April/May/June 14 swayers...

wahooo!!! Best of luck Steph Hope you don't get too cold lying out naked on the bed!
marriedmom what a strange dream Hope it's a sign of a little girl to come x
Best of luck Rosie! Bring on the pink bfps!

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You crack me up girls! So funny

Go Stephk!!

Rosie, I'm also taking notes from your 'book' hehe and will need that stool too lol
Marriedmum, love your dream! Would love to have a see thru belly when I'm pregg

I need to get my 'mojo' back as at the moment I wish I could get preggo without the DTD lol - poor hubby!
I'm just a bit apprehensive since the surgery. I need to get in the mood for luuuv ;-)

I don't blame you Lavien. After my c-section with my first I was terrified to have sex and my husband was too. Maybe a little massage and alcohol would help you out??

I think it would be cool to get as many ladies in the shower as we could and see how many of us come out with girls! haha. Everyone I know that conceived in the shower had girls but they were all mainly oopsie babies but also one attempts so maybe that says something??!

Once when I was pregnant with DS2 I had a dream that he popped his head out of my stomach and started talking to me....creepy!!

Rosie that dream would have creeped me out too!

Lavie, I bet any type of surgery will take it's toll on your body so maybe it just needs a bit of tlc at the moment. Maybe try a night away if you could at all. Might do you the world of good after what you've been through. It would be nice though to have a magic wand to just make us all pregnant without all this ttc lark! :)

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Ah thanks. A night away would be lovely ... Not sure we can manage that at the moment unfortunately.
'Dutch courage' is prob what I need lol. Don't want any cobwebs starting to appear ;-)

Go for it Lavien!

Ugh almost 5 pm here and my second test was negative as well...I really thought it would come up positive.

Hehe Steph!! Hope tonight is your night Rosie xx
Married your trip sounds fabulous!! So relaxing...
Daisymoo I think your advice to Rosie is the best for yourself :) stick with every 4 days, I know you want to get pregnant but you have only had one attempt and this could very well be your month!! And one attempt has seen great results. Next month if there is one you can re-evaluate!! good luck xxxx


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Wow, you ladies sure have been chatty :) It sounds like sways are moving ahead nicely. We had a couple of problems this morning. Dh had shall I say performance anxiety. Then when we tried again he got a leg cramps. Me, I have anxiety. Breathless, racing heart, feeling sick :( I have light fade in for OPK's. I hope I get my +OPK tomorrow night. I managed to get my Mum and DSD to look after the kids tomorrow night :D Mind you, I have very stretchy cm atm, which is most unlike me. I don't usually have much I think it's because I upped my Robitussin. I have night shift tonight but, hoping to get a little bd in before I head off to work. Dh says he has some anxiety about it all. He even suggested we should try and be a bit more creative with things. He seemed keen on the lingerie idea :fx:

What do you think ladies? One or two days away? I'm thinking one. Maybe even today. I had a cup of tea about 1 1/2 hours ago. Cervix is also up high and I think soft. Definitely high though as I can only just reach it. http://img.tapatalk.com/d/14/04/25/a5asyryb.jpg

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Looks good boysway!! I'm no expert but you look like one day away to me. deft try and get a few attempts in and rock that saucy lingerie!! Hope your anxiety goes away honey that is so stressful though I really think it will help your sway as both my boys were conceived when I was mega anxious had just had bad anxiety attacks/ insomnia bouts!
Stretchy cm is also great for blue hope this is your month xxxx

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yay boysway - looks very close - I bet you get your positive tomorrow! Hope the lingerie works so you get some action before you go to work :) - the stretchy cm is perfect and I always used to get that a few days leading up to O - its a great sign for upcoming O and a great sign for blue - yay!

Thanks kitkat :) Plenty of eggwhite cm (touch wood) I know it's not preseed as I last used that about 12am last night. The anxiety is frustrating. It doesn't help I have a cough as well so getting a sore chest from feeling breathless and the cough. Ah well. Lol, I hope I can fit into my lingerie. Most of it is probably at least two sizes too small.

steph, yes I am seeing it as a positive sign. I don't usually get ewcm leading up to ovulation :D

Thanks for the positive thinking suggestions as well, I think from stephk and daisymoo. I have been visualising, I never used to be a praying person. Well, I was for a while then lost faith and have slowly regained my faith. So, now I also pray to Archangel Gabriel for a healthy little boy :D I have been waiting such a long time for my little boy.

I am hoping and praying that you get him too boysway

argh i just realised i forgot to bring an OPK to work with me!! By the time I am able to test tonight (6/630) it will be pretty pointless but will see..... oh well I guess as its only CD11 it would be highly unlikely that I would get a positive anyway. Silly me lol

Steph, bugger. You can still test when you get home though. What's your average ovulation day?

Boysway your dh won't be able to resist you if your bra is two sizes smaller! You'll be pouring out of it and will look fab! On a serious note though would ye try having a few beers? All my ds were conceived after a lot of beer and vodka. It will definitely relax your man. My dh would be the same if I told him we have to dtd now, but a few beers softens the edge on the situation. You could also try dtd very early in the morning by waking him up gently They say most men are in the mood first thing in morning. And don't worry too much. You're a girl mom You're not supposed to be as worried as us boy moms!! Can't help you with opk though I'm useless at reading them sorry.
Steph did you have an attempt last night? If you did then you're ok for another four days and once you can test today's opk before 8pm it will still be valid.

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boysway I dont have one because I just had a 95 day cycle since stopping BCP and now on CD11 of the current cycle. I do hope it will be less than 95 days this time!! The tests are so cheap, I have the same ones as you so just figured it would be a good time to start testing. Current plan is to BD when we can (because every 4 days has been putting too much pressure on both of us) and then take a view on whether to BD at pos OPK depending on when the last BD was. Its no big deal that I forgot it today really I am just a bit annoyed with myself for forgetting.

Boysway your dh won't be able to resist you if your underwear is too small! You'll be spilling out of that bra! You'll look very womanly!! But on a serious note have you tried maybe having some beers? My dh would be the exact same if I told him that we had to dtd at a certain time. One or two beers just seem to take the edge off the situation. The other thing you could do is wake him up gently in the morning (wink wink!!) ;)Men seem to be most up for it in the morning time apparently! Most of all don't worry about it You can still get a few attempts in by looking at your opk. You're a girl mom You're not supposed to be as anxious as us boy moms Actually that might be good for your sway!!
Stephk, hope you managed to get an attempt in last night And you're still quite early in your cycle so you shouldn't worry about opk today. As long as you test before 8pm you'll be fine. I think the way you have chosen to dtd is great and relaxed which will help your pink sway a lot. Might be the route I'll be taking next month.


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I think I will need to back off from things. No luck again (lingerie and all). Hubby said he is depressed and said it looks like this (a baby) just won't be happening :( I told him not to stress, there will be other months and we haven't even missed this month. Nothing I said helped :(

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Oh boysway I'm so sorry :((( you said all the right things too maybe just give him some time?? Do you think it's the pressure of swaying or other things going on? Hugs!! its soooo frustrating for you xxx

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aw poor guy if he is feeling depressed it might be worth taking a little break from ttc this month and maybe he can relax a bit. Maybe just a few weeks off from ttc might make him feel just right as rain again hopefully. You should take some time for yourself too. All this ttc lark seems to be taking it's toll on you on hon. I would still get someone to mind your kids as planned and just go for a bite to eat etc and no dtd. It might do ye the world of good to get off the topic for a while. Hugs to today x

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oh no boysway :( poor you and your poor DH. TTC really does suck doesnt it. I agree with daisy - its great that you have a babysitter tonight. Maybe just go on a date, enjoy being out together for what it is and maybe skip this month if too stressful

so sorry boysway. I hope hubby comes around for you.

I got my positive last night at 10:30 right after Dh and I had another argument, haha. I wasn't expecting it and was stunned when it showed up. So we got over our fight which was actually about attempting and we had DH release once on his own and then we got in the hot shower. It took a while... because it was after one release and then he drank some wine too.

I painted my nails and put on my rose quartz bracelet and stayed up a bit before going to sleep next to my salt lamp, hahaha...can't hurt right?? Now it is morning and I am starving but really want a 16 hour minimum fast. I had a little wine before attempt at 10:30pm. I haven't eaten since 6:30pm though. I should count the wine still I am thinking.

I never count wine just when I last ate....damn oh well at least my drinking is weekend only! Cant wait to mix a cosmo when I get home :)

Been so hungry this week. At the moment, my colleagues are sitting around me eating a delicious looking carrot cake! I wish they would hurry up and finish it because I am feeling very weak right now!!!

So I shouldn't count the wine then??? If I wait until 2 pm to eat I will be at 20 hours since I last ate

Rosie - I definitely wouldn't count the wine! Eat something ! :)

oh I guess wine on an empty stomach lowers blood sugar like crazy. Hmmmm

Well done Rosie You finally got your attempt in Yay!!!! I've said it before and I'll say it again if you don't get a daughter no one will!!! You have put so much in to your sway and your hubby has been great too! I have everything crossed for you!! x Now go and eat! :)

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It is so cool reading about other people with all of the same thoughts and concerns that I have!
My DH has been getting pretty fed up with all of this, too.
He's been doing FR for the last ten days and says he feels "used and abused" I told him to hang in there and we just had our attempt last night. I had a light-ish line on the OPK, but figured it was only a day before my +opk and decided to go for it, as I didn't want to try to put him through another night of FR. If it doesn't work this month, I think we're going to need to switch to abstaining next month, as this is too much for him.
I tested this morning and it was really close to a +OPK, so I am wondering if I should maybe have him release on his own, around 7 this evening and then BD one more time, around 9 or 10 tonight. What do you ladies think??

Thank you so, so much for your support and kind words ladies. I really, really appreciate it xxx

Kitkat, hubby is tired all the time anyway. He works for himself so, is always busy. He does also feel pressured for the bd as well. I'm kicking myself for making him feel pressured. It wasn't intentionally but I felt he needed to know it was coming up because we bd so rarely.

Daisymoo, this is our first month of trying. I'm nervous the further we get along without a bfp the more disheartened hubby will feel.
I will keep up with everything I'm doing and let dh lead. That's all I can think of.

Fingers crossed for you Rosie :)


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aww thanks Daisy! I'd like to think you are right! I hope we all get our DG. Dh and I had a moment of silence before BDing. We spoke to our daughter to let her know how much she is wanted and loved already. I have also wrote her name on several things...giving her a sign. I am truly hoping I fall pregnant right away. I just had a feeling yesterday and then when I didn't get my positive I thought maybe my feelings were off but then there it was! 10:30 pm out of nowhere. This has to be it!

rosie please eat you are making me nervous, 20 hours is a long time x

Do not do both the hurry up FR (the two releases back to back) and the daily release. It's too much. do one or the other, but not both.

it is impossible for me to keep up with the support threads, so if you guys all have certain concerns can you please just start a thread in the forum and ask? I sometimes find that bad info gets spread in the support threads but it is just not possible for me to keep up with them.

Elise I would not make another attempt. You should still have sperm inside from your original attempt. If it ends up being a few days from now instead of tomorrow than you could consider another BD.

Boysway my dh went through something similar a few years back. He's also self employed. But basically he was so tired and depressed a lot and had no interest in bd for months on end. Eventually he went to the doc who said it is just something that men can go through at some stage in their lives. My dh was around 40 at the time. So hopefully your dh will feel better once the pressure is off. And I bet it'll be before you know it.
Elise the general rule is bd once at positive opk or else bd every four days. So it depends on how far away you are from positive. Nearly positive could be 2 or 3 days yet. Have another attempt four days from your last attempt if you don't get positive opk today. If you get a positive tomorrow I think I would attempt as you may not ovulate for 24/36 hours from that and the spermies from your last attempt might be gone by then.


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Oh no I am sorry boysway. Maybe you just shouldn't tell him. Dh told me not to tell him when we will be trying, just tell him when I get a bfp, he doesn't like worrying about anything. All he knows is that he needs to take his OLE (which he is horrible at). Like daisy said, wake him up "gently" or "ease" him into it after a shower.
Rosie, I can't do 16hrs, I will vomit (sorry gross I know) but I can do 14. Did you drink a whole bottle of wine or just a glass? Personally if it was just a glass, I wouldnt worry about it. If it was the whole bottle I would count it.

It was actually only a half glass..it was soo gross!!! haha I will be drinking a different wine tonight.

I agree boysway. Maybe just take the pressure off and just give him a nice massage and really get him turned on. Do something nice for him. Take him by surprise.

Yay for attempt rosie!! I hope you get get a pink sticky bean for your first try! Lol I was rushing trying to read and hurry over to the lab (at work) typed up the post before and didn't hit post. After reading the comments I was like oh yea that is an attempt!! lol