Part 2: Due January, February & March 2019

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Sorry ladies to hear that you're having a hard time with gender stuff, and the family reaction stuff. Wow - some of those things that your family members have said/might say are awful!!! I just cannot understand why any family member would not be more supportive of a new baby - doesn't make sense to me! And for those of you that only have 2 children and have family that don't understand why you'd add a third... what the heck is that about? Having 3 kids is not crazy at all!!!! Geez I feel like half the people I know who have kids have 3 or more. I think practically everyone on my DH's side (immediate and extended family) has 3+ kids! DH has like 30+ first cousins!!! That being said, my mom didn't want us to have a 3rd (LOL - OOPS now we're getting a 3rd and 4th!). She made her feelings about it pretty clear before I got pregnant. She had 2 kids and I think she is one of those people that just thinks 2 kids is the right amount. I know she still feels that way but after 3 losses this past year she's become more sensitive about what she'll say. Although she still frequently makes subtle comments along the lines of "how are you going to handle twins/4 kids". But they are less judge-y comments than they were in the past :)

Kitten when do you get your Panorama results? I think we had our blood drawn on the same day (last Thursday?), although you are like a day ahead of me time zone-wise so really it wasn't the same day! I don't know when I'll hear about mine but I've read it can take only a week or so. I'm so nervous (about the health part - we're not finding out genders yet). My doc called today and I almost had a heart attack when I saw who it was - but he was just calling about a different test result. As far as nausea mine seems to be easing too at 11 weeks... and because I of course started worrying about that I Googled it and I guess 10/11 weeks is a sort of common point for it to start doing that. I didn't stop feeling nauseated w/ my boys until 16 weeks or so, so who knows! I am feeling really ready to be past this stage.

Surrounded - I'm sure this pregnancy has been a big shock for you. But I'm glad you found this board and I will be hoping and praying that all goes well with your pregnancy, that the new baby will not have ASD, and that it will even be your little girl!! I agree with Kitten - you do sound like an amazing mom!!

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ABC I googled the same thing because my ms seems to have disappeared early too and yep it looks like 9-10 weeks is normal for your hormones to even out. Thank goodness I just hope it means my anxiety will lessen too!

So sorry you get the family comments as well- it's beyond me why people aren't just happy for people expecting a baby! Whatever happened to a simple 'congratulations how wonderful' lol!

Wow so many new people in the last few days! So exciting! Welcome guys!
Trying to catch up with all the posts!

I also totally feel like I don't really want to announce till I know the gender. Even if I don't actually tell people the gender. I'm getting really anxious and getting myself ready to hear it's another boy. I told myself that I wouldn't even think it's a girl to avoid disappointment if it's not. And I've been trying not to. Even looking up boy names that go with my other sons. (There is literally not one name I like. I don't know what we'll do if it is a boy) my husband was getting annoyed with me that I was so desperate to find a name now. But I think if I found a boy name is loved it would be easier to get excited. We didn't find out with DS2 but at 30 weeks I thought of a name for him and thought to myself- I'll be OK having another boy if we name him that.

Anyway even though I told myself not to consider it being a girl I kept imagining finding out its a girl. And couldnt picture the moment going any other way. Until a couple nights ago. I played out the situation in my head being told it's a boy. And going through my online favorite lists and deleting all the girl clothes that I saved during my last pregnancy. And passing on some things... like dolls and knits from my great aunt that I kept for my future daughter and finding somewhere else for them. And it's made me quite sad. I know I don't know really yet, but I honestly feel like I've been singled out. I have 4 siblings and all of them had one gender, then the other and then the other again. All my friends have had both genders. I feel like I'm the only person in the world who won't get it.

Anyway back to you ladies! Shocking that you think or have gotten such horrible reactions from family! I also have less than savory in laws. Thank goodness they live on the other side of the world but that doesn't stop them from butting in where they're not wanted. I think they assumed we'd only have 2. They were happy though... even though I hear them on speaker phone all the time and they never ever ask about how I, or the pregnancy are doing. I also think 3 kids is not crazy at all! Any amount of kids is wonderful for the family that has them! None of anyone's business

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Originally Posted by simkan

Wow so many new people in the last few days! So exciting! Welcome guys!
Trying to catch up with all the posts!

I also totally feel like I don't really want to announce till I know the gender. Even if I don't actually tell people the gender. I'm getting really anxious and getting myself ready to hear it's another boy. I told myself that I wouldn't even think it's a girl to avoid disappointment if it's not. And I've been trying not to. Even looking up boy names that go with my other sons. (There is literally not one name I like. I don't know what we'll do if it is a boy) my husband was getting annoyed with me that I was so desperate to find a name now. But I think if I found a boy name is loved it would be easier to get excited. We didn't find out with DS2 but at 30 weeks I thought of a name for him and thought to myself- I'll be OK having another boy if we name him that.

Anyway even though I told myself not to consider it being a girl I kept imagining finding out its a girl. And couldnt picture the moment going any other way. Until a couple nights ago. I played out the situation in my head being told it's a boy. And going through my online favorite lists and deleting all the girl clothes that I saved during my last pregnancy. And passing on some things... like dolls and knits from my great aunt that I kept for my future daughter and finding somewhere else for them. And it's made me quite sad. I know I don't know really yet, but I honestly feel like I've been singled out. I have 4 siblings and all of them had one gender, then the other and then the other again. All my friends have had both genders. I feel like I'm the only person in the world who won't get it.

Anyway back to you ladies! Shocking that you think or have gotten such horrible reactions from family! I also have less than savory in laws. Thank goodness they live on the other side of the world but that doesn't stop them from butting in where they're not wanted. I think they assumed we'd only have 2. They were happy though... even though I hear them on speaker phone all the time and they never ever ask about how I, or the pregnancy are doing. I also think 3 kids is not crazy at all! Any amount of kids is wonderful for the family that has them! None of anyone's business

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Oh Simkan I'm hoping this is your girl xxx

I'm sorry so many of us are going through similar things, but it does always amaze me how much we all understand each other! I am so thankful for this board for this.

Like many of you, all of my family is also PPs -- my generation of cousins was STRONGLY girl, like 90% girls. All of them have gone on to have PPs or multiple boys! It was actually the big joke before DD was born (since we kept her sex a secret) that "of course you're having a boy, all of us have had boys!" Then on DH's family, which is boy heavy, they've all had BG first -- eeeveryone (4 sets of immediate family members).


But yes, re: MS! I'm glad you guys found that, because I was going to say: 10 weeks is usually when symptoms start to subside for many people! I think there can sometimes be a peak around then and then they really reduce. It's still so weird that I've felt nothing this pregnancy -- my mom and aunt both asked how I was feeling when we told them about this pregnancy, and I felt surprised... because I keep forgetting not feeling good during pregnancy is normal! But as much as I hope that means this is my boy, for all you girl swayers: my mom had ZERO issues with all 3 of her girls!

My latest little anxiety is that I'm 16 weeks this week, and while I was telling people because I was starting to show -- all of a sudden the last few days I feel like I'm not showing as much as I thought. I thought I would have been past the bloat-looks-like-bump confusion by now, but I swear I look maybe about the same as I did with DD at this point (which is to say, I could be hiding it still!). Which worries me. Did baby stop growing? Is baby just further back in my pelvis? Gah, next scan isn't until July 31. I think I'm just anxious now that the cat is out of the bag...

Thank you ladies xxx I try to be a good mom! We all know that can be hard haha

I was on here starting 2013 when I had planned a sway, and the months I was active I found such a support system, that once I saw the positive test, I came right back knowing Id need a place where people understood.

I also find it insane that so many of you are facing drama because you are adding another. Each child is a blessing, planned or not. Mine, Im apprehensive about starting over after so long and being so close to starting having a 'life for myself' again (going to work, kids in school full time so freedom to get things done in peace). I LOVE my boys, but I cherish some quiet time. I feel like everything happens for a reason, and theres one why I was chosen to be this little ones mom.

I have an ultrasound and genetic blood test consult on Monday, so I can find out the info about tests like Panorama, if my insurance will cover and so forth. I have had zero bad symptoms (:cheerteam:) and just find myself tired and hungry. All. The. Time. I wake up late at night with my stomach growling so loud, one night my dog growled back. Yet I havent gained any weight which is excellent since Im plus size to start. Id like to keep this metabolism though!

Throwaway, dont worry too much about this pregnancy being different! My first I could forget I was pregnant. I felt great all the time. My second I was so ill the entire pregnancy. I was exhausted from it all, nothing worked. Everybody said girl and at the gender scan, there was no doubt. He was quite proud of his set :giggle: and this one is different from both of those. Sending you blue dust & hugs!

TP baby is still small, heck even now at 27 weeks some days I’m smaller than others LOL I think it depends on her position :)

Hi everyone!

I thought I should jump in here as we are (cautiously) expecting a baby March 16, 2019. I'm 5w4d today. I did an IG sway for a girl from Jan-Mar 2018, fell pregnant with a chemical pregnancy (ended April), started genderdreaming sway in April after our loss as I felt IG didn't have enough nutrition to support a pregnancy in my body. At any rate, we went on holiday in June and I completely went off my sway and of course that is the month we fell pregnant!

I am overjoyed about the pregnancy but also apprehensive about having another boy. We are Team Green (me grudgingly but DH will not budge) so I am already bracing myself for the "you're having another boy" comments and speculation. My MIL seems to relish in these comments so that should be fun.

I find myself already planning my next sway? I feel bad because I feel as though I should be more attentive to my very busy 10.5 month old son and my current pregnancy but I feel as if planning for the next sway helps to manage my anxiety over possibly having another boy?

I had my first pregnancy puke last night (and it was a ribeye steak :sad:). I barely had any sickness with DS- just nausea, I think I threw up once. I'm trying not to read too much into the symptoms and I've already convinced myself this is a boy because if I allow myself even a little bit of hope that the baby is a girl I think I will be devastated in the delivery room.

I have a difficult time keeping up with all the posts as my little guy is super busy and takes up about 155% of my time but I do enjoy reading all of your updates when I get the chance. :)

Abc im going Team Green:)

Hello babygirlwishing welcome here, do u have already some symptoms? Im 5w2d

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Hi everyone!

I thought I should jump in here as we are (cautiously) expecting a baby March 16, 2019. I'm 5w4d today. I did an IG sway for a girl from Jan-Mar 2018, fell pregnant with a chemical pregnancy (ended April), started genderdreaming sway in April after our loss as I felt IG didn't have enough nutrition to support a pregnancy in my body. At any rate, we went on holiday in June and I completely went off my sway and of course that is the month we fell pregnant!

I am overjoyed about the pregnancy but also apprehensive about having another boy. We are Team Green (me grudgingly but DH will not budge) so I am already bracing myself for the "you're having another boy" comments and speculation. My MIL seems to relish in these comments so that should be fun.

I find myself already planning my next sway? I feel bad because I feel as though I should be more attentive to my very busy 10.5 month old son and my current pregnancy but I feel as if planning for the next sway helps to manage my anxiety over possibly having another boy?

I had my first pregnancy puke last night (and it was a ribeye steak :sad:). I barely had any sickness with DS- just nausea, I think I threw up once. I'm trying not to read too much into the symptoms and I've already convinced myself this is a boy because if I allow myself even a little bit of hope that the baby is a girl I think I will be devastated in the delivery room.

I have a difficult time keeping up with all the posts as my little guy is super busy and takes up about 155% of my time but I do enjoy reading all of your updates when I get the chance. :)

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I'm so happy to see you in here and am pulling for this baby!!!!

I'm doing the same, honestly. I literally have already even said too, "I don't care if it's recommended to wait a year after birth for a boy sway." I'm not messing around after what we went through before this baby, and won't be able to turn to IVF again! Just wish I could have my son and finally be happy and relax... and lose weight! lol