Due in Mar/April/May 2015

Thank you for all the congratulations ladies! I did quite a bit of shopping over the weekend, but spent a lot of time getting my house ready because we are having a large gathering for Thanksgiving, so I need to make sure everything is clean and ready to go.

You are so strong Team Greeners! For several weeks I considered being team green as well. I can't believe that March is starting to creep up on us! Once the holidays pass it is going to be right around the corner!

Primal- That is so terrible and upsetting. Thank goodness he survived. I cannot handle hearing stories like that. In the US we have "Safe Havens", which essentially means that parents that are feeling unfit to care for their child can drop them off at any of these places (police station, fire station, hospital, church) with no questions asked and without any prosecution. Meanwhile, terrible things continue to happen in spite of this. I would be the same as you, wanting to find the baby and offer him my boob as well. poor thing.

Sunflower I am so sorry for all your losses, you are a very strong lady to try and try again. I had a mc in June this year and I am so scared now. I am Def staying team green.
I feel like I'm on my own here as a blue swayer!!!
Primal I saw on the news about that baby, it makes me mad that so many women can't have one of their own, and then you get people like that doing horrible things to them. I would happily take him :hug2:

How's everybody doing? I have been dealing with bad headaches all week. I am overwhelmed with papers and finals at school, work, getting ready for Thanksgiving and all that is going on. Trying to take it easy when I can. Luckily I am going on vacation in just two weeks. I certainly need it!

Hi ladies, just wanted to say I've posted my scan picture in the Ultrasound forum although it hasn't got a nub (I don't think) but just wanted to share. I think I saw a flat nub while she was doing her measurements but I'm no expert so waiting to get another scan done on holiday this Christmas.

It did raise my hopes but then I told a friend today who asked "will you keep it if it is a boy?" I immediately thought this poor baby didn't choose its gender and I will love he/she no matter what! So I am thinking DS3 is in my tum else will be a lovely surprise to hear girl!

Hairbows I get bad headaches everyday (so far today I've been spared but haven't had a proper chance to sit down til now so it may come on suddenly)

Would love to see some of your recent pink purchases :)

Will you keep it?!!!??!!! Oh I would've slapped her. How extremely insensitive. I'm heading over to look at your pic now lol!!

Sweet Mummy I am so sorry your friend reacted that way. That's the hard thing about revealing gender desire to anyone who doesn't have it they just don't get it. I remember a girl at work a few years ago was pregnant with identical twins & knew it was her first & last pregnancy (it was IVF & really hard) & mentioned she wanted girls. Well, the whole office demonised her completely, called her a heartless bitch & all sorts. She went on to have 2 lovely little boys (everyone said it was karma & "serves her right") who she adores but that was 4 years ago & she has now left & people STILL talk about how horrible she was. I find it easier to give everyone outside this forum (other than my husband) the socially acceptable answer - that I am happy with either sex as long as the baby is healthy. I'm so sorry your friend was so insensitive.

Also - I saw your pics & couldn't see any gender clues at all I'm afraid. Baby is very cute though!!

Awww thanks girls for the lovely responses! Really cheered me up. The funny thing about this friend is she wants three boys so when I told her the news she said "if it is a boy you're having my dream family" BUT she has a daughter and already said to me she doesn't want another girl. So I think that she thinks I "GET IT" sigh! Think she envies each and every one of us boy moms!

Hate that we have to hide our true feelings but I'm so glad I've got you all to share my feelings with.

Primal how are you feeling these days? Finding things to occupy your time?

Babybeau, shame I told her over the phone lol Take all my blue dust pleaseeeeee!

OMG sweet mummy I can't believe she said that!! I think people just say things without thinking but really really really stupid thing to say!
I got a very girly vibe from my 13 week scan and luckily I was right, crossing everything for you I will go look at your pics now!

Anyone else getting back pain and sore feet? Can't believe this is happening already! Its my first summer pregnancy !

Hotdogz when is your scan? Thinking of you! Praying your little baby is happy and healthy!

How is everyone? X

Okay I guessed girl for you honey just a lean, but the skull is very girly in the first PIC .... Super cute!!! Are you finding out? Xxxx

Yea we are definitely finding out! Although I feel this sort of "calm" now! Did any of you ladies find that? Like very "it is what it is".

Hey all

Its been ages since I've been on here but today we got some terrible news and I thought id update you all…. (I also posted in the pregnancy loss group so sorry for the double up to those who do read those posts too).

Things have been going really well wit the pregnancy. I had my 20 week scan and things were great and it was confirmed (after our previous non diagnostic gender scan) that we were indeed having our much desired/dreamed for daughter that we swayed for and a bonus little man. They were both happy and healthy and doing well.

But today that changed. We went in for a scan today and were told that our little girl has died. I am heartbroken and lost for words. Ive had no pain, no bleeding, no nothing…..just was a little concerned about lack of movement from them both, but was not expecting this.

After swaying, an early m/c, swaying again, finding out we were having twins and that one was a girl to now this…. its just all been such an ordeal and now I have to go through the rest of the pregnancy not knowing what the impact on the surviving twin will be, having to deliver both of them, then we have to go through everything afterwards.

This is all just not fair! Its like some cruel cruel joke.

Im just so devastated.

Sam

Sam honey words cannot describe how heartbroken I am for you I think all of us are going to shed a tear for you tonight, life really is unfair to take this precious life from you, I'm sending you a million hugs and want you to know we are all here for you to talk too or rant too XXXX

Oh Sam there are no words to describe my feelings. We were all praying for you and your babies all this time and to have such an update is beyond unfair....I really hope your baby boy is not affected by this and just know that I am praying for you and your baby girl in heaven..

Oh MumofSix Sam... I am so unbelievably sorry for your loss. There are no words.

Im so so sorry momofsix :(
I cant imagine what ur going through..
Hugs .. :(

:sad: Devastated.

Mumofsix I'm so sorry!!! I have no words. I wish you all the strength you need to go trough this.
I just don't know what to say.

Big Hugs

Mumofsix what an awful thing for u to go through, To find out u finally Got your girl and to suddenly lose her,I can't imagine what u are going through.big hugs, love and strength to get through the rest of the pregnancy xxx

Oh my god...mumofsix. I have no words: ((((

Loads of hugs and prayers for u n the family

Mumofsix I cannot tell you how sorry I am. I am sending you lots of love and healing. My heart breaks for you

Mumofsix, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this and sending lots of hugs and prayers for you and your family xoxo

Hope you don't mind me posting again, I still get notifications from my app when people post in here and like to keep up with your journeys from time to time, rooting for you all and I couldn't read and run.
Mumofsix I am so so sorry to hear your sad news. I'm thinking of you all at this extremely difficult time. Sending you all my love and best wishes.


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Ladies, need some advice - Midwife just called to let me know I am at risk for Downs Syndrome (Their cut off is 1 in 150 and my test came back as 1 in 130) so they want to have me in on Monday for a consultation about CVS and possibly do the procedure right then and there. I am so shocked and really scared as to what it all entails as I was low risk with my boys.

Does anyone have any experience with this? I am so worried about miscarriage too!

Just saw this through new posts- just to put this into perspective, you have a less than 1% chance of your child having DS. At 1.130, that is a .76% chance so a 99.24% chance all is well!

You can ask for a 4D scan and see if there are any other soft markers like a heart defect. If there are no soft markers seen, then you can decide to have a CVS or not. There are so many things that can affect the "test"- remember it is not diagnostic and simply an odds generator and most are false positives(it's not actually a positive though!).

Sam, absolutely devastating news. I'm so sorry. There are no words. I really hope you have support. Heartbroken for you honey. Hugs xxx


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Sweet mummy you poor thing how scary stephk just had the same thing I think she was 1 in 90 she chose to do a medical scan and her baby is 100% healthy. I too would advise this option before rushing into CVS so many things can affect the downs test your age, if the sonographer did not do the measurements properly etc etc. X

Sweet mummy My sister had her son in jan. She had a 1:17 risk from the nuchal tests. She was told she would never have children so didn't do the cvs as he was her miracle. He was perfect at birth. I fell pg just after he was born. After all the worry during her pg, and with the ds risk clouding her pg, I opted to pay £600 for the harmony to get peace of mind. It was only the day or 2 before the section that I started to think about it. Good luck xx


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Sweet Mummy what a shock. I would be taking up the other girl's suggestions. My friend has a son with Downs & absolutely nothing came up on the Original test. I have several friends who got high risk results & like you & they all turned out to be nothing at all so I think it has a lot of variables &
Inconsistencies.

Thanks for your responses and advice girls! DH and I are doing our research and I already know whether baby has it or not we are keeping it, whereas hubby is very reluctant and wants me to do the test no questions asked.

I'm going to the consultation on Monday and see what they say. My gut says nothing is wrong but better to hear them out. I'd much prefer a medical scan than something invasive. This pregnancy has just thrown me for a loop compared to the boys! Will keep you all updated on what we decide...feeling quite numb to it all but hopeful xx

Omg Sam. I have just seen your news. How incredibly devastating. I can't begin to imagine how you are feeling. If you need to talk just pm me xxx Be kind to yourself.

Oh honey...Sam, I am absolutely crushed for you. That is the greatest heartbreak I can imagine.
I have thought of you often and now I am just devastated for you.
Lots of mommies all over the world are crying for your loss. Big hugs and prayers that time will help you come to terms.

So so sorry to read this news Mumofsix I will say a little prayer for your little one x


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So sorry again for your loss Sam! We are all here for you for support or whatever you need. You are in my prayers.

Sweet mummy - I had similar results with DS3 but that was just results from NT scan and blood work. This was before the harmony test.
My ds3 is completely fine. Try not to worry.
What test did they do to get these results?

I had the same - NT scan and blood work but today she explained so many factors go into it like weight, age, hormones, etc. all of which they take into consideration (sorry if everyone knows this already but it was news to us) because I asked for them to re-measure the fluid behind babies neck before doing the procedure, thinking it was just this measurement they used.

We ended up getting it done today. Was quite painful and I cried after but DH was set on it and l literally want peace of mind for the rest of this pregnancy.

Sweet mummy i hope you get some rest and good news soon xx

Thanks Mrs Incredible! Have you had your baby girl yet? Sorry if I missed the big announcement :) xx

I'm sure the test results will be fine sweet mummy thinking of you though, it doesn't sound like much fun! I would want peace of mind too Xxxx
Sam , mum of six how are you doing? Thinking about you every day.
How is everyone else? X

I'm doing okay. Thinking about all the lovely ladies here. I honestly have stayed away for a bit because I feel guilty posting when so many women are going through a hard time. I am thinking of all you ladies every single day though.

Same here Hairbows. I don't want to post my own stuff anymore it seems so trivial.