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FWIW, I'm glad you started this thread, b/c it makes me feel less alone. I'm still grieving my last loss, and I've lost girls and boys both, and I still wish for a girl.
I have sadness and sorrow and longing for my dg, all at once. These things are not mutually exclusive, and I'm happy that I'm not the only one.
Harley, I don't think anyone was trying to be hurtful. I understand what you are saying but everyone here has experienced loss and I am certain nobody is trying to tell you how to feel.
Let's not escalate this. This is a sensitive topic and we all want the best for eachother. That is/was the intent of the posts, I'm certain and shouldn't be taken as a personal attack.
Loss is a very real part of life and it comes in many forms. The loss of a child is heartbreaking. I think we can all agree on that.
I know you've been on forums long enough to know if you ask people's opinions, you'll get them! I got crucified on here just the other day!!
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And your thread is a good idea.
It's just an expression, you can't tell tone reading posts.
No harm done. It's an emotional topic.
Harley, I think this forum was a great idea. It's a place for anyone TTC after one or more losses, early or late. And it should be a place where we can feel comfortable whether swaying....or not. I'm very glad you suggested it, I think it really fills a niche, and I hope everyone will be comfortable posting here no matter their TTC style. Also, I stickied this thread not because of the swaying topic, but just as a general open 'chat' thread that I assumed would evolve into other topics eventually.
I don't think anyone should feel the need to apologize for their desire for a certain gender or lack thereof. There is nothing wrong with wanting to sway and nothing wrong with not wanting to sway.
I think, also, that emotions will tend to run high and having hurt feelings and reading things differently from the way the writer intends it is just one of those things that happens on internet boards, whether here, IG, BBC, Baby&Bump, Mothering, etc etc. It happens because a lot can get lost in translation unfortunately. Feelings get hurt inadverdently.
Just the other week I got called out on a post I made, but in the end it was discussed via PM and it turns out that both of us were reading things very differently than was intended. And we were both relieved to be able to hash it out and in the end, no hard feelings. I was very glad in the end that we were able to do that.
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ANYWAY, I'm really glad you are going to O soon LP. :) How do you feel about it?
LOL, well, I hope O will hold off until I stop spotting!!! I mean if it doesn't I'll bd anyways but it might be a bit of a turnoff.....lolQuote:
Originally Posted by harleyquinn
It might very well just be my body messing with me. The OPK's haven't gotten any darker yet, so I'll see how the next few days pans out. If I do O in the next handful of days I must admit I'm really worried that such an early egg wouldn't be very healthy. :(
Still, I have read about women being super fertile up to 3 months after a m/c so I sure hope it holds true for me. Emotionally I'm ready to go again, I just hope everything will be good to go in terms of lining, egg health, hormone levels, etc. Today's OPK was just medium-ish so have to wait and see. I'd be super excited to O before next Friday, even if I couldn't keep my bfp early V-day gift that would be a pretty cool present too. :)
Oh, and I agree with you regarding diet in that we shouldn't apologize for NOT doing it. Especially if it causes undue stress and worry. I tried it, and it wasn't working out, oh well. As AS likes to remind us, plenty of women everywhere have both genders without altering their lifestyles one bit.
I actually did sway for. Girl I am 10 weeks preg at I do have a desire for a girl
I was just saying if I went through many losses I would personally throw swaying away I never told you that you should I was just saying what I would do
I don't know how much more clearly I can say it I am very sorry that I upset u although I don't think I said anything wrong
And I am nothing like the bitches on IG lol I am quite offended for how ur making me feel