Does anyone have a cut-off age for having children?

I know several people who lost their parents at young ages too, though. My niece's mom is only 22 years old and lost her mom when she was 12. My husband's dad just died at 69. My mom, stepmom, and dad are still quite healthy and capable as they approach 70. My hope is that I can give her 25 good years and then let the chips fall where they may.

I do worry about it, esp. since my daughter is my late-in-life child and I know I'm not going to probably be able to be as hands-on for her when she's having babies - but then again, I didn't get much help from my parents when I was younger because they were busy working. Since my mom retired 2 years ago she has a ton more time to do stuff with us than she ever did before.

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Originally Posted by Hopeful37

I know I'm contradicting myself in a way. When I say late 40's I just think about that child having their parent in while that child is in their 30's. and for that older parent my never get to meet his or her grand kids. I know people are living longer but it is hard to have a parent in their 80's when u are in our 30's.
my husband was a menopause child. His mom had him at 49 and she was just hoping the whole time that see will be alive to see him through high school. She is like, she is still alive at age 82 and her son is 44.
That's all I'm saying. But truly, to each it's own.

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It makes sense that your personal experience would affect your opinion so I get it. I understand your MIL's worries completely but I guess you are fortunate that he is here no matter how old his mom was when she had him!

I'm like you, I don't want kids past 30. I'm currently 25. If or when we conceive again it will be our last.

Younger ladies, I just wanted to tell you, there is a lot of living that happens after you turn 30 and you may not want to make permanent life altering decisions that you may come to regret in time. :)

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

Younger ladies, I just wanted to tell you, there is a lot of living that happens after you turn 30 and you may not want to make permanent life altering decisions that you may come to regret in time. :)

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I have had to think about that one because I seriously want abdominoplasty surgery because I dislike my saggy post twin skin pouch and highly dislike my split abs that mean my guts are not held in resulting in a belly no matter how much weight I lose.

But to do it you have to be 100 % sure you are done having kids which is why I don't think I can do it. When thinking of having my tubes tied or something I just don't think I could ever be that sure even if I got my girl next pregnancy.

I am also one without a real age cut-off. I want to live without regrets in that regard. I see my aunt deal with it regularly. She had both of her children young and they decided the were done by 25. And to this day (she is 55 now), she regrets not leaving that door open and having a third child. She adores her sons, who are now both married with kids of their own. But she still says she felt like someone was missing their whole lives, that she was meant to have another child.

So in regards to that...no. We won't do anything permanent until I hit an age when reproducing is impossible, which is fairly young in my family (early-40s is typical). We "plan" to have the four we want by the time I am 31. We wanted our kids close in age to one another, not necessarily in a certain age-span for us. If we choose another child or two in the later-30s, I want that option.

I had a cut off for 30 as well!! Unfortunately I lost my last child when I was 29 and my plan didn't go the way I hoped so I am still here waiting for my last at 30 but hopefully I will be pregnant by the time I turn 31 so maybe the last will be born in the 30th year but the way it looks it will be a few months out!! I can handle 6 months here or there lol.

I thought my cut off would be 35 but it didn't happen that way. My husband and I met when we were 19 and got married at 25 then had dd1 at 27 DD2 at 30 and just had DD3 at 36 and I didn't think I wanted four but know I would love Number 4 and I will be 38 soon. So I guess what you plan and what actually happens are two different things. I have also found that I have handled having kids better in my thirties than I did in my twenties. I have also found my two older kids are a great help and very independent. I am more relaxed and organised and enjoy them even more in my thirties. It has also been less stressfull financially. I dont't think it matters how old people are when they have kids as long as they love them to bits and pieces.

I'm almost 27 and my husband is 30. I would think I would want to be done by 35. If this next one isn't a girl we may try one more time but that's it.

I got out of law school at 25 and had my son at 29. I didn't want to go past 35 because of higher risks but I am now 36. I guess life happens when you are making other plans LOL