan" attempts accordingly.
Given you are not TTC'ing until april, provided you have regular cycles, then that should be ample time o know your cycle well for when attempt time comes - good luck!