Want a girl really bad? How about adoption?

To the OP,

YES! I have been pushing for adoption for years now and my wife still isn't on-board. I know that adoption can be expensive and can be heart-breaking, but it isn't always. A close friend of mine adopted a baby boy three years ago. She had heard from a friend-of-a-friend that one of their nieces was pregnant and was going to put baby up for adoption. So my friend contacted the girl and they met and soforth. She and her husband were there for baby's birth and named him and took him home for only the cost of lawer fees ($4,000) and they have a wonderful toddler now!

I desperately want a boy, but believe if we kept trying we'd have a whole volleyball team before we could have a boy. My wife really wants to HAVE another, so we will have to see how things work out in the next few years.

Adopting a human baby is not like adopting a puppy! As many have pointed out, it is extremely exclusive and expensive! You have about as good of odds as getting that girl or boy you dream of as having your own baby. PGD is also crazy expensive and on average takes 3 attempts to even get pregnant and could include traveling the world to find someone to do it. Also, a couple's own belief system plays into whether they feel it is right or wrong to choose. I am not saying there are not moms who let their gender disappointment affect their children. There are bad moms out there is every shape and form, but most of us moms on here are learning to cope or have learned to cope with gender disappointment or desire and are here to help one another. Comments and suggestions like yours are not helpful or wanted.

Can't believe I wasted three years + of my life swaying when I could of just popped down to the 'pick up a girl' supermarket (BOGOF on Fridays!! BTW) and adopted! So cheap and simple. Apparently if you order before the 13th you get a free counselling session on how not to resent your sons.

Is this woman for Real???

I don't think she is for real.. this smells way to much of trolling to me..!

I can't speak for others but I am not having kids just to try for a girl. My plan all along was to have three kids. If I had a boy and a girl already I'd still be having a third. Now that I have two boys already, I'd love the third to be a girl so I have both genders but even if I have a third boy I am done.

I have no idea what anyone would be doing here if they did not understand GD or empathise with those suffering GD. Unless, of course they were deliberately looking to provoke an argument with people who are suffering and that seems very cruel (not to mention a waste of everybody's time). Add all the smilies you like, but posts like these come across as anything but friendly.

Everyone is entitled to their point of view and if you don't believe in GD, that is fabulous for you. Well done. Many, many brownie points for you. But until you have walked a mile in someone else's shoes, it might be best to keep judgement to yourself or at least make sure you know what you are on about. Before I embark on an argument with anyone, I like to get my facts straight so that I can contribute to the discussion with factual information and educated opinion.

As many others have said, adoption for gender is not possible in many places, costs a lot of money like HT which is also not possible in many places. And also, like HT, adoption is not something that everyone is cut out for.

Many people want to have a large family and wanting a daughter is not about not wanting your sons. I love all three of my boys (and have not ever experienced any serious GD) but wanted to the opportunity to raise the opposite gender for my fourth and final child. Regardless of those motivations or anybody else's, I do not feel the right to comment on the way people create their families. It is absolutely none of my business, or yours. I don't pay their rent/mortgage, I don't pay their school fees, I don't have to feed them. So if people want to be *crazy* and have lots of children, far be it from me to comment on their choices.

It never ceases to amaze me how many people have an opinion on what other people do. Mind your own.

I do not think adopotion can be a real altenative to GD, adoption for me is much more than this, it is a very important choice much more more important (for me) than having another child.
We have three boys and we know four would be the limit, so we decided for HT, but this doesn't mean I love my children less or I would change any of them with a baby girl!!!