How did you convince DH to try for another when he felt done?

My dh was done after 3. I sat him down and told him how it would break my heart into a million pieces to never have our baby girl. We are now ttc #8.

I had two boys - now 21 and 20 when I met my now DH (that was 17 years ago). We have since had two more boys - now 8 and 5. I have been absolutely desperate for another for about the last three years. My DH was 150% no more kids. He had many excuses - we didn't have the room, we couldn't afford it, 4 kids is enough, DS4 is a terrible sleeper (at 5 I think he has slept a full night three times), etc. etc. anything he could think of to use as an excuse.

Anyway two older boys moved out, DH got a well paying job, we moved into a bigger house - all his excuses were no longer excuses...

He told me one night that he had decided that we could have one more - I literally got pregnant the next night (no exaggeration at all). I am now 29 weeks:-)

If my DH came around anyone's can. He was soooooo against having another child.

Good luck!!

PS I have just read your comment:

"who will you be having the third with?, as it won't be me"

This is exactly what my DH used to say!!! There really is hope for you, just give it time...

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Originally Posted by myGirl

For us, going from 2 to 3 kids was a breeze. We felt confident and experienced, and the first two kids entertained each other instead of looking to me all the time. And you are so right, the baby/toddler years are over in a flash... my mom always told me to "enjoy this time with your boys" and I used to think she was crazy but now (my boys are 13, 12 and 9) I totally understand what she meant.

After my DS3 was born (failed Shettles sway) DH promised me we'd try for #4 for my girl. Well... time got away from us and now I am desperate for just one more baby. But DH is so content with his boys that he is done (he wanted a boy from the beginning even more than I wanted a girl! He doesn't realize how lucky he is to have 3!)

Anyway, my DH uses the money argument against having another. He feels it would be selfish of us to have a new baby because it would take thousands of $$$$ away from our boys that we could otherwise spend paying for lessons, sports, trips, summer camps, not to mention college etc. Anyone have any comebacks for that one LOL?

I don't know how easily manipulated your husband is, but for mine, he can be talked into anything with the promise of some special alone time in the bedroom (wink). That and maybe a fishing boat in the future (I told him I'm going to name the boat Strings Attached) LOL

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Your dh sound like my dh that is what mine says but argument is you can't something of kids they didn't have in the first place but anyway let us no how you go at the moment dh is winning in this household but I hope that changes

I haven't read other comments but I wouldn't even suggest it till baby is sleeping trough and nappy's and other things are not an issue and money wise your adjusted to the new financial strain of a new person. My partner didn't want another after ds3 but I slipped and fell lol and he was only to happy to catch ;p I told him the risks I wasn't sneaky. Any how after we lost number four he realised actually yes another baby is what I wanted all along and didn't know.