September 2013 babies!!

Fish i will never forget my midwife telling me everyone woman knows when they are done, if your not sure, then your not done.

I went into this thinking i could handle a 5th if this was a boy but i think it was more a way to deal with the gd than anything else. Boy or girl (and i'm hoping they are right its a girl) i'm done either way as long as this one makes it to term safely anyway!

You have lost a dream which will affect your feelings but if you still feel that way and your hubby is behind you then there is nothing to say you can't have a fourth, bigger families are great, i love mine more than i ever thought possible!

I'm sure we're done after this one and it's the first time I've really felt ready for this to be my last. DH really didn't want more after the first 2, heck he would have been happy with 1 child lol. He adores having all 3 and soon to be 4but he never envisioned a big family for us. I've always wanted 4 kids and so reguardless of gender I've gotten my dream of 4 which I honestly never thought would happen. I'm enjoying this pregnancy more than any of the others because I am very much at peace and able to relax. I want to savor every moment but also am incredibly excited to move on and enjoy raising our family. We have so many memories to make and I just can't wait to see what the future holds!

We are absolutely finished! I didn't feel "done" after DD3 but I do now. I'll never know whether DH would have been keen on a 4th if DD3 had been a boy though. Gender desire isn't something he'll admit to but I know he has it.

Congrats DLTAG!

I have my 19 week scan on the 10th. Hope everything's ok.

Fish, when are you having another scan?

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Oops slip of the finger posted my post too soon!! Now I'm happy this will be my last. It's been a challenging pregnancy compared to my others. Shocking ms for 17wks. Lots of sickness including gastro, tonsillitis and several bouts of the flu. I'm finding it hard to lift,carry, bath etc my other 3 that all need to get in and out of high chairs, car seats, prams and cots. I'm also finding a lot of anxiety about things I never really worried about b4. I'll just be happy and relieved once I have this baby and all turns out healthy. I know I'm going to heamorrage again and am anxious about that.
However, in saying that, now I'm really feeling this baby move on a daily basis, which brings a lot of joy to the pregnancy I'm starting to relax a bit and enjoy it. I just loved my first 3 pregnancies so much I never wanted to stop. So I'm relieved in a way I feel ready to be done after this baby because we def aren't having any more!

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Salsa I feel totally like you, we are done. I find it difficult with two small children around. DH has less patience than me and he wouldn't be able to cope with 4. All my 3 pregnancies were full of obstacles and i am glad there are only 4 months left now. If these months and the birth go smoothly and the baby is healthy I will be happiest and the luckiest mum on earth!

Oh girls way that's exactly how I felt pre knowing it was twins ;-) although my dh has tonns of patience he works long hours so doesn't help so much. Maybe I'll feel like that again once I have the terrible twosome and a newborn ;-) I've never seen myself as a big family person and in the uk 2+ is big!

Mum23 of to specialist in London on Tuesday, Monday is a bank hol here so hoping to have nice family day and no obsess about it!

I think our angel twin has a name; Miriam! I think we have a name for our fx survivor too but I don't dare jinx her yet so won't share that one for the moment!

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Salsa what will be your gap oldest to baby?

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Fish - it will be just on 5 yrs. My olderest will turn 5 about 3 weeks before this bubs comes along.
Then the next oldest will be 3 by then, and then my current "baby" will be a month off turning 2.
This will be my biggest age gap between kids though, being on the le diet it took me 8 months to conceive, so we were wanting them closer this time but its still a small enough gap of 23 months.
My other age gaps are 21 months and 16 months.
Its a busy household here lol

Yeah it took us 8 months this time too i am worried about the bigger age gap I have 16 months between boys and IF we tried again would want similar so I could get 4th in before ds1 was 5 could just about do it! When this one hopefully comes ds1 will be 3 and 8 months and ds2 2 and 3 months so got 7 months to conceive ;-)

Salsa sounds like a perfect li family so hope you've got a pinky in there - perfect family set up I do worry about trying to get dd and sister ending up with another lovely boy and her even more outnumbered ;-)

I know Fish-that is one of my concerns, but I keep telling my DD that if its another boy we will be the princesses of the house and the boys will all look after us! We'll get to do special girly things like go shopping and go for coffee together when she gets a bit older. Then she said to me "and mum Daddy will have to buy us lots of diamonds too!" I swear I never told her to say that but have to agree that would be nice! Lol
Anyway, with my last baby ds2 she was adamant she wanted a boy and along he came, this time she is pretty set on wanting a girl!

Well I've made a BIG decision. My friend is working on Wed who will discreetly scan me, put the picture in an envelope and give it to me to open at home.... I'm doing it! I'm finding out what I'm having!! FINALLY!! I'm sure you're all sick of me complaining about it-I knows DH certainly is!! Haha so I'm doing it!

DH is away until late wed night so we will open it together either when he gets home or thurs! We aren't telling anyone though, not even family will know. It's just between DH and myself-and of course all you ladies!! Lol I tell you all much more than I do with my family or friends so it will be wonderful to share the news with you ladies. Either way it goes, I'll want to share it!

Salsa that is so exciting! I can't believe you've held out until now.

Oh salsa yeahy! We haven't shared with any one in rl yet either ;-) I have one friend who I might tell soonish as she has lovely girly clothes!!!

When it was twins I was relieved all the weight of the relationship I am hoping for with my dd didn't all rest on one person iykwim I guess that's less of a worry for you as you have your princess for you already if you see what I mean?!?

Can't wait to hear your news x