Printable View
oh.. how insensitive.. the nerve that some people have :mad: When DD3 was born, my DH's cousin who came for a visit was saying in a dramatic tone.. "So, where is the boy, where is the boy" (clearly knowing that we have got DD # 3).. laughed as if he made a big joke and said "Oh.. I was sure that it had to be a boy, because 3 girls in a row is odd".. Made my GD worse.. :(
I get insensitive comments too, and I'm still pregnant with DD#2! Everyone asks what the baby is, and when I say it's a girl they always say "congratulations! So you're going to keep trying for a boy, right?" and give me this sad, pitiful look like they feel so sorry for me. I could slap them. No I am not trying for a boy right now, I am still pregnant.
I get so many ridiculous comments that I start to ignore people or not even respond... I don't know why people are so insensitive. Yes we beat the odds have 3 boys in a row..but come on give me a break. I love my boys regardless of sex. I still struggle with GD and my youngest is 6 months. My husband gets sick of talking about having a girl so I try to not bring it up much. I wish I felt done having kids but I still feel like I am missing my daughter :(
I have just barely begun telling people about my current pg (with DD#3), and I wanted more pink and swayed for pink, and am actually overjoyed to have an all pink family, so the comments don't sting as much as they would if I were suffering from GD, but it's amazing, what people will say...
I've had 4 miscarriages in a row, and am absolutely over the moon that this baby seems to be sticky and healthy, too. But when I told one friend that I had already found out gender from a CVS (which also showed normal chromosomes--the best news I could have wished for after losses!) she said, "oh, I'm sorry." (as in, I'm sorry it's another girl.) And she wasn't trying to be hurtful, I think it's just that her comment came out of her own wish to have both genders.
DH has also gotten "well, I hope at least you have a male dog" from the one friend he chose to share the news with. Um, no, we have female kittens (because that's what DH wanted!)
But really, it is simply *amazing* how insensitive people can be, or how they don't realize that everyone has different wishes & dreams about the genders of their children...
SugarNspice- Any advice on how you swayed for pink? I have never swayed either way. Both pregnancies for me were a surprise :) Thank you :))
Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
Yes! Michelle Duggar is an excellent example for those of us who have multiple children of the same gender. The very interesting part is that if you consider every child she ever conceived, you see that it ended up being completely 50/50... 10 boys, 10 girls.
I really think people and their comments are what worry me the most about finding out the gender of baby #3. I decided when I started ttc that I wanted another baby regardless of gender and the idea of another boy is very exciting. I am sad that I may never have a daughter, but I know I can get over it. I just wish people would learn to shut their mouths every once in a while! I am very sick of all the comments and I really think that people who choose to say whatever is on their minds deserve to hear whatever is on my mind, so they will this time around. I am about going to announce my pregnancy this week and I am already gearing up for all the comments about ANOTHER boy.
Congrats Island on your pregnancy!! You have a great attitude!! I know it is the comments that hurt ...its just learning to put them aside...which i am still learning to do... I felt like when I told people I was expecting my 3rd son...they discounted my pregnancy and were asking if I was going to try again for a girl...its ridiculous...I love my 3rd son...he is such a angel. I hate that people are so insensitive! I am very sensitive to others about what I say because I know how it feels!
I am so over those gender comments I could scream. Almost every person who sees me with two boys and a baby belly says the obligatory, "Are you having a girl this time?" What if I knew the gender and I wasn't? What is the most annoying is my neighbor downstairs. She only has one child, a girl, and every time my kids act up she says, "I really hope this ones a girl for you, girls wouldn't do that." I told her yesterday that my younger son wouldn't wear his jacket and she goes, "I hope you're having a girl cause she'll wear it." I feel like if I have a third boy I'm keeping him away from her just because she makes those obnoxious comments.
Quote:
Originally Posted by toffee-praying-for-a-son
Oh this is so cruel! Makes you want to strangle him!
Told family last night and already received a lovely comment from my mom. My brother and his gf recently announced their own pregnancy and they are due just 4 days before me. I am really excited for them both and completely over the moon to be an aunt, but what my mom said to me really upset me and put a damper on my excitement for both of us.
I told her last night and she said: Oh, I hope you have a girl this time, but I think you're going to have a boy. I don't know why... it's just a feeling. I don't want to jinx you or anything, but of course, the baby already is what he or she is anyway. Oh, and I really think K & C will have a girl.
Ummm... okay. What do I say to that? Gee thanks for your prediction. I'll make a note of it.