Mum to 3 what a cutie ;-)
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Mum to 3 what a cutie ;-)
Love the baby pics!
I will try and get some up soon...
I still need to make my 6 week check up appt :s I'm so bad when it comes to worrying about myself.... It's been almost 5 weeks already I can't believe it... So bitter sweet... I will miss never having a little babe again but at the same time I'm very excited for him to start laughing and sitting and exploring his world
I had my first post partum sex yesterday... I don't know about you guys but I literally couldn't hold out any longer... It's all ive been thinking about for a few days now lmao... I've been doing loads of kegals since birth so it felt like things were back to normal! Other than the fact I hate condom sex... Still about a month til the vesectomy and then I thnk it's another 6 months til the test sperm count
Just weighed Lennon and he's 11 pounds exactly!
Ha ha wag tell you a secret waiting 6 weeks is an American thing I only know what you mean from something I read on Pinterest! Have to say with each baby dtd has been a week later post birth thou lol! 1 week 1st time 2 second three 3rd ;-) don't think dh would agree to a 4 ;-)
Here they say to give it a go before 6 weeks so you can tell dr of any issues at 6 wk check! Xx
Really eh..l interesting..l I'm in Canada but i can see it being the same in the states...
It was good ;) lol I did spot a tiny bit after but I felt fine...
Ah wag sorry ;-s
Lol it's okay fish... So quiet around here now :( I guess we will slowly drift apart now that we are done :(
Aw mum23 very cute, your girls look like they are going to be great big sisters :D
I think i'm quiet a long way off doing the deed yet lol. As much as i'd love to my scar is still pretty sore and it also looks awful :(
Little Evie was so worth it though, shes so good. The only time she really cries is when she goes in her car seat, she does like to have her play time at 2am so i'm pretty worn out.
Its gone so quiet on here now too, everyone must be so busy with their little bundles :)
I'm still so tired!! Lol 4 kids is a lot, but well worth it! I think I might be experiencing some postpartum blues, I can't figure out why or put my finger on what it is that is making me sad. I honestly think it has to do with the weather getting gloomy again, and the fact that I am still hurting when I expected my hips to be back to normal as soon as I had her. I want to exercise and fit into my pants again lol. Macie is perfect though I couldn't ask for a better baby!
Postpartum sex wont happen for me until 4-6 weeks because that is how long I can hold DH off, I don't really miss it right now, and I think that has to do with my PP blues too and the fact that by the time he gets home, all I want to do is sleep. Once I start exercising again maybe I'll feel more energetic which should help my moods! It is very quiet on here now, and I am sure it is because we all have our hands full with our growing families!! I hope all is well with everyone, thank you ladies for being my support during these hard last 9 months!!!
Its so busy during the day, especially my boys are not in school yet. Next year when DS1 starts will be easier. I hope everyone is getting enough sleep!
Umm yeah I have been very busy and that's with three kids, so I can't imagine how those of you with 4 are handling things! Evan nurses around the clock during the day and at night his stretches go anywhere from 2-5 hours (closer to 2 though, lol). We've had a rough few days here because last Thursday I came down with a gum infection above my wisdom tooth. I had to start clindamycin on Friday, which is so powerful it wipes out all the bacteria. Well even though it's approved for breastfeeding, Evan still came down with diarrhea and a nasty diaper rash. :( Thankfully the dentist told me today I can stop the oral antibiotics and switch to local (otherwise I would have two more days left of that stuff). Both Evan and I are taking tons of probiotics as well and I have been taking Motrin around the clock for days now, or else the pain would radiate all the way to my ears and throat.
Let's just say that I am very paranoid about thrush as well because nursing is finally getting much better now that my big crack on the right side has healed. Turns out I was allergic to disposable nursing pads!!! After I switched to cotton and bamboo reusable ones, I started to heal! I wish I would have known that with DS1 and 2 because nursing was an absolute nightmare with them for the first 6-8 weeks (at which point I tend to ditch pads because I no longer need them, but I am only seeing the correlation now!).
Well it's been too quiet on here so I figured I'd write a novel to "entertain" those who still visit this board.
DS2 looooves his little brother. :)
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I'm not getting much sleep but it doesn't matter this week - next week the big kids will be at school which is a sort of mixed blessing - great that they're entertained for the day but it will be chaotic in the mornings. I THINK we've decided on Nicholas James for a name (after a week, lol) we both really liked Archie but it seems more of a baby/child's name than a grown up one. He's feeding a million times a day but I'm pretty good now at latching a baby and doing a few other things at the same time. My parents go soon but I must say they've been helpful when it comes to looking after the big kids while I get to know the baby.
My VJ has settled down after the burst vein but still sore and there's a black bruise over the mons pubis area. I don't think I'll be having sex for another few weeks! I can't wait to run again as well but the hospital physio said it's actually better for your pelvic floor to wait as long as you can so I'll give it the full 6 weeks.
Thorz, it's understandable that your mood is flat - you had a complicated pregnancy, a traumatic birth, continuous visitors and a husband who's constantly working. Can you organise things to let you get out with just Macie (or by yourself) for an hour or so? I think it's important to have some "me time" to look forward to.
Anyway, DH has taken the morning off and has taken the kids to the park. My parents are going to explore (with a shopping list, lol) and the baby is asleep so I'm going to hopefully join him.
Girlsway that's what I think too but at the same time it's nice that they have a year together before ds1 starts school
Thorz everyone has read me the riot act re post partum blues do you have a friend you could chat it through with, you have had a rough road and its always stressful and disappointing to realise it was all baby weight some of it seems to be here to stay ;-) planning my first run today at 5 weeks it'll be very light. Give yourself some space to cuddle your beautiful bubba
Southern lovely name I'd go for it ;/) hope your getting some shut eye
Daltag whoop for washable breast pads, Naomi has the glue from a throw away one stuck on her hair!!! No idea how! Nappy change in the dark! Hope your big boys enjoying school
Love you awesome ladies
Hi ladies I've been MIA and I know I've missed a lot. My dad passed away very unexpectedly last week and I've just been reeling from the shock. He was at DS1's soccer game that Saturday (he NEVER missed any of the kids games) then Sunday night I got a call from the hospital that he was on life support, by Wednsday he was gone. We were extremely close, talked on the phone everyday and never went for more than a few days without seeing each other as he lived close by. I'm just absolutely heartbroken that he's gone. I was by his side holding his hand as he passed away for which I'm grateful but I've never experienced heartache like this before. As an only child I've been completely overwhelmed planning his funeral and memorial service all by myself. He was too young for this. My boys were so close to him and it breaks my heart Julian won't remember him.
I want to say a very belated Congratulations to Thorz on the birth of Macie, she is very beautiful.
Here are a few pics I took this morning of Julian. As you can see he is all belly
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Southern -- I am so very sorry for the loss of your dad. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you begin to deal with this tremendous shock. I can't imagine how hard it must be to go through this without siblings.
I do have to say though that Julian is such a cutie! I am sure your gorgeous family will be a great source of comfort in the months to come.
I also just backtracked a bit and realized one of my posts never made it up. It was right after Thorz had Macie. I'm so sorry for the late congratulations Thorz! Macie is just gorgeous! :) I hope you will start to feel much better soon, physically as well as emotionally. Cut yourself some slack as far as keeping up with the household and the boys goes. The more you sit back the first 2 weeks or so, the faster you will bounce back. I know it's much easier said than done, especially with a DH who works as much as yours does. Please lean on the support from your church friends! And don't hesitate to seek professional advice if those baby blues are just too hard to chase on your own.
Oh southern I'm so sorry for your loss what a massive blow that must be, I'm an only child and really dread being the only one left so I do really feel for you, your poor boys too lovely that they were close but sad they have to experience this loss
Julian is sooo cute! How big is he now he looks the same size as Naomi I haven't had her weighed thou but think she's about 8lb
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Hi ladies, sorry I've been MIA. It's pretty busy here. But all going really well with little Darcey. She's a placid little thing - thank goodness!! Thorz, I always have the baby blues for a good 2 weeks. This time round I was upset I'll never have another baby. Even though my mind tells me I am done! The baby blues are so strong and I'd cry every time I'd think about it. But feeling more in control now of my emotions and definitely feel complete with my 4 beautiful children. Will always be clucky around pregnant women and newborns though. I just have to live with that!! Lol
As for sex, I am still not the least bit interested. And even though I never get my period while breast feeding I'm not risking it until I get my IUD put in at my check up in 2 more weeks. It would just be my luck that the firs time I DONT want to fall pregnant I will!!
Sputhern, I'm so sorry to hear this about your dad. I hope you're holding up ok. Thinking of you x x x
I'm sorry about your dad, Southern. Hope you're holding up ok.
Where is everyone? A new baby = a busy time though.
Very sorry to hear about your sad loss Southern, if its any comfort I my self am a funeral arranger if you need any advice or support with anything please feel free to message me :bighug:
Looks to me like all our little bundles are gaining weight, at 24days old my chubby Eadie had gained a whole 39oz!! Shes now 8.11 from 6.4 at birth. This week she gained just over 1lb!!! Very suprised for a fully breastfed baby.
I do have a question for anyone who may be experiencing the same or previously experienced it, Eadie seems to be perfect through out the day will feed quickly and settled until her next feed 3 and a half hours later but when it comes to 7pm she is so unsettled until around 11pm, she just wants to be latched constabtly to my breast, I thought maybe colic but shes not showing signs (knees up ect) she will scream until i put her on my breast wven if shes just had a feed. But come 11pm she will take her last feed and sleep soundly until 3/4am x
Hey Laura ds1 and Naomi both did this that's why I put her to bed at 7pm ;-) she's usually up around 2 and 4.30 which I guess might be an extra night feed but for me it's worth not to have a sad bubba all evening. I don't think either of them actually had colic thou ds1 might have he had reflux so hard to know! Just so unsettled ;/(((
LadyLaura, that's totally normal and called cluster feeding. A lot of babies do that. It's awesome for your supply (the continuous nursing when you are already probably running low tells your body to produce more milk) and it helps her amass calories so she CAN sleep a longer stretch at night. I know it's exhausting for you but try to keep going and just feed her on demand. The crying to be fed is normal too and not necessarily a sign of colic. They just know what they want! My DS2 and DS3 are like that and I literally sometimes switch DS3 side to side (with mere 5-10 min breaks) for hours! Proof that you are doing the right thing is your LO's beautiful weight gain. My babies (all breastfed) always gained tons of weight from the get go and were VERY chunky around 4-6 months (without any solids). The cluster feeding should slow down significantly after the first 6-8 weeks though. :)
Mine all cluster fed too. The explanations I liked the best were 1) that they are stocking up on the higher fat hind milk before their night time sleep and 2) it's a time of the day when they're tired and insecure so they're seeking out comfort.Quote:
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It doesn't last forever, I tend to just go with it as well.
Julian does the same thing, usually between 8-10pm-ish he is more fussy and likes to nurse more. Sometimes I'm able to calm him with a really tight swaddle, white noise and a passy to hold him off long enough for me to get some things done. He's otherwise a very content baby. I agree it's very normal so try not to worry.
Julian was a whopping 10 lbs even and 22 in at his 2 month check up. He's growing so darn fast!
Thank you for all the kind words. The reality of him being gone is just now really sinking in. Today was his birthday, normally I would have baked him his favorite brownies and gone out to lunch but instead I was putting flowers on his grave :(
Soz maybe wasn't clear yeah feeding all evening normal ds2 did this my other two have not wanted feeding just been really sad ;-((( don't put her to bed if she wants feeding.....Naomi just doesn't I'm a bit sad its nice to have them up when te house is all quiet and you can just snuggle them with no one being jealous ;-)
Southern so pleased to hear Julian doing so well Naomi has her check with the specialist baby dr tomorrow she seems totally normal to me (just on the fussy side but not abnormally so I don't think)
Hope my instinct is right, I'm not prepared for them to say anything s wrong with my princess ;-s getting a bit nervous about it now...
Yeahy Naomi declared all normal! They are going to do an ultrasound of her brain just to double check ;-)
It's oh so quiet here, hope everyone's bubbas well xx
That's wonderful fish. So glad to hear Naomi is healthy. It's chaos at my place most of the time. With 4 kids 5 yrs and under in really pushed every day!! Little Darcey is a gem and doing good stretches over night so at least I'm getting some sleep!
Lennon is more fussy in the evening too... He's perfect all day and through the night bu he has a couple hours of being high maintenance... He wakes depending when he goes to bed once or twice... I fall a sleep every night when I feed him which he loves cause he gets to sleep ontop of me for a,few hours lol
Southern I'm so sorry about your dad... He looked like an awesome grandpa! Do mind me asking what happend? My grandma had a very fast unexpected passing she went to the hospital to fin pancreatic cancer and was given a few years she lived 6 days :(
My neighbour told my utistic son that he's a fucking retard yesterday! I could have killed her! I called the cops and he said who cares! I'm livid! This is harassment! She refered to my four kids as three retards and a fat pig!
She also went on to say that I need to close my legs and stop having kids cause she's sick of her tax dollars paying our way... We are not on financial assistance DH works really hard to provide for us so I was quite offended... And even if I was what would make it any place for her to say anything! also I'm a whore cause I have four kids... I've been with DH for almost 10 years lol and apparently I'm fat :( lol this is a full grown woman acting like a 13 year old it's really pathetic she was giving me the finger and she was dancing around on her porch lmao it was quite a sight lmao she also said we are bad parents cause cps has been to our house...umm I told her well and crazy person can call on anyone so whatever helps u sleep at night
I emailed the news channel cause I have been seeing so many stories regarding autistic people being mistreated so thought they may be interested
Salsa keep telling me that lol I had 2 under 2 now have 3 under 4 need to keep hearing not to go for another ;-s
Wag she sounds like a loon, so sad that she has nothing better to do than share her lack of understanding with u and your kids,
Had to call the cops again she verbally attacked me when I was getting home saying she hopes my kids die! Cops said they cant do anything and we should move! I'm gonna call the court house to apply for a peace bond... Pray to god it gets approved! I can't even go outside now :( and nothing can be done about her
Oh wag this is the last thing you need with a baby poor you, why should u have to move?!?
OMG WAG this lady is a piece of work!!! I wish there was something more that could be done about harassment! You should not have to be the one to move.
Things have been so darn crazy here. My MIL brought her dumb dog and it has been chewing up my whole house and getting my brand new carpets dirty (even though MIL promised me the dog would never be on the carpet and that she doesn't chew things) I've been really frustrated! But on the bright side, I will have my house back, free from visitors next week. Also, my sister is paying for me and Macie to fly out to Utah next month because she really wants to see the baby! I'm excited for that.
Macie is such a sweet little baby and never fusses.........well during the day, but at night she struggles because she has a hard time pooping, and for some reason she only does that at night. Once she gets it out aroud 2 am she sleeps peacefully. But Im always exhausted from staying up until 2 with a fussy girl.
Im still struggling with a little pp blues, but I think its getting better! Here are a few pics I took of my little ones yesterday!
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Third pics are too adorable I need to take more! Make sure you get help with the blues if you need it honey maybe having the house to yourself will help. I'm not a big dog fan I'd hate to have to live with one in my house, especially your house its so nicely done ;-s
Ladies lets have update pics please ;-) will take some tomorrow it's 5pm here and happy baby pics unlikely now!
Thorz sorry to hear you are having pp blues and about your MIL dog!! That is crazy. Why the hell did she bring her dog? I love dogs and have two of them however, I think bringing your dog to someones house is kind of rude. Especially if it chews things up. Doesn't she have a crate for the dog? Can't it go outside? I am sorry cause I am sure the last thing you need with pp blues is that kind of chaos. Hope you aren't overwhelmed!! On a better note, your pictures are fantastic! Your kids are super cute!
Very cute pics! Have you tried some b vitamins to help your mood?
The dog spends most of her time outside in the backyard, but has chewed up all of my patio furniture and my boys outside toys! She sleeps in a Kennel in the house during the night. We only have carpet upstairs and my MIL said that she would carry the dog up to the kennel each night (to protect my brand new carpet from dirty dog paws). But I'm constantly having to ask DH to remind her of that.
I haven't taken anything for the PP blues, maybe some vitamin B might do me some good. I have seasonal blues anyhow so adding pp blues on top of my normal seasonal blues, might not make for a happy winter time for this momma so I better get to taking something that will help me asap. Winter is right around the corner!
Thank you. He hadn't been feeling well for a few days but seemed to be getting better. I saw him on Saturday morning as he came to cheer on DS1 at all of his soccer games. We chatted and watched the game together then he headed home. I talked to him later that afternoon on the phone and that was the last time I spoke to him. Late Sunday night he called 911 having trouble breathing. By the time I got to the hospital he was in ICU on life support and never woke up. They believe he had a massive infection in his intestines which caused him to become septic and his organs just all failed pretty rapidly.Quote:
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As his only child I had to make the agonizing decision to stop life support after several days. I stroked his hair and held his hand as he took his last breaths. I knew it was the right thing to do because he wouldn't have wanted to be left on machines suffering with no hope of survival, but letting go of him was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
I was always a daddy's girl, he did everything for me. We talked everyday and saw each other at least every other day. My mother and I never had a close relationship, it was always me and my dad. On top of that he was an absolutely devoted grandpa to my boys. Rowan (who is 3) keeps asking for him and it breaks my heart.
Tomorrow will be 3 weeks since he passed away but it feels like years have passed since I saw him. It's so hard to accept him being gone. how do you go from seeing someone almost everyday to never again?
Every step in this process is on me alone and it's so overwhelming. From choosing a casket and planning a funeral to my current tasks of going through all of his things and figuring out what to do with his house. He worked very hard to leave us some money and I'm grateful but I don't want money, I just want my dad back.
I'm sorry for the long "downer" post but I'm just so very heartbroken.
Here he is in the week before he passed away. I miss him so much.
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Fish- I'm so glad Naomi's apt went well.
WAG- That's terrible that you can't do anything legally to stop this woman's harassment. I can't believe the police won't do anything!
Thorz- Sorry to hear about the pp blues. Hopefully it will soon lift for you. Love the pics, Macie is gorgeous and your boys are so handsome.
Oh wow Southern, I missed your post on your dad earlier....I just went back to get caught up and saw your post a few pages back. I am so very sorry! I cannot even imagine your heartache! I wish I had the right words to make it better but really there are no words for that. It sounds like he was a wonderful man, and a really great father. I am so sorry for your loss!