PP- how about a early gender blood test then?:rofl: You lost weight and always eat? so jealous
aurora-sorry about your mom...
hobber -you can use photobucket ...how about I don't say a thing about skull shape ?lol
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PP- how about a early gender blood test then?:rofl: You lost weight and always eat? so jealous
aurora-sorry about your mom...
hobber -you can use photobucket ...how about I don't say a thing about skull shape ?lol
wouldn't life be much less stressful if we had no idea about the existence of ramzi placenta location/nub/hamburgers or turtles.. I wish we didn't know so much nowadays!
this time next week I'll be able to relax more if I hear the heartbeat, baby will have passed the 11 week milestone where the first died and 2 weeks today until I can nub-guess!
trying to think of lots of positives for having another boy to prepare myself...
Having 2 boys is fun... and you save on clothing because you can pass everything down. All kids fight of course no matter the gender and age but atleast they have so much in common when they are the same gender.
If MIL would have never mentioned how much she wants a granddaughter to pass all her family jewelry too. I would have been perfectly happy with my two blue eyed flirts!
PP-OMG we are the same on that! I would be so happy with my first 2 girls I wanted! But then some one put a boy in our ears! GGGGRRRRRR and now we want a boy for us too so here we are.
Sucks doesn't it... I have had boy activities planned since I was a teen. They get to start Swimming lessons at 3, Sports at 4, Capoeria at 5, and Boy Scouts at 6. They can choose what sports they want to play every year (because of snow sports are limited). The option to play electric guitar and drums to show off to the girls. We hike, camp, boat, bike, and hunt at any location that is above 65 degrees or everyday where I live for about 4-5mths. They burp and fart at the table and laugh about it, ok maybe I don't like that much but a girl doing it is not polite.Quote:
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I guess I will have to hope a girl would fit in and want to do some of the same things.
PP - as I've said before, I grew up the only girl in a house with 3 boys, and it was a great childhood. Yes, I was a little bit of a tomboy, but that meant I got to do cool stuff like hunt for frogs and play Star Wars. There was plenty of room in my life for girly stuff too - I played Barbies and My Little Ponies and had lots of girlfriends. I also got spoiled by my big brothers, and they take care of me to this day.
Yeah, Mocha, you summed it up, I had just one older brother, but we played a lot togehter! We watched thundercats, he-man, all those shows, used to fight with sticks in the woods, play G.I. Joe, hot wheels...and I had a really really close best friend that I played my little pony and Barbies with, so I always thought I had the best of both worlds and I really thought my brother helped keep me balanced.
Can't wait till your gender scan Mocha!
Can't wait to nub-sess with you Rainbowflower! How are you feeling?
The idea for a girl never got planted in my head; I was a kid playing with Barbies trying out names on my dolls that my real life daughters might one day have. I never imagined having boys, though now that I got two, I love them so much, and they are so handsome, funny....I think it was a good way of keeping me open, you know?
Flava, I appreicate it, but my mom is how she is, and she doesn't really mean to be hateful, she just talks her mind without thinking, and I've learned to most of the time realize she's not ranting off the top of her head. She's just very lonely, etc, and then she makes it worst by sometimes being so nasty she pushes people away. I wish she'd change, but she's going to be 70 in June, and obviously, I don't see it. With age, she's just becoming more "it's my way or the highway." I try to just let it roll off, usually. Sorry I vented to ya'll :(
hmm maybe I'm a bit different then, in that I've never been fussed about having a boy at all! I'm one of 4 girls, and didn't have any experience of boys prior to having one! Whilst I love him deeply, I'd have been happy with all girls too. To be honest, boys scare me a bit because it's a whole big unknown in the future! I have no idea what sort of things boys do to play/enjoy!
PP I'm glad you said about scouts and sports and stuff, I'd love DS to enjoy camping and being outdoors and having fun... and have been thinking of lots of positives to having two boys today too so adding those to the list! Although I do also have jewellery I want to pass on to a daughter too (and, perhaps, to support a daughter through a pregnancy is more a key reason - I don't think you'd get the same relationship with a DIL)
Aurora - thank you for asking :) feeling both excited and petrified! (more anxious about seeing another dead baby on the screen than of seeing a boy nub)
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I am very close to my MIL maybe because I have banned my own mother from my life. But my MIL is a wonderful person and even woke up at 4am to drive 5hrs to see DS2 being born. I talk to her all the time and sometimes it doesn't feel like she is my MIL more like my mom and friend.
aww I want a MIL like that!! only met my MIL 4 times in the 5 years we've been together! she even cancelled coming to William's Christening and has only met him once because we went there.
I have always wanted a boy right back to being a little girl I asked for a baby boy doll and played mummy all the time with him lol
Hi ladies, im back funeral on Wednesday went well and i just hope now that its all over with my stress levels will decrease :D Yesterday i ended up in early pregnancy clinic as i was doubled over in morning with stabbing pains in lower abdo/back. Turns out it was a water infection that i had allowed to get worse, i got it last week in Scotland but as i was busy sorting stuff out for Grandad and his funeral and his pain in the ass wife i ignored it...naughty me!
Nurse put me at about 7 weeks with my lmp but i know i was 6weeks+1 yesterday, they did internal scan and baby was measuring between 5 and 6 weeks?? But he showed me heartbeat which was nice :D Wish i could have gotten a pic.
I am constantley feeling sick so i have too eat and then after i eat i feel sick, i cant win at the moment! Im so so tired and moody at the moment :(
I got lots to catch up on when the boys are in bed.
PP- Girls can do all that things too! Also you are lucky to live in a place where you can do all this outdoor stuff. Here is so hot and humid most of the time no one want to go out!And Anyway I don't think it's ok to do those things by the table , boy or girl. My DH is a boy and never do things like that lol.My girls know I don't tolerate things like that so they don't do it anymore.
rainbow-boys scares me too lol I just have no idea what to do with them? But maybe I don't have to worry because I will never have one.
happy- good that you are back and maybe you don't have to deal with the grandma anymore. Hope you ok now!
What do you do for MS?
What anyone else do?
Im getting some more MS and so hating it! Not super bad but a little more then before and I feel so grumpy and have no desire to cook but I have to feed the kids something!
Nothing really helped me before with the other pregnancys so I need some good tips!
Im taking B6 so that's out it don't help.
Also Im starting to think this is another girl because Im getting more sick...I know it's silly I didn't have any ms with DD1 , but it makes me think girl anyway. Im crazy.
It so sad that she doesn't want to see him more. I love going to my IL's at least once a mth and they love spoiling the boys. DS1 has slept with Grandma since he was 2yo and soon DS2 will be joining them. She loves to wake up to them in her arms.Quote:
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Happylea--I hope you are feeling better! Hopefully you can rest and relax now. :) Yay for seeing the heartbeat!
Not so lucky with the outdoor stuff, as much as I would like... cold, wet and snowy from Oct-April. May and Sept are sometimes cold and wet but it depends on what kind of winter we had or are going to have. We also get about 4-8wks of good rain fall in the year sometimes for 2-3wks at a time. So even if one day is going to be warm enough for a nice hike the trailers are muddy and not passable. We are hoping to enjoy our yard more now that we cut some trees down that attract bees from mid-July to Sept. But we are also laying grass and redoing the front yard this year so I know we will be out a lot this year. Our boat engine will be finished before summer so we have weekend trips planned and several camping trips.Quote:
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I know girls can do those things to but I am most afraid of the ballet and dancing stuff. I am one of those people that believe girls dress their age. Super tight or revealing clothing are not to be worn, except swimming suits but they have to be 1 peice but a cover when not in the water. Sounds silly but where I grew up a lot of young girls dressed 10y's older and older men went after them. There are 8 girls under 10yo that play on my street and sometimes they only wear swimsuits (playing, riding bike, etc) and some of the adult men eye them in a way I don't like. I also don't let my boys go out half naked. They have to wear clothes that fit, chest and underwear have to be covered... I am a little nuts I guess!
One time when DS1 was about 3yo grandpa asked him if the pasta was good and DS1 went to say yes but he burped. Everyone laughed and now he does it all the time. He doesn't force them but he doesn't hide them. But we are working on teaching him to cover his mouth and hide them.
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I had bad m/s with the boys so I keep thinking another boy. But I know that m/s can be from many things including how much nutrients the baby is taking. Don't take to much b6 because high doses can cause issues. 30-50mg is the highest you should go but I found some sites that say you would need 150-200mg to help with m/s. It didn't work for me with DS2 or #3 so I dropped it.
When I have to make the meals I eat about 4-8 wheat crackers with a little cream cheese and it has helped. Also I am only able to drink ice water and I drink it with meals, while cooking, and whenever I feel sick. The ice water works best but I do pee a lot. Coffee, soda, and dairy make me really sick. When I feel realy hungry and like I have low blood sugar I eat some sour gummy worms and then I feel much better.
Salty chips and jolly ranchers worked a little but you can't stop. I ate 1 bag of chips in an afternoon and felt fat for days. I almost choked on a candy because I was about to throw up and the candy went down my throat.
Yes, I am and had to have the jab 4 times over the last 20 years. I wish I just would have caught the dang disease when I was a kid!Quote:
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Pp- you know this is all what you think a girl would or should do. But it's so different in RL when that girls is there! What if she don't want to do any dance at all?My girls don't dance. Only DD1 did when she was little, that's it.
You know how many time I read all this dreams the ladies have who want's daughters and it just makes me smiley .
Like they will go shopping together and dress them up like dolls and have mother daughter talks and do nails and hair all the time and cook together ect ect.
Well it's not like that!
And there are the other posts i read they see this "poor" little girls with no dresses on or omg just a shirt and shorts and boy cloths! And they are not taken care of because their hair is just brushed and that's it or maybe they have "only" a ponytail and they don't do magic hair creations every morning!
Well I hate that some one would think I don't take care of my girl because they are is shirt most of the time and had a ponytail only or not even that. You know why because most girls do not want to do this dream stuff at all!
My girls don't really want to put on any dress only sometimes. I can make a pony tail for DD3 and 4 but not much for DD2 .They all hate to brush hair and stand there forever to make something nice out of it. And they hate bows lol. If I go shopping they want to stay home most of the time and I can only paint their nails sometimes.
For those talks they are to little I guess DD1 is 14 and we kinda talk sometimes but they want to talk 'important" stuff with friend lol. So you see you just never know how is that dream girl will turn out.
As for my dream boy I just dream he wouldn't be to wild jumping of furniture , fighting to much ect. Kinda that's it lol .i We would just stay with the shirt and shorts and I would love to have a boy with really short hair to wash and dry and brush! That would be awesome! Se I have a simple dream so why can't I have it? lol
Flava, thanks for your post! It's great to hear "insider" info about having a daughter!
My mom and I never did the nail thing, we did shop a lot, and I used to love shopping until I had no money, so I stopped going out because it made me want to buy things we couldn't (since we had to spend our money on bills etc). I don't really like the puffy big dresses personally, but nothing is as refreshing and cute as cotton lil dress, esp. in spring or summer. When I was a kid, I refused to wear pants until I was in 7th grade. I wore a skirt or dress to school every day until then. So it's hard to tell sometimes how a child will behave.
Flava, don't worry my DS1 is well behaved most of the time, his worst thing is that he likes to play rough on "people" not furniture or things. He's obessed about puling off all the pillows and blankets off our bed and making a "fort" in the living room.
Im taking 50 B6 right now because I took it in the 2ww. Atomic told me to take it I just can't find the message when she told me how long and how to stop it! Guess I have to ask her again about this.
I will try the crackers but it didn't help with my other pregnancy's .I can try the chips too. what's a jolly rancher?
Funny I find myself craving potato Im making a baked potato right now lol. Normally I eat rice and pasta. But now that I think potato may help with m/s? because I had 1 2 days ago and after I eat it m/s was gone.
I try it with this potato when is done!
(im so buying chips today lol) FX it works!
My m/s is not so bad but it's so annoying and i want to cook and be there and play more with the girls.
Oh and afternoon Im so sleepy I can barely stay up! uggghhh
aurora-that little boy sound just right for me ! lol You have no idea how much I wish to finally not to do hair! Im so jealous of DH he go in the shower wash hair come out dry it with a towel and done .Not fair lol
But i make him dry all the girls hair sometimes Im so mean :rofl:
Please keep up the m/s tips girls!
You can take the B6 for as long as you want to - I took it thru the first tri because it was supposed to help with morning sickness (it didn't). Just make sure you gradually wean off by either cutting the pills in half, or spacing out the time between doses farther and farther before quitting cold turkey. It should take 3 weeks to wean off.
Flava -
I understand the difference in the type of girl people end up with. For me and my sisters... I love boyish things only, sis1 liked hair and makeup (she does hair in Beverly Hills now), and sis2 liked nail polish/hair/makeup and boyish activies. One of the girls down the street does swimming and I know she doesn't brush her hair after but it is still nice looking with the wavy look. I like it when girls have their hair down but sometimes they may need it up, like for sports or even dance. I am not big on makeup, nails, hair, and dressing up but I would do those things for a girl if that is what she likes. My youngest sis was crazy about braids and dark blue nail polish, and I did her hair everyday before school and nails every weekend.
I am keeping all my boys clothing so they can be used by a girl as well. A lot of it would make great play clothes and the pants are gender nuetral. Most I got from a friend who only has 1 child a girl and she wore mostly boys stuff. I have dresses and girly clothing (most I wouldn't buy because they are to girly) but they were free so I grabbed everything. Shorts and shirts are big with us since we travel to NV and Phoenix a lot. My kids go around the house in underwear and t-shirts all year long, naked when potty training.
I believe in letting my kids decide some of there activities and if a girl wanted to dance I may end up letting her. I just really hate some of the dance moves that little little girls do. And the swimsuit like outfit. Parents video taping all these girls and who knows who is a perv. Maybe a class that teaches moves but doesn't have them preform.
I have never been the type of person who wants to dress like a daughter. I can't see myself in a tutu and leggings! I let my boys pick their clothing for the day when they are 2+ and I love some of the odd choices they make. DS1 likes to wear all blue but nothing match including socks and hat. I would let a girl do the same so she could have her own style.
We all shop as a family because DH loves Walmart, Target, Kohls, or the Mall on the weekends. If we buy something for the boys I will hold a few choices for them to pick from. DS1 like watching Mickey Mouse but doesn't like the clothing. I do pick things special for the holidays but only for family photos.
I cook with my boys and use that time to talk and joke around. I do hope to do this with all my kids no matter their gender. For as long as it last. My boys don't stay and help the entire time but only for a few seconds... using the blender, stirring, or just wanting to see in the oven.
I have only felt sorry for one little girl who used to live down the street. Her mother passed away and she was living with her dad. He was working 3 jobs to pay bills. The little girl had torn up clothing for school. So I went to local used clothing store and I bought some clothing. Mostly pants, shorts, shirts, sweaters, jacket, but New socks, underwear, and shoes. Her dad was very grateful for the help. He now shops at the same store so she can continue to have nice looking stuff.
Jolly Rancher is a hard candy. You can find them in the candy section at the store. The grape and watermelon made me even more sick but the sour apple and cherry were great.
thanks! I will start that then because it not helping me at all.Quote:
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PP- that was so nice of you to help the dad out! We also go shop together but DD1 stay home most of the time now that she is bigger. So sometimes DD2 and 3 want to stay too.
I like nail polish and maybe that's the only girly think we do most of the time. lol my latest ones is dark blue that's what I use right now.It's a very nice blue.
I eat the baked potato and it's better now! Must be something with the potato huh? Just watch me now that i write this down it will not work anymore lol
Im going to try the candy too.
Anyone ever had the prego lolly? I never did so don't know if it works?
I did with DS2 but I had to keep them in my mouth all the time. Is was expensive. But they did work really well for driving or shopping.Quote:
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Ooh, im loving the m/s tips.
With my 3 DS's i felt sick in morning and that was it, i was ok rest of the day. This pregnancy i feel sick all day and wretch alot. I eat to take the sickness away but it doesnt last long. Im snacking on everything from strawberries/grapes to crisp and choc. I feel horrible, by the afternoon i just need to sleep i cant move.
I think i may try something sucking on something to stop me eating so much.
Ok ladies i typed in google to look up these preggo lollies and becareful what you type i just got lots of porn stuff coming up :rofl:
I finally found them under pregnancy lollipops.
DH will be wondering what i been upto :oops:
My Mom's like that with my kids, and that's the way I want to be with my grandchildren some day!Quote:
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My MIL isn't terrible, but she's not a hands-on grandparent at all. They live across the country, but have enough money to travel all around the world (they're retired), but we're lucky if we get one visit a year from them. When they do come they don't cuddle with the kids or play with them, so honestly my kids couldn't care less when it's time to leave. When my Mom leaves after a visit, my kids cry for days because they miss her so much.
Mocha - The crying is so hard. DS1 wakes up in the middle of the night for 2-5 days crying because Grandmas not there.
You ladies make me thankful I didn't get m/s this pregnancy! Sorry you're feeling so sick!
As for my vision of a daughter, honestly I've never been interested in the pink, princess frilly stuff. I would imagine if I had a girl she'd be a bit of a tomboy anyway since she'll have 3 big brothers, and since that's how I was as a kid, that would be perfect for me. What I yearn most for in a daughter is more the relationship I could have with her as she grows up. My Mom and I are best friends - she's the first person I call when I need to talk to somebody, and we love spending time together. Little boys are wonderful - they worship their Mommy - what I worry that as my boys get older they're going to get more interested in things that I'm not involved with, like sports, and want to spend more time with their Dad than me. I'd like just one kid who has more potential to be interested in some of the same things as me. I know there's no guarantee that my daughter and I would be as close as I am to my Mom - I know enough women with strained relationships with their mothers to know there's no guarantee - I just want the chance that maybe we could grow close like that.
One thing that really broke my heart once when dh was set against having baby #4 (I eventually wore him down, obviously), was when I was visiting my Mom's house and one of my SILs was there with her pigeon pair. She was brushing her 7 year old daughter's hair in the bedroom next to mine and telling her that all she ever wanted was to have a little girl who she could do girl things with and all her dreams had come true. They are very close and do everything together.
Yeah, we get that too. One thing that helps for us is we do FaceTime with her on my iPhone right before they go to bed so she can say goodnight to them.Quote:
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Ah yeah Mocha, that is what I'm more after, just the chance of a good/close mother-daughter relationship! It'd totally be up to her if she were a girly girl or a tomboy, I did play a lot of boy games being that I had my older brother, but i did plently of girl activites as well with my best friend growing up.
About M/S, I had some during this preg. that lasted for nasty hours on end, and some days i felt fine. I don't know why, but potatoes really helped when I did have it. (I think it's something about how starchy potatoes are), I think they absorb quickly into the blood ****** and this is why I think it might quickly curtail nausea...but I don't know for fact.
I've also heard that hard candy, sucking on it helps, hope the jolly ranchers work for you Flava!
DH said yesterday that he thinks we are done now, unless things drastically change. We def. would need a bigger house and car for a 4th, and even though i've been saying on here that I was relucant to go for a 4th, for some reason, when he said that, I felt really closed in and antsy! Like he was killing all my hope! Guess i really was counting on the idea of a
4th, so if they said boy again, I'd have that lingering fantasy of my 4th being a girl. I don't even know if i want a 4th, but just him saying that he was closed off to the idea now...just didn't sit right with me. Previously, he was the one who seemed so open to 4 kids, but i guess the reality of being a stay at home Dad is getting to him, lol. I dunno why it bugged me so much. I'd truly be happy to be done with 3, no matter what gender.
happy-that is so funny omg :rofl: I find this lollies is this the real thing? It's 21 pops for 5.49 but the shipping is 5.99. so stupid.
Can't we just buy this somewhere?
Anyway my m/s is not so bad , but of course don't feel good .Actually just got worse yesterday but still if it would just stay like this then Im happy because I know it can get a lot worse.
I went to store and got club soda and chips. But didn't find any sour hard candy uhhhh.
aurora- no jolly ranchers for me yet!
My mom never saw my kids and MIL only saw DD1 and 2 and DD3 once in the hospital that's it. so my kids dont have a grandma. FIL is coming to visit us this summer we already got him a flight ticket. I just know he want to find out the gender so maybe we have to go to a private u/s .Now just think about how is that for me!!! OMG...they all sit there waiting to hear boy and I lay on the table and if they say it's a girl no way I will look at them at all.
So because of this I don't want to go and I don't want to find out !AAAAAAAAAAAAAA
Flava - do you have a Mat shop or a baby store nearby? We have a place that is a combo of baby stuff, kids toys, and homeschooling. Babies R Us may have them. Calling around helps to save time on dragging kids around town.
I am close to my sister but it is mostly because my mother was never into doing things for us. When I was 9yo my hair used to be so tangled I had an orange sized knot by my kneck. My dad tried to get it out for a two long visit but ended up taking me to get my hair cut super short. He bought us brushes and hair products. After that I started to take care of my sisters hair so she would have to have a painful knot. I also liked to brush my other sisters hair because my step-mom wouldn't do it and she liked to be pretty. I started brushing my boy's hair when they were babies just so they would get used to it and they had Cradle Crap. DS1 has curly hair so he likes it when I spike it up and DS2 likes to brush everyone elses hair.
I used to wish that my mother was more involved with us when it came to simple things. I can remember a lot of things even back to 4yo and I don't remember her every shopping with me or brushing my hair. I do wish she would have talked to us more because we had to learn everything from our grandma, dad, school, and friends.