DH & I keep going back & forth. As of now, I think our family is complete. the idea of a 3rd scares me.
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DH & I keep going back & forth. As of now, I think our family is complete. the idea of a 3rd scares me.
Beck- poor preggo! I remember those awful days! :(
Midwest- we're obviously feeling the same and I'm glad I have you to understand my feelings. I'm thinking of February or June. I hope I don't chicken out again. I do feel like the timing is wrong for some reason.
Jana- same! I want to feel 100%.
Me too. I have to tell you though..... 3 kids is fun!
I enjoy having three kids. It can get busy but, there are no regrets. Strangely enough, at the moment I'm not even nervous about going from 3 to 4. Maybe because my eldest two are a bit older.
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I have to add, it is only natural to be hesitant. A new baby is a big change not just for you, but your family as well.
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It must be catching I am seriously fighting myself right now too. I feel complete and I feel the desire is fading. I am in turmoil and considering delaying. I'm not sure if it's fear?
I see little toy cars or trains and think no don't give up but then go in circles again.
Maybe I'm not ready.
Thanks Boysway. I'm still so happy for you.
Three is an easy number :) I found it a big jump but great.
I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one. The other ladies on this site seem so sure.Quote:
Originally Posted by True Blue
I was . . . Even DH is shocked at my turmoil. I had a few tears trying to come to terms with what exactly I'm feeling.
So was I. Maybe it's just the fear of our gender dream not coming true :(
I think this could be it and I take it as an indicator of not being emotionally ready?Quote:
Originally Posted by Janamomof3girls
What do you think? Maybe cold feet?
True Blue- SAME. I was SO certain & so sure. We even ended up TTC a few times in September & then I freaked out & was so relieved when I got my period. I went to Target today, (target is a MAJOR baby boy fever trigger for me) & I was super sad seeing all of the baby boy stuff... but not sad enough that I feel ready to take the plunge.
My kids ages have to be a factor too though. I have an almost 3 yr old & a 5 yr old... I thought it would be easier with them older, but it's like a whole new set of worries and issues to deal with.
Yes, I think this is definitely what's going on with us. This will be our last try and with that comes extra pressure. I would love another girl but that means I'll NEVER have a boy and I'm not sure I'm able to face that right now. I'm glad you understand.
I think I'm going to keep going with the supps and plan as normal just in case and if by attempt month I still feel the same then maybe delay until decided yes or no.
I don't want to stop only to discover this is a wobble and have messed up our sway.
This - the pressure of a last shot!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Janamomof3girls
I'm so glad to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way. Thank you true blue and Midwest.
It's terrifying! I'm such a wimp.Quote:
Originally Posted by True Blue
How is everyone :)
True blueI'm doing ok. I'm building up my courage to continue my sway plans for March.
Midwest- I'm thinking I'll try in March. How are you?
I would love updates from Yogi and Boysway if they are around?
How is everyone else doing?
Jana- as of now, I really think we are done. :/
Hey there ladies. Sorry it's been a while since I was last in. I've just mainly been popping in on my phone which is a pain in the bum to post on.
I'll be exactly 6 weeks tomorrow. I haven't really got any symptoms as yet. Sore bbs, occasional cramping, sweet foods are too sweet for me now. Nausea every now and then but mainly when I need to eat. Although, I often need to stop eating before I'm full because I just can't bring myself to eat more. I have an appointment just before 9am with the Diabetes service. Apparently my fasting glucose level is too high. It looks like I have gestational diabetes. I have a dating scan booked for two weeks time.
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Good luck to the lovely ladies still going ahead with their sway. I really believe you need to be pretty sure you will be okay with the opposite gender in order to follow through with the sway. I have no regrets about trying for another bub. At the moment I am happy with either gender (especially for a boy though). I know once I see our baby regardless of gender, I will be in love.
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I recovered from my wobble :)
I was seeing little signs everywhere not to give up, or maybe I was seeing what I wanted to see but my heart obviously still hangs on to the dream.
I read a quote about regretting the things you didn't try and I knew if I didn't try I would always wonder.
So we're still here :)
How is everyone doing?
After my long cycle last month, I didn't get my hopes up too high for this cycle's chances, but lo and behold I got a smiley face on my CB today! I'm CD 22, so I'm hoping I actually O this time around and it's not a false surge like I had last cycle a few times. This is TMI but I'm feeling good about my O chances because of the nausea and the big D I've been having today. Apparently that's from the estrogen surge around O day. Never thought I'd be happy about feeling gross:)
Sadly I'm out this month, thought I had great attempts around 0 day and I was even a few days late but have AF now. Next month. What are you guys eating on an average day? I find diet the hardest to stick to.. :(
Hi all - I haven't been here for a while, but I wanted to let the people I swayed with know that I had a miscarriage. Went for our 12 week scan and there was no heartbeat.
Having read atomic's essay on swaying after a miscarriage, I think it is POSSIBLE this could have been related to cutting my folic acid dose too suddenly. I wanted to write this so that all you blue swayers take very seriously what she says about GRADUAL alteration to your supps and maintaining nutrition throughout your first trimester. I believe I just lost my tiny boy. I am heartbroken. I will ttc again, I will sway (a bit) again - but IF (and I'll never know) I am going through this because of anything that could have been prevented, then I want you all to know about it. I'm not sitting here blaming myself - don't worry - I just want to bring this home to all of you just in case it stops anyone going through the same thing.
Best of luck to all of you.
tm29 I am so sad to read this :-( MC is just horrible, I hope you can heal soon. The whys these things we will rarely ever know which makes it so much harder to get your head round, if we just knew then we could understand and reason with it but the what ifs, grrr! Sending you big hugs :hugs: xxx
Big huge hugs tm. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Oh tm, I am very sorry. Sending you love, strength and healing. But, thank you for sharing your information.
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tm29 so very sorry for you :'(
Wishing you all the best for the future!!
Thanks Trueblue - I'm going to focus on getting strong again and restoring my cycle. I think Atomic advises you to wait until you've had x2 AF before ttc after a loss, so I won't be trying again until Spring. It's sad - but we'll handle it. I have a fantastic DH and an incredible little girl.Quote:
Originally Posted by True Blue
Thanks everyone for kind words. What a lot we women go through!
Tm29- I am so sorry for your loss. I know words can not heal but I hope time and love from your family and friends do. I will be thinking and praying for you.
tm, big *HUGS*. Do whatever you need to do to honor the life that was inside you. I m/c my first at 5 weeks 4 days, and it was helpful for me to make new curtains for the room I hoped would someday be a nursery. As for blaming yourself, I feel your pain. I will forever wonder if it was the Lyme disease that took my baby or the doctor's fault. She put me on harsh drugs without checking for pregnancy first. We will never know. You just have to trust that things happen for reasons you can't understand, part of a bigger picture you can't see. I did get to see the bigger picture in my case and that I got to have dd who was conceived 2 months after the m/c. I now understand my little angel was paving the way for her and making me a stronger mommy to take charge of my own health treatments. But I still think of my angel regularly and appreciate the life that was with us for such a short while. If you're up for it, look up the lyrics to "Rhythm of Love" by Plain White T's. That's my special song for my angel baby. Now a couple of years later I especially like the line, "And long after I'm gone, you'll still be humming along, a beautiful song to be sung." Sending you lots of love and prayers!
I hope you ladies have a wonderful healthy baby boy making new year!