No you are not over reacting, I would be upset too, you OBVIOUSLY were not saying the names on purpose, if it was on Facebook, you can always delete that comment!Quote:
Originally Posted by Wanting-a-girl
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No you are not over reacting, I would be upset too, you OBVIOUSLY were not saying the names on purpose, if it was on Facebook, you can always delete that comment!Quote:
Originally Posted by Wanting-a-girl
Do we have any expected scans today??? Mine is on Friday, and I think I remember there is one on Thurs, I was hoping we had one today and one Wed that will kill the time for me while I am waiting for mine!!
I just don't seem to keep up with you guys here, lol.
Thorz, I think it is amazing how you can come up with all the energy for all that! I truly admire that! I am currently only planning DS1's birthday party. Motto is pirates :happy: He is so excited and I am too. It's his first birthday party with friends (he's turning 5).
I also had a scan today, but I have been such a mess the last couple of days, I was so nervous, so I didn't write anything on here. I told the OB that I wanted to know if it's a boy or a girl and she did look. I thought that would be harder to convince her to look at all, lol. The other time she was so certain not to see anything before week 18 or so. So we did the scan and everything looked ok, and I think she was looking for a penis. Because later on, she said she didn't see any boy parts, so she would guess girl. I totally forgot to ask her about girl parts though. I am getting so hopeful though! Have to wait another 4 weeks until the next scan though. But it is getting so hard not to keep my hopes up now. How accurate do you think this scan could be? Baby was very open and let us see everything, but there simply was "nothing". It sure looked different with my boys. But I am still so scared.
Sorry for writing so much now...
OHHHHH I really hope it is your girl!!!! That is exciting!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Longingforgirl
I really don't have a lot of energy, I do these projects a lot less often than before I was pregnant!!
Then I would assume girl :) mine yesterday had no boy parts but the legs were pretty close together and here the tech can't give me her opinion but there was no penis or balls lol I'm not getting my hope up tho lol
She erased the comment after I lost my mind! I couldnt cause I was on the iPad and it doesn't work the same
Wanting-I dont think you are out of line at all! Im very private with what I post on Facebook though as well as with names so of course I would've been mad! Facebook doesnt know I pregnant yet and I dont think I would even put letters down for babies name cuz I would be too scared someone would figure it out! Lol Im glad she deleted the comment though and clearly common sense was lacking in the situation...if you wanted to share the names you would have!!
Longing-sounds like you had a great scan with promising results!! :fx: for you!!!
Wow, sounds really positive! I hope its your girl!Quote:
Originally Posted by Longingforgirl
Well, only 51 hours until my scan. I'm starting to get really nervous and keep letting myself think its going to be a girl but don't want to get my hopes up at all. Things already seem to be going wrong with it all.
Originally we were going to go to the scan, not find out the gender there and then but have them write it down, then go out to dinner (where hubby and I met) with our boys and reveal it to ourselves there. But now its all going to pot because the scan is at 7:50pm, and it'll be about 8:30pm before we come out, and by the time we get to the restaurant we'll be eating at 9:15pm at the earliest, which is WAY too late for the boys :sad:
So now it looks like we'll be feeding the boys before we go, then getting a takeaway after we've come home and put the boys to bed. Doesn't feel too special :sad:
Then we were going to have inlaws over on Saturday night to reveal to them (they don't even know we're having a scan), but now they're going out for dinner somewhere else. We can't do Friday as they've got a drinks party, and on Sunday hubby is away doing a race. So, I'm going to have to avoid them all weekend (and they'll want to see me and the boys with hubby being away!) as they boys will spill the beans, and can't tell my parents or friends until we see them on Monday as it'll probably get back to them.
My special plans just seem to keep going down the drain. I might as well just phone them on Friday, tell them, tell everyone on facebook and have done with it.
Northern it will be a special moment no matter where u open that envelope :)
I will be stalking
Uuuuuuggggggghhhhhhh!!! I wish I could be happy for people!!! My ex boyfriend of a very long time ago has 3 boys the same age as my little guys and his wife is pregnant with their 4th she said she doesn't mind if its a boy at all.......well of course she just posted on Facebook that they are having a girl!! I hate that those who don't mind get what I long for and can't seem to get no matter what I do!! Ugh I think I, just having a hard day!
I'm sure she was bothered! People feel guilty for saying they'd like a specific gender. I know a lot of people like bug families but I'd say there are more that keep going to get a certain gender, especially if they've only got one gender!
Thorz, I know what you mean by DIYing, I've just started getting my energy back, plus I'm trying to be positive about hubby's job interviews and that if he gets it we'll have to get the house on the market. It's definitely motivation! There are so many small jobs to do, but this is my big project at the moment:
http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8230/8...1b7dc59297.jpg
A cloakroom under the stairs. It's mainly for the kids but if we're still here in September then it saves me lugging a bump up the stairs to go to the loo.
sounds hopefull hun fx!Quote:
Originally Posted by Longingforgirl
lies of course she was bothered she's probably on here LOL!Quote:
Originally Posted by Thorz300
PS no reason to thik you don't have a DD on board x
Wanting -- Facebook is definitely a double-edged sword. :( I would have been upset too.
Thorz -- I agree with Fish and Northern. I have a hard time believing she didn't have a preference. For all we know, she may have gone HT/IVF. ;)
Northern -- nice work there! Where would you be moving to if DH's interviews work out? As much as I like living in the US, I also miss Europe. I'll always be torn between two continents.
So for those of you who have gone through GD...I feel like I am entirely at the whim of unpredictable emotions. One minute I love the idea of being a mom to all boys and the next minute I am googling ultrasound predictions gone wrong. :( I still have this completely foolish hope that maybe it's a girl afterall and that even experts from in-gender like ColdWater could be mistaken. She said she is "pretty confident." I feel so stupid thinking that that doesn't mean she is 100% certain. Maybe the "erect penis" she said she saw is a swollen clitoris sticking up? Ok, now I am laughing at myself. But even Lovemy4 is convinced it's a boy so what chance do I have? :( Then again, the quality of the scan is so so horrible, I have a hard time seeing anything.
Oh this GD thing sucks so much and I feel like I will have regrets down the road for not enjoying my pregnancy the way I should. I just can't help this feelings...2 more weeks until my 18-week Level II u/s. I need complete and utter confirmation in order to move forward.
Thanks for reading my rant.... :(
Divakotka, IF he gets it we'll be moving almost a 3 hour drive away across the country, towards Norfolk way. We looked at houses online before the first interview so we'd know if we could afford down there. We've found some gorgeous houses, between 5-6 bedrooms! We've currently got two plus a room slightly larger than a box room, which is where the two boys and baby will be. I'd love to have a proper nursery with a rocking chair, etc.
Goodness I hope he gets it!!
diva - :hugs: feel for you really do honey
northern - norfolk is lovely very jealous!
Diva you got to give yourself time to adjust you will get there but for now don't feel guilty for how you feel
Hi all, is it too late to join in here? I'm nearly 16 weeks with number 3, and have two little boys and I've been hoping for a girl each time. This is absolutely our last child, I barely managed to talk Hubby into trying again, but he'd like a daughter too. I didn't join in the groups when I was TTC because I thought it would make me stress more, and then I didn't join in later because I thought it would make me worry about it more, but there's no one I can talk about this with IRL and it's quietly doing my head in!
Does anyone else feel like they need to keep it secret, that they have a gender preference? I feel like people will think I don't love my boys, or won't love this baby as much if it's a boy, when I know that once I meet him it won't make any difference, my boys are my life, and wouldn't swap them for any girl in the world. Many of my friends are also dealing with infertility, so trying to talk about this with them would just seem plain ungrateful and insensitive.
I'm pretty sure this is a boy too. I didn't know about nub theory when I had my NT scan, so I only have two pics to go on, but the little forked bit looks very boyish indeed. I was trying to hold out til my morphology scan at 19 weeks, but I gave in and booked a gender scan for this coming Monday, so at least I'll know one way or the other! Logically I know it will be fine in the long run, but somehow I'm still quietly terrified all the same, and dreading all those comments people make.
Divakotka, I'm thinking of you, I remember how hard it was to adjust when I found about about each of my boys, and hoping they'd somehow got it wrong.
Northern Shutterbug, fingers crossed for you!
Wanting a Girl and Thorz, how exciting, that sounds very promising!
Hi honeychild and welcome! I could have written your post! This is also very much our last baby and just like you, I had to "convince" my DH to go for a third. I played the "we could have a girl" card knowing that he secretly longed for a baby girl as well. When we found out that DS2 was a boy, we actually handled it very well. I was bummed for literally about two hours and then got really excited about giving DS1 a little buddy. And in the back of my mind I thought that we could always have a third one down the road. And here we are. Except that this time, there is no fourth baby down the road so that's why I am struggling...Quote:
Originally Posted by Honeychild
-- Wanting, I know I need to give it time. I am just so impatient and I absolutely don't like seeing myself like this. I just want to move on asap...thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it.
Welcome and you are in good company. I think we can all relate with the way you are feeling! I didn't tell very many people at all that I really wanted a girl. No one except for DH knows how devastated I would have been if baby #3 was a boy. I really hope you get to hear girl on Monday!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Honeychild
Thanks Divakotka and Wanting Pink, it's such a relief even just to be ale to talk about it!
And congratulations Wanting Pink, I missed your reveal, how exciting! I have checked this thread a few times since I found out I was pregnant, but between horrendous morning sickness and you guys having nearly 100 pages of posts, I've missed quite a bit! I'm due on he 8th btw.
Welcome! Your def in the right place :) there is lots of support here
Welcome! Ill look foward to you news next monday and I hope you get your girl :)
Not even my husband knows how much I want a son. Im scared If I hear 'girl' i'll just think "Really. crap."
Congratulations!!!!!!! AWESOME News!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Girlsway
Congratulations to you as well!Quote:
Originally Posted by Southern Butterfly
Hi ladies! We had our gender reveal today and had a lot of fun. Everyone enjoyed the surprise blue filling that revealed gender, I'm really glad we did this to show everyone that we want to celebrate this little guy!
However, once the party was over I noticed DS1 seemed really sad. I knew he had hoped for a baby sister (which shocked the heck out of me since I assumed a 10 year old boy wouldn't want anything to do with a baby girl lol). He told me he was really angry that it's another boy and he didn't want it. He said he won't love this baby like his other brothers because it should have been a girl. I was stunned and worried at how hard he was taking this. He sounded just like many moms with GD (and how I felt when pregnant with DS3). I know kids can be disappointed but it really worries me how upset he is. Anyone else experience anyhing like this?
Thanks Wanting a Girl and Elements.
Congratulations Girlsway!
Southern Butterfly, what a great idea! A nice way to show everyone that it's a positive thing. I wonder if your son feels like he'll be usurped if you have another boy, maybe he liked being the only one?
Thanks and welcome! Glad you joined us :happy:Quote:
Originally Posted by Honeychild
DS1 is actually the eldest of my 3 (soon to be 4). He actually really wanted another brother for our third and was very excited when we found out. I'm just not sure why he is having a hard time with this one. I really feel for him because in a weird way I understand from my previous experiences with GD. I'm just not sure how to help him feel better.
So happy for you!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by WantingPink
Okay I cant catch up on all the posts. There is just too many pages.
Can anyone give me a run down on who's having what gender if it was found out???
I remeber the day I found Out I was getting a little brother and I was only 4.Quote:
Originally Posted by Southern Butterfly
I HATED him. It didn't last though :) Maybe your boy would like to set the room up or paint it or do something really proactive as a outlet and also an adjustment thing?
Sorry Southern Butterfly, my mistake! I haven't posted enough to see sigs yet, so I didn't realise. That is curious then.. Did he say what part he was sad about? Maybe there was something in particular he had in mind about the idea of a sister?
Oh dear Southern, what a shame. I know my eldest I'd thinking its a boy but he's still only 5 so don't really think he has much preference. Does your son have a friend with a little sister? Maybe he's seen them and is jealous?
Perhaps give him some money to buy for the baby and just you two go to buy it? And like someone else said, perhaps include him more in the pregnancy and choosing things for the baby or baby's room!
hi honeychild welcome!
elements - i posted a roll call one click back if people can update there that might be a bit easier LOL!
southern - i guess he'll bounce back when your ds arrives,
my ds1 sai to me to today i don't like the babies mummy the ones in your tummy ;-( we had a chat about a seperate place for baby toys and big boy toys and he's now super keen on helping sort the play room for when teh babies arrive! last time he too young to really understand feel a bit sad ;-S
i guess it's a normal reaction for a 3 yr old thou
honeychild i've added you to the roll call thread - let me know your due date and i'll add that too i guess you said in your orginal message but it's so buried now I can't find it!
Southern, do you think he had picked up on your desire for a girl so it's a sort of confused empathy?
fish-we're still waiting for a bump pic.
Welcome, honeychild!
Diva- I sulked for weeks after finding out DD3 was a girl but it seems silly now that she's such an integral part of our family.
Thorz- I'm sure your ex's wife was desperate for a girl. Hardly anyone knows I'm pregnant but I certainly haven't admitted to anyone that I swayed for a boy.
Northern-will you know by this time tomorrow?
My nuchal is in 12 1/2 hours, I'm hoping I don't stare at the nub the whole time and actually concentrate on the much more important things I'm being scanned for. I will post a pic though, but it won't be until thursday night our time.
Yes, this thread sure moves fast! I'm due Sep 8th.Quote:
Originally Posted by fish2012
Thanks again all for taking in a stray, it does feel easier being able to share the bumpy journey with people who get it.
Mum to three, good luck!!
hey mum to three - agh you are right will do it now!
think northern's scan is tomorrow eve so about 30hrs to go I think! you'll be first good luck!
Honey three of us are sue on the 8th :D