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Happylea- sorry you didn't hear girl. I always feel when there is an "opposite" that I don't know what to say. Because sorry doesn't feel right to me. Can't explain well what I mean it just doesn't sit well with me. And I know when it's my turn if it's a boy hearing congrats is gonna bother me too. It's a no win. My heart goes out to you. When I see everyone going over the nubs and going into the gender scans so afraid that's gonna be me too. I guess I want to say I totally get it. We ALL do.
Thank you ladies for your kind words, i have stopped crying for now. I am ok and sure i will be ok, i know i will have my down days but i know i will love him no matter what.
We did our very best at swaying and it obviously wasnt meant to be and if he got through everything we put his way with all the splime and supps and creams he deserves to be in our family.
I have sent a message to foxy and coldwater to have a look at my potty shot as people on IG aswell as on her are not convinced that it is a willy. Im not getting my hopes up tho.
FWIW, in profile my DD at 16 weeks had a "long thing" but that was just her clitoris. Truly though if you didn't know better you'd have thought it was a willy, it was so long! But totally flat to her spine in profile. Since yours is a potty shot it's not the same, but I do agree with others that it is not the clearest potty shot I've ever seen.Quote:
Originally Posted by HappyLea
It sounds like you're moving towards a good place with the news though. I know (and LOTS of ladies here know) how hard it is to have a sway opposite. Was this your first sway?
I did a slight sway with DS3 with cut off method but this was 1st propper sway. What's meant to be is meant to be, dont get me wrong im upset that i will never get that mother/daughter bond that i so wanted.
Just been looking at baby pics of my boys and they are so damn gorgeous im sure this one will be also.
Oh HappyLea, I did the same re: baby pictures and it helped me too :) I think the gender desire is persistent and mine is def still here, but the overwhelming sadness I felt in pregnancy is nearly completely gone. It's so hard to stay sad when you're holding a precious new life. Will you have another scan at 20wks?
yeah my 20 week scan is at the end of june, so obviously will get confirmation then x
FWIW your 1st 3 boys are gorgeous... and I think 4 boys would be amazing; it was my ideal to have all boys. :hugs: I know it wasn't yours but know that there are LOTS of mama's who think your family is dreamy.
HappyLea and PP, I just want to give gigantic hugs to you both. I wish I knew the appropriate thing to say. I really don't. I just want to send you some love.:HH:
Same here HappyLea And PP Huge:hugs:
Oh HappyLea, I am not surprised you thought this was your little girl. After all the girl skull guesses and having that gut feeling, you can't help but hope this is it. We all know what it feels like to want a specific gender so badly and we all wish that everyone will get what they swayed for. Perhaps you were meant to keep giving the world the most adorable boys ever, which only you can do.
Like you, I want to have that mother/daughter relationship. I try and remind myself that my DH has a great relationship with his mum. Most of all don't forget that you did a great sway. You did everything you possibly could, but this little boy was even more special than the girl you were hoping for. Sending big hugs from sunny Darwin, Australia.