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Yes - I think we all feel this way...at least until we're holding our new wee one in our arms. When I was deciding whether or not to try again, several people told me 'you might regret a child you didn't have, but you'll never regret a child you do have'Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
Beautifully said, Mocha :hug2:. I love my older two kids to pieces and they've taught me heaps!Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
*And I still have a gut feeling you're having a girl! :o
You guys need to stop this, if anyone's sway did not worked that's me. I also think it's a girl but I already swayed twice , right?
hobber -you know you can have a boy ! What ever you saw on the u/s don't count because you are just to early for a nub guess! You know it still rising and it could have been leg bone , cord ect. You just said you not even good at guessing , girl!
Cheer up! Just because you feel girl that does not mean girl for sure! I was sure DD3 is a boy and she is not huh!
hobber you still post pics, right? We love to see baby pics!
I agree - bring on the baby pictures!! :HH:Quote:
Originally Posted by Flava
Hobber, you said you didn't get a nub shot pic, right? I would say unless you get tons of opinions about the nub, I wouldn't freak out just yet! I totally understand how you feel...but let's jsut say this baby is a girl...what if she goes on to do some amazing things and then you can look back and think, wow I'm really glad I got pregnant then even tho it was rough on the family...sometimes I honestly believe we have ideas in our head for a reason, and even if it doesn't come to fruitition the way we WANT it, eventually we see that it was worth it, or we understand why it didn't work out our way. I believe in all my heart that if this baby I'm carrying is a boy then he was meant to be here, and even if my heart longs for a girl, he was the person that God wanted to be here instead, and I have to learn the reasons why.
Not to get preachy like that, actually I haven't been to church since I was a teenager, but i just believe that lots of things are still a mystery to us humans and we are not always meant to understand everything. I believe the world can be wondrous and then can be very cruel as well.
Mocha, I still feel 150% your baby is a girl. I just feel it very deeply that it is true! If coldwater gave you 85% then I think that sounds good. I don't know whats better or worse to be honest with you....I am going into this *trying* (that being the operative word) of staying positive and really enjoying and relishing the idea that I could have a daughter, and all the purples and lavenders I'd buy for her, etc, all the things we could do. If I hear boy at 19 weeks, THEN I'm going to deal with my feelings then, once I know for sure. I don't know which way is better, getting prepared to hear boy before you even hear it (or I dont' think you will hear it), and feeling antsy and lost about it being a boy, or living in La-La Land like I am doing.
I don't know! I hope we both have girls so we don't have to find out! But on the same token, I dont know why this is so important to me, but I really, really don't want to experience what I did with DS2. If this is DS3, I realy want to feel happy and excited and at peace with my new little man. I long for that experience of being pregnant and not feeling bummed out to hear boy...because I was bummed with both DS1 and 2, though obviously they mean everything to me now. I guess it's like I'm seeking closure and I long for that happy, I am over the moon excited pregnancy I can't believe I'm having a girl!!!! feeling.
Anyway sorry for the novels I keep writing today, but these are my thoughts about all of this. And TTC5 I feel like you've got a boy just like I feel strongly about Mocha having a girl. And Hobbers, I can't get a feeling on you because you keep saying you feel it's gonna be a girl and I go back and forth about my predictions on what you'll be having.
Flava, grats on the Apple Seed!
Awww thanks ! They grow like crazy huh? No feelings about my seed?lolQuote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
I don't have a feeling yet about you!
So far I have these feelings:
TTC5- boy
Mocha -girl
Purplepoet - girl
She is already known to confirm a girl, but when I read happyheart's sway, it really spoke to me and I felt it real deep that she was having a girl, and then once it was confirmed, I felt good that my deep gut feeling had been right!
There was a swayer who I won't name who is pregnant with a boy tho she had swayed girl, and so when she heard boy, i felt for her, becuz I know how bad she wanted a girl, but I was too chickent to share my feelings before she found out because I didn't want to upset her.
I tell my husband all the time about it. He just thinks I get lucky with my gut feelings! Of course, I don't always get it right, I have been pretty concivnced of some here and there that did have opposite of what I felt, but I'm pretty good at sussing out my feelings, but I really need to focus to get an answer.
I know this sounds hokey, but it's something I've developed in months of being here. The other thing that can cloud it is desire...if I desire a person too badly to get a DG, I can be blinded by that, just like I cannot trust my own gut feeling about this baby because of desire. For the record, I will say that my gut feeling is that i'm carrying a girl, but i find it hard to trust that instinct because of desire.
Flava, when I feel something, I'll post it or PM you. I am trying hard to suss out my feelings for you and a few others, but some of ya'll are so newly pregnant I haven't gotten it yet.
Flava, did you post your sway yet? I don't see it in the boy section. Was going to read over it and mull it around and see if anything came to me.
Yes, it is hard to feel positive. The whole time during the scan I felt okay, disappointed but okay, but as time has gone on it has just gotten worse. :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Bumblebee
Are you getting another gender scan, bumblebee?
Thanks everyone for the kind words. I used to really believe that saying about you won't regret the kids you do have.... but it took me a LONG time to get to that point with DD2. Honestly, as horrible as it sounds, if I had had a time machine any time during the first 8 month of her life, I would have gone back and not had her. I suppose knowing that, I am really a terrible candidate for swaying--especially since it appears my sway didn't work. So I spent all this money on supps, got fat, stuck weird things up my hoo-ha, and STILL made a girl? I could have done that without trying! It seems so unfair. There are so many ladies desperate for girls, and having an excess of boys... why couldn't I get a boy and the girl could go to a lady who wants it?
aurora I sure hope you will post the "feeling" .Even if it's a girl . (i think that anyway)Of course I hope boy but all I even heard before it's a girl.So to imagine they say it's a boy I can't even do that.
Funny I was so sure 5 will get a boy too!
I really hope mocha and purple and you get that girl! You have feeling for yourself?
Oh about my sway I did not posted yet because Im scared from a m/c...not sure when would be ok to post.
hobber- I had very bad GD with DD3 .oh lord it was so mean...not so bad with DD4. im just happy it's all over and sure hope I will never have GD anymore.
gosh yeah I totally feel the same, I'm terrified of finding out the sex I don't know whats worse GD in pregnancy or GD when you have the baby. I worried if I find out and its a girl I won't take care of myself for the rest of the pregnancy because I'll be so dissappointed so I won't care what I eat or do. If anything happened out of anger or negligence I would never forgive myself. But if I leave some doubt as to the sex I think I'll be good to myself just in case its a boy. I know it sounds stupid but its just me trying to work though it somehow and give it justification, the truth is I'm so lost :tissue: and I feel really alone and that I got no one to talk to about it. :tissue:Quote:
Originally Posted by Hobbermittens
I think ultimately if I wait until the birth then I'll cope better and just get on with it and find closure but I just feel too emotional vulnerable right now to cope with any disappointment. I just want to get this pregnancy over and done with and progress with my life like I was before this whole thing started.
I totally get that. I keep wondering what I was thinking, trying to sway? Now I will have too many kids, we will have even less money, my parents and in-laws will be disappointed in us, etc. I really can't think of any good things about any of it. THe only positive would have been if the baby was a boy. Then all the negatives would have been worth it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bumblebee
Yeah, sometimes I think maybe it would be better to let myself daydream about having a girl since this is the last time in my life I'll have that luxury since it's my last baby. If and when I find out I'm having a boy, that door gets shut forever. I did let myself stroll through a baby girl section at a store yesterday, and it felt so exciting to see those little outfits and think maybe, just maybe I could start buying those in a few weeks. The thing is, this baby is going to be an opposite season baby to all my others, so no matter what I'm going to have to buy new clothes...I just really, really hope I'll be able to finally shop in the girl sections I've always rushed through while averting my eyes.Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
Auroara - thanks for sharing your 'feeling' that this baby is a girl. I really hope you're right! Only 2 weeks and 2 days until I find out! I never really get strong feelings about others' babies other than what I wish for them, but I really, truly hope with my whole heart that you and everyone else here will get the gender of their dreams. We all deserve it soooooo much after all we've gone through to get here.
Hobber - I definitely think you shouldn't count yourself out yet, though I think all the things you're feeling right now are perfectly natural and normal. You are so early that most techs wouldn't even be willing to guess a gender yet anyway. Don't nubs only start to rise around 12 weeks? Even if that was the nub you were seeing, there's every possibility it's now on its way up. I have my :fx: for you!
THanks, Mocha. I hope you are right. THe tech said my baby measured a little ahead, so more like 12 weeks (not sure how that is possible, since I know basically when I O'ed) so I hope the nub could still rise, or is it done by then? I don't know. I probably shouldn't get my hopes up.
I hope you get to shop for girl clothes soon. :)
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Originally Posted by auroara78
I like to hear people or websites say I am having a girl... It makes me feel better but I still have a tear of hope!
Hobber - I've heard people say the nub doesn't START to rise until 12 weeks, so your bun still has time!
i had bad GD with my 3rd and found it got worse before it got better xxxQuote:
Originally Posted by Hobbermittens
I looked on IG at girl nubs and found several from only a few days ahead of me that look like what I saw. I looked at boy nubs, and some of those look like it too. So I guess there is a chance. But I am trying not to get my hopes up.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
Yeah, looking at nub shots can drive you bonkers. I've found an equal number of confirmed boy and girl nub shots that look exactly like mine. But 50/50 is better than nothing, right?
I wish I had never seen/heard of nubs!:hair: Then atleast I would be in an "ignorance is bliss" state still, instead of a mess like I am.
Are any of you gals just stubbornly "non-immune" to Rubella?? I got checked with my first pregnancy and they had to vaccinate me after I gave birth. Just got my blood tests back for this second pregnancy and I'm showing up non-immune again! What the heck?! I almost want to tell them not to bother poking me again once I have this next one because it doesn't seem to make a difference. :rofl:
I also have to say that while I am so happy I can keep food/drink inside of me because of Zofran... I have never been so constipated in my life. It's been 6 days and I have tried EVERYTHING.
hobber stop looking at nubs lol! And still no baby pics for us? You acting like you didn't read us asking for it haha
Hobber, you don't have your sway posted either? I've looked on TTC boy side and didn't see a sway posted for u?
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Originally Posted by laughinglynxie
I've heard of some poeple testing not immune but they really are. My mother never vacc any of us but at 18mths I was hospitalized for 6mths with Rubella, mostly because I was severly underweight before getting sick. All my test say I am not immune to Rubella.
Well, ladies. I've opened up a whole new can of worms now. Remember how I said I let myself walk through a baby girl clothing section and peek? Well, today I actually browsed through and found some things I'm dying to buy. BAD IDEA. It's one thing to have a little hope that maybe this baby is a girl, but I shouldn't be SHOPPING for her if 'she' might actually still be a 'he'. I didn't buy anything, but I did fall in love with a couple of outfits, so now if I don't get to buy them it's going to make everything worse if I hear boy. What was I thinking?? I've never ever looked in a girl section unless I'm buying a gift for someone - I just find it too painful. I'm steering clear of children's clothing stores from now until after my gender scan.
Starting to think that maybe I should wait for an 18-20wk scan. If I hear pink at 15-16wks I may get overly excited but if they say boy at the 18-20wk scan it would break my heart. It may make the GD far worse then I want to imagine. The extra waiting will be hard but atleast it would be easier to know the gender for sure.
Yeah, sometimes I worry about that too, pp.
Maybe instead of paying for a private scan I will save the money for a truck load of icecream... either to celebrate or to cry over!
Mocha, buy something! If you love it, then bu it. You can always give it to someone later if you have a boy, but if you have a girl, then you will have it!!
Nixie, I don't know anything about ruebella.... sorry!
Flava, I can't figure out how to upload a picture? The one they gave me is pretty crappy anyway, and I am afraid if I put it up everyone will say the skull looks like a girl anyway. :sigh:
Auroara, I haven't added my sway. I think I will wait until I know gender for sure.
I looked into a private scan again, and they are so pricey where i live!!!! It's about 125 bucks a pop, and I just don't got that money lying around for that kind of thing...so I'm def. sticking to my 19 week U/S...I'm just so glad my doc will let me do it a week early!
I talked to Mom today on the phone...she went rambling on about the girl thing agin, saying this will be her 14th grandchild, and she only has 1 granddaughter...how much she hopes it's a girl...and then in her very next breath, she goes on and on about how much having my brother meant to her, and how she's so happy she got her one boy. So...ummm? confused? I guess she's equating her feelings for having one boy as in mine having one girl, since had she two girls before my brother.
She also asked what is wrong with her children that they had so many boys and so few girls??? Umm, I don't know Mom, but why does anything have to be wrong with us to have had alot of boys? GRRR, sometimes I wonder....why do I bother? She then went on to say how my oldest sis invited her to see her granddaughter perform a starring role in a play and said she "didn't feel" like going, because my sister doesn't give her (my mom) enoguh attention, so why should she sit in hard lumpy seats watching a boring play? I wanted to say, "because she's only granddaughter you DO have Mom, and maybe you should just go to support her." But no, she won't go because she's mad at my sis currently for not calling her enough. S-I-G-H. Of course, if my brother heard all this, he would totally agree with Mom, so maybe boys are better, right?
/snicker
Hobber, are you still going team green? Please tell me you have decided to find out?? I can't take the suspense! I need to know for sure!
Auroara, how many kids do your brother and sister have? The must have a lot if theirs plus yours will = 14! Your mom sounds like she really wants another grand daughter.... she shouldn't put all that pressure on you, though!
Yes, I am staying team green. Didn't you say you got a girl vibe for me? Just go with that. You are probably right.
m/s has not been a problem for a few days now but I have eaten a meal every hour. And I have lost 2lbs!
Pp - I think I've gained nearly 20 lbs since my BFP! I'm back to my pre LE diet weight now. Unfortunately, a lot of the weight has concentrated not just in my belly but in my back. Yes, I have rolls of backfat...very attractive and almost impossible to hide. I don't remember gaining weight there in any previous pregnancies.
Hobber, my feelings for you keep wavering, but unfortunately, more than not, I still sense girl about you, but some days I feel...no I was wrong, it's a boy.....I can't stop hopping around on how I feel, so I'm not quite willing to call your baby a girl 100% yet, tho my feeling does lie there more than boy...but it's only a feeling! And I'm not a psychic, i'd just be willing to say that I have some intiution!
Mom reminded me today on the phone how I predicted my 2nd sister would only have boys, and I based that prediction on the fact that she reminded me so much of my aunt who only had boys. I didn't realize that I had been predicting gender for so long! I also knew, I mean just knew deep in my heart that my oldest sister would have a girl 1st, and that's the only girl there is, lol.
Yeah, we were a big family of 4 kids and all of us had kids! My oldest sis has 5, (she would have had six but she had a 13 week m/c, it was very sad), 2nd sis has 4 (all boys), brother has 2 kids, and I have 2, soon to be 3. So that's alot of grandkids! All boys but 1!
I knew DS2 was going to be a boy. I had it deep in my gut, but I really, really wanted a girl so I tried to brush off my feelings. Hubby kept saying "it's got to be a girl." I wrote in my journal at the time at 6 weeks with him, "bryen's (DH) convinced that it's a girl, but I know it's a boy." Then somewhere between 6 weeks and 18 weeks I let myself get carried away with the "what if it could be a girl"...and thus, the night before DS2's ultrasound, I was lying in bed and my whole body woudln't stop shaking. I had to ask myself what was wrong, and when I realized that I ws scared to hear boy the next day, because I knew it in my bones he was a boy, I stopped shaking, but my hope left. And I was right.
I still feel girl aboout this preg. but I don't trust myself because A) I swayed, therefore somehow my mind believes I do have a higher chance of accomplishing concieving the female gender; B) Even when I KNEW DS2 was a boy, I managed to go thru a few weeks of La-La Land where I felt there was still hope, where I kept shooting down my deep gut feeling. I am afraid with my own pregnancy that I have just outright supressed gut feeling, or not allowing it come to the surface. I would love to type here in a few weeks that my gut feeling for myself was correct, and I should trust myself more often :P