Majority of my Team Green people I know have had boys .... but then gone onto have girls.
I'm definitely not crunchy, nowhere near, and yet I'm a boy maker!
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Majority of my Team Green people I know have had boys .... but then gone onto have girls.
I'm definitely not crunchy, nowhere near, and yet I'm a boy maker!
I don't know what the official crunchy definition is but I agree. I can do parts of crunchy like extended breastfeeding, bed sharing and even a bit of baby wearing but I seriously don't have any desire to do cloth nappies, crusty underpants from badly wiped bums are bad enough.Quote:
Originally Posted by 1+2+3boys
Organic food? Nah! Too cheap to pay for stuff that goes rotten quicker, deacon breastfeeding them set them up well enough. Have lots of respect for those who choose that path, but not my style
I always just lumped crunchy as anything that was "more" natural than the alternative. Like breastfeeding is "more" natural than formula. Organic meat is "more" natural than not. Sort of like test-of-time stuff, if they did it in 1800s it was prolly crunchy. But that is my rudimentary definition to keep it categorized in my brain. Lol. I do think it encompasses both Eco and AP methods. Simply for the "natural" aspects. But they really need some new terms. They all suck. (BTW: I love cloth diapers!! Haha.)
I would be interested in a study on the stats of gender in "crunchy" moms. If there is a variance in expected outcomes. Or if it's just what I see (much like there are more boys here, period, evidenced in class rosters).
I just hear it called team green often. Yellow works. White works. I never want to call them surprise babies though...because to ME a surprise baby is an unplanned pregnancy. Whichever way you wanna slice it...
How Crunchy Are you?
I found this 'How crunchy are you?" survey just for fun and scored 103 so pretty in the middle. I looked online for a definition but they are all pretty different and or broad
Almost everyone I know finds out. I only know two couples--both crunchy--who stayed green. The one just had their first, a boy. The other had a boy and then a girl. Staying green actually made me much, much less happy for the BG couple than I might have been because it increased my perception that they float through life on a smug little fartcloud of breezy entitlement. I'm already not happy for pigeon pair families (sorry) but imagining their happiness made me seethe. I guess it's because they assumed the sex would be a wonderful surprise, and it was. I found out so I would know which names to focus on and because I always want to know as much as possible--I can't even think of a situation where I have chosen to know less or know later about anything in life, period. My husband and I have another issue (which we don't discuss with people we know) which is that he had a sibling who died before he was born who had a genetic disorder with an intersex condition and ambiguous genitalia. Biologically this sibling was XY but it was the 70s when the solution to many intersex conditions was to have surgery and raise them as girls so in his family this biological brother is always referred to as his sister and they always say "she." It's so very rare and caused by a spontaneous mutation so it's not something we actively worry about but we also never even considered not finding out the sex. I just don't assume the sex of my child will be a "wonderful surprise."Quote:
Originally Posted by Minky
Great quiz 1+2+3boys! I scored 127, but found some questions a bit too limited with the answers. I'd never even heard of the term 'crunchy' before this thread started, but I always belonged in the 'other' camp at toddler groups!! Now I'm so much further into that other camp! Btw at all the home-ed groups we attend most have mixed-gender families so although we're seen as alternative there isn't a trend towards boy-mums being more 'crunchy' there at all.
Sorry, that post makes me sound like I have a huge chip on my shoulder about staying green and I generally don't. It's just that the intersex condition isn't something I can explain to people and I kept getting a whiff of superiority from the wife in this couple over being team green. I eat/feed my kids natural foods, breastfed (but not exclusively) and did cloth diapering but I'm not crunchy, by the way.
It annoys me if people try to make you feel bad for finding out, there are still so many surprises like what baby looks like etc. I am sure if I do go team green for our last one I will get some negative comments too. I have felt like people who have had surprises seem to be 'rewarded' with the opposite gender but that is just me of coarse and I do not know many people who go team green these days.
I would so love to try cloth but I struggle enough keeping up with the washing and I have two babies so twice the loads!
Holy crud that quiz said I was super nutty! Lol. I got 145. Apparently it believes I am more crunchy than I do! Lol.
It's funny, I never have heard negativity toward team green. I guess I can see it though. I just have liked knowing from a loss perspective. We lost 4 babies (all first tri) and I always am paranoid thru the whole pregnancy that we may lose the baby. And I think "knowing" things about them helps me attach and stop holding the pregnancy at arm reach. But I do want to experience team green. I think both ways are totally fine. But I don't get too worked up no matter what parenting choices someone makes, I am pretty easy-going.
95, a bit crunchy but not too crunchy.