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That is exactly how I feel. Now I feel even more pressure b/c if I do have a fourth, it really is my last chance and makes the stakes that much higher. I feel like I am having babies for the wrong reason...just to see if I can get my DD.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rosie85
There is never a wrong reason for a child. Even if you got another boy I am sure he would be loved. There would probably be more regret in you not trying and always wondering then doing it and getting another boy.
I always said I would have 4 but I sit here in so much pain I doubt I could handle another pregnancy and I keep saying I can adopt my little girl but I will always always wonder what MY baby girl would have looked like. It is frustrating.
I love my boys to death but gosh do I wish I fell pregnant with a girl my first time around. I would be more okay with 3 or 4 girls than 3 or 4 boys...does that make me sound awful?
No Rosie, you don't sound awful. I often felt this way myself before I had my third baby.
If you ladies are trying for another after this one, what is your timing? I don't know why this worries me so...maybe b/c I never thought I would have more than 2 kids....but if you are having another, when do you plan on doing so?
DS1 will be 5.5 when this baby is born, DS2 will be 3.5 so I almost feel like I need to have 3&4 close like 1&2....but then I worry if I can handle all this....those with 4 or more, let me know your logic!!!
My two boys are 18 months apart.. So I got pregnant right around the time DS#1 was 10 months old..Quote:
Originally Posted by NCBeachyGrl
It's hard, but I wouldn't have it any other way. This one has the farthest gap. DS#2 will be 3 when she comes.
You don't necessarily have to have the same amount of years between no.3 and the next baby after him. I have a five year gap with my younger sister and we are the best of friends.Quote:
If you ladies are trying for another after this one, what is your timing? I don't know why this worries me so...maybe b/c I never thought I would have more than 2 kids....but if you are having another, when do you plan on doing so?
DS1 will be 5.5 when this baby is born, DS2 will be 3.5 so I almost feel like I need to have 3&4 close like 1&2....but then I worry if I can handle all this....those with 4 or more, let me know your logic!!!
I'm planning on ttc early next yr - I want dd to be 3 yrs older than my last (future) baby. I think the 3 yr gap is a pretty cool gap.
Oh my gosh you guys sound like you've been in my head. I wonder if we would even have a second or third child if the first had been a girl. But don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade my boys for anything. So I don't like to think like that. I'd be lost without them.
IF DH agrees to a 4th, I wonder about timing as well. My first three are all around 2 years apart, so I don't know if I should try at 2 years? I thought I wanted my third like ten years down the road, but changed my mind on that. I'm 25 so I know I still have plenty of time, but I don't know that I would want to start over again later down the road. I have no idea what to do! I've also thought about adoption, but then again, I too would always wonder what MY girl would look like. But then what if I have another boy, I'd never get the chance to raise a daughter. 4 would for sure be my limit. Ugh! I'm glad you ladies have the same feelings and I can talk to y'all about it!
It is hard, isn't it!!!!! I never thought I would be thinking like this!!!! I guess we should all get through this pregnancy and see how we are feeling and see how the baby does once they are here. We still have a LONG time before March/April/May! It makes me feel better to have a plan though!!
It does freak me out b/c a psychic predicted this was a boy and that I would have a 4th and it would be a boy too. She also said this baby is going to be born early and with stomach issues.
I really hope the psychic is wrong about some things NC...like the issues with his tummy :-( I bet beachy boy will be just fine!
It is funny because before I had kids I just assumed I would have at least one of each...the thought never crossed my mind that I would have all boys. How naive I was.... It's just kind of like out of 3 or 4 kids what are the odds they would all have a penis?!
Okay ladies I need your thoughts here. So Dh and I both like Maggie for a name but can't agree on a long version. I initially just assumed it would be Margaret. Now Dh says he likes Magdalyn or Magdalene. Are those better or too weird? I mean I kind of like them. Is it dumb to pick a name based on the nickname?