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We circumcised my son because my husband wanted his son to look like him. Seems like a superficial reason now. I had never thought twice about it; we live in a fairly conservative place, and I think it is the norm here. But my son had a TON of issues with his circumcision; the skin kept trying to re-adhere, and it was so painful for him when I had to pull the skin apart. :( If I had known that ahead of time, I wouldn't have done it!
My husband is circ, and I won't do it if we have a son, unless it is medically neccessary.
Oh my gosh this is all such amazing information!!! I still am confused though. I feel like it is unnecessary but at the same time I don't know anything else (never been with an intact man) so I guess the thought of having an intact child kind of scares me? Man this is a hard decision. I feel like I am the only one who is struggling this much with the decision...
I don't think they even do it down here unless it is deemed a medical reason. Because hubby is or isnt done is not a valid reason to many drs down here.
Wow... This has opened my eyes!! In the UK unless there is a medical problem or for religious beliefs this is just not even considered. I have never even thought about it lol... All my boys have their foreskin.
I found this interesting link about the percentages of circumcision for different countries.
http://www.circinfo.net/rates_of_circumcision.html
That was very interesting... so me being in the US I guess it just seemed a little more normal. The fact that my maternal grandpa and peternal great grandparents were Jewish it just seemed like the thing for us to do.Quote:
Originally Posted by 3boys
I have been with only one intacted man and it just wasn't for me... But I guess if you really think about that is no reason to circ because ours sons will find partners that will like them the way they are!Quote:
Originally Posted by Roonarpia
Take your time deciding because you do still have time. My boys were circ at 8 days old, sometimes I do wish I hadn't and other times I am ok with it. It is a big decision so you and hubby do reading from all view points and decide together. Make a list of pros and cons. Talk about your feelings on it. Stay calm and listen to what the other person has to say. And don't listen to other family (IL's, parents, siblings, or whoever) because in the end the parent is the one that decides.
Maybe wait until he is born and decide for sure? Honestly, I was all for it, and then when my son was taken away to have it done, I started crying (he was one day old) because I didn't want them cutting into his tiny little body. But afterwards I was fine with our decision, until he started having issues. In hindsight, I wish I had told the doctor not to do it!
My hubby and I talked about it again and neither of us feel like we could stand to be in the room. I literally think my husband will pass out. Is that a good enough reason to say that we will not do it? Or is that a stupid excuse and one of us should man up? (most likely me lol)
If you are not able to be in the room that is fine... if you do have it done maybe be close enough to the room to hold him right away. If you are bfing then nurse him right away.
I choice to be in the room and honestly I understand why some parents don't want to go. As long as you talk to them before and know what method they will be using then that should be fine.
You still have sometime to decide and it should be thought about up until delivery. Find out where it will be done. Some people have it done in the hospital but from people I have talked to it is better to wait until after 5 days old so your baby can nurse and bond well with you. It makes the "after" nurseing better because the baby will calm down faster. Our peds dr did it (a male dr) and he said that a baby recovers faster and without infection if they are 5-7 days old.
Of course I was afraid of infections so I changed the guaze and neospren every 2hrs or every diaper change. Very easy to do prep before to make for a fast diaper change. We also used a larger diaper size to allow for less pressure on the area.