My husband was happy with 2 kids but I really wanted 3 and now we have 3 girls I really want one more. Im not going to sway again I will only do HT because I am already going 1 over my limit and know this will definietly be my last chance for a boy.
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My husband was happy with 2 kids but I really wanted 3 and now we have 3 girls I really want one more. Im not going to sway again I will only do HT because I am already going 1 over my limit and know this will definietly be my last chance for a boy.
Originally I only ever wanted two children, 1 girl and 1 boy. When I was pregnant the first time I knew right away it was a girl. I always knew I would have a girl first. When I got pregnant again I was so convinced DD2 was a boy. I literally had every wives tale you could think of point to boy. I also think I was in denial. When I found out DD2 was a girl it hit me hard. I was crushed. DH and I discussed again about going over our agreed number. We decided we would wait till our youngest hit kindergarten. So about 5 years. Which was perfect timing for my iud to come out. Well one year later my iud fell out! I took it as a sign that it was time to try for number 3. DD2 is now 18 months and I am 6 weeks pregnant with #3. I am very excited. I am dying to find out what this one is. I don't feel like I can truly enjoy this pregnancy till I know. If it is a third girl. I will be very sad but I will handle it. I did sway this time I and I do feel good about my sway but I am refusing to let myself get a gut feeling about what I'm having because I refuse to get my hopes up to be let down. My husband has said 3 is it. No more. I am very scared by that statement if this one is not a boy. Mainly because even though we are financially comfortable most of the time right we could not financially afford a 4th. However, we are young (I turn 26 next month and DH turns 29 next month) so if sometime in the future I financial stability grows I will be going for number 4 and going HT if number 3 is a girl. As of the moment I have already gone over my desired number to try for a boy. There are definitely financial challenges that we will face but we were willing to go forth and attempt. I think it was the best decision even with the challenges we have ahead but I am okay with that and so is DH. My suggestion is to go with what your heart tells you and not your head. I know for me personally I would have lived my life with regret if we had not tried again.
You will never regret the children you have however, you will regret the children you don't have. I always saw my family as being two children however, when child #2 was a boy I knew at the 20 week US I wanted to try again. DH was very much against having any more but over time and with a lot of tears (from me) he finally gave in and we have a DD!! I would always regret not trying for a third.
My DH and I had decided on two when we first started talking about children but as we are now TTCing our fifth baby. After having DS#2, I really wanted another baby and then when he was about two I decided I wanted to sway to try to have a girl. DH finally said yes and we both decided that he would get a vasectomy after the birth of our fourth son. He would never schedule the appointment and then he told me that wasn't sure he was ready to stop having children. Our fourth son was the only one of the four that he had gotten to be with during the entire pregnancy and and birth through infancy. He was deployed or training with the other three during most of there infancy.
So we started talking seriously about having another baby and he said he wasn't sure and then decided that he really wanted to try one more time for a little girl. Agreeing to take the supplements and anything else I asked of him. We asked our boys what they thought of having another sibling and they were okay with it so we are now in our second month of TTC. We are all hoping and praying for a little girl. :)
Hope you get your little girl!! XXXQuote:
Originally Posted by hoping4agirl2014
Thank you pebmcp6. I hope your birth is smooth and quick. :)
Just lately I have been feeling quite at peace with the thought of another boy and even though I'd prefer a girl so much, I just want a number 4 baby. I guess that makes 4 my new number but not sure whether or not I would be willing to go over that! Time will tell but hopefully I will not have to ponder that thought. I love pregnancy and always wanted three kids and part of me feels that by having twins one of my pregnancies was taken from me